Money Moral Dilemma: Should I pay my sister half the money our deceased father gave me?

Misha96

pragmatism said:

Grieving the recent loss of a parent has a major impact on family members and family relationship dynamics. It is generally recommended that those affected do not make big decisions relating to finances etc for a year at least. This issue falls within that rubric. Once the estate is settled grieving will really progress then and depending on the circumstances of death can take up to three years. Personally, I would place the £15,000 into an account somewhere for 2-3 years and then have a good think about the whole issue in the light of passage of time/ shifts in relationships and discuss with sister as appropriate before making final decision as to how £15 000 and any accrued interest be disposed of. 

I think your suggestion shows great  wisdom. Probate and estate administration are only a phase in grief and shifts in family dynamics. I still hold that the OP has no moral obligation through she may want to make a gift. 

Jemma01

Misha96 said:

There is a common assumption that the only proper way to divide an estate is equally. If the testator does anything else it's somehow "unfair .

Where I to make uneven  gifts in life or by  way of my Will that's my legal right. The thought of people moaning after my death and a slightly larger beneficiary being told of their "moral  obligation to share is troubling. 

The OP has no moral obligation to her sister. If anything, it is immoral not to uphold her father's legal decisions.

Exactly, I find it even more troubling that adults think they're entitled to other adults money, because they happen to be their children! I'm sorry, but my parents in their life are free to do whatever they want with their money, they owe no one anything, once you're over 18, you're too old to expect anything from your parents, if they gift you willingly, great, if they don't, their money their choice. I can't imagine if I had children that they think they're entitled to my money!! i can't imagine the audacity of questioning my dad's spendings just like I can't imagine anyone questioning my spendings. Parents don't owe you fairness in how they spend their money, it is THEIR money. It's like I can't gift my sister/neice/nephew anything without having to spend the same on my other sister/niece/nephew. Give us a break.