Sealed Pot Challenge ~ 19

ThriftyPrincess40

I’m hoping to get back in to potting once I start getting an income again, I’m having to scrape all my change for a carton of milk 🤦🏻‍♀️ the after effects of domestic and economic abuse are challenging 😫 fingers crossed things pick up

Sue-UU

• Hi all SP Potters! I hope you've all enjoyed a lovely Saturday and will thoroughly enjoy a beautiful Sunday!!
  I hope everyone is healthy and not feeling low in spirits. Meanwhile, get well soon, but or now, love from us all at SPC ❤️

Oh my word ThriftyPrincess40!! 😰 How very, very sad for you to have endured such evil carryins on from such an abusive partner, even to the extent where, I presume, he must have practically robbed you of your wages or any other money you had!! 😡 I'm so terribly sorry for all you must have been through, what a life to have lived through, I just don't understand how people like that can even think of doing such evil things, let alone carry them out!! I've never heard of the economic abuse before, but if they're evil enough to commit domestic abuse, then I suppose they're capable of almost anything!! 😡😡

I dearly hope you have family and friends to help you through these horrific ordeals, if not do use your nearest and dearest to help you through. You're quite welcome to PM me. Much love and hugs, Sue. ❤️

I quite agree with you Ant, we're all part a wonderful group of people here on SPC, and even if they're unable to sympathise as they've not experienced whatever it is, they can definitely empathise because we can all use our imaginations.As you so rightly said, grief is part of life. 

It was our much-loved friend's funeral on Tuesday, it was extremely windy and pouring with rain. A lovely natural service and burial, we walked through 3 large, bare fields (no headstones allowed). We were all drenched when we got back, but it was all so very worth it. Half way back across the fields, I turned to look back at the grave and it felt so cruel leaving her there especially as she hated sweeping rain. However, she adored all flowers so I consoled myself with the fact that without rain the flowers would soon wither and die. 
Very well done with your 11p in W...rose, like you it's a shop we barely go to, but we took our DD for her 6 monthly MRI for her MS and afterwards went to W...rose for some shopping, but no such luck with any dropped cash. 🙄 Just a tip though, we had a cream slice from the fridge dept there and it was nothing like we'd ever had before and would never have from there again! 😕

To follow on from your last paragraph, it's very true that tough times don't last forever, and when experiencing grey clouds look out for the blue ones which follow on behind.

Very well done with your £9 LMD!!

Very well done Vicky, however much it is it all adds up!

So very pleased you enjoyed your time in London Siju, your experience of it this time round sounds like our DD and her DH was much the same when they went to see Starlight Express last week for the 3rd time, thoroughly enjoyable and London wasn't too busy, plus they went by train.Good for you with your £5!

£20 transferred from our account to the SPC one. 

Enjoy a really beautiful Sunday folks!

• Sue
• Declaration Day for SPC 19 is October 22nd.............BEFORE --- BUT NO……LATER, please!
• If anyone would like to join us, please just ask at anytime and you will be made very welcome

Tattypud

Managed to pot 72p this weekend from loose change.

AntoMac

Going back to the awful subject of domestic abuse @ThriftyPrincess40

A lovely work colleague of mine went through a terrible time with domestic abuse. She found Women’s Aid enormously helpful. I strongly suspect you may have tried them anyway, but just thought worth mentioning. My colleague is so much better now, having also benefitted from counselling. There is hope for better times ahead for you. The big plus is that you are hopefully free from the relationship now. It shocks and upsets me how often this sort of thing happens. I just don’t understand how anyone could do that to another person. My work colleague is such a lovely kind ray of sunshine who would not hurt a fly. I’m trying to say that in time things will get better. On the back of Sue’s kind offer you are also welcome to PM me. Noone should have to go through this kind of living hell alone.

As for the funeral @Sue-UU well it certainly sounds memorable if not exactly perfect! You were there for your friend till the end and I’m sure she’ll have a special place in your heart for the rest of your days. Randomly I’ve down your old neck of the woods today, driving through Ringwood and such places. Lovely part of the world and it looked even lovelier in the spring sunshine.

Oh, and actual potting… I’m still doing a bit of that regularly!

ThriftyPrincess40

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/81969305#Comment_81969305

It’s been horrendous and still is but I have good support and your understanding means a lot 💕 he’s still causing me issues in the family courts, but I’m getting stronger and better at coping. I’ve accepted no home, no heating, laundry at others and no hot water but I’ll be honest I have extreme days where I can’t see anyway out from him and nearly jump. I’ve a good mental health team, IDVA and stalking advocate that keep me breathing ❤️ As I’ve seen on a post elsewhere: “if you’re breathing, there’s hope”

ThriftyPrincess40

Thank you and thank you both, I’ll take you up on the support 💕 it was Womens Aid that gave me a safety plan when I wasn’t ready to leave and then a plan for leaving. My IDVA and stalking advocate are WomensAid as I found the local contracted IDVA service not very helpful especially in their understanding why I couldn’t leave and then trying to get back on my feet after. He had my wage, the house (not safe to stay) and worse my soul. But I found it again recently along with more strength. I had to wait until criminal court (where even the judge said I’d been silenced) for trauma therapy and due to start. He’s still controlling and abusing through the family courts which makes it hard to heal and recover but I’ve come along way to when I fled him 3 years ago. I’m just hoping for a miracle that he’ll leave me be.

siju

Oh @ThriftyPrincess40 I'm so sad to hear that you have had to endure so much and I cannot contemplate what you must have been through. As @Sue-UU says, I do not understand how anyone can think of treating another person in this way. As @AntoMac says, better days are on the horizon 💕

Sending love to you Sue following your dear friend's funeral. I hope you and T are OK after your soaking 😘

AntoMac

I hope you will still post with us @ThriftyPrincess40 even if you’re currently unable to do any potting. The lovely @Sue-UU has built a really welcoming, friendly and supportive group with the Sealed Pot Challenges.
My work colleague is still battling the courts etc too, but the biggest step was physically getting away from her manipulative abuser. He totally messed her mind and way of thinking up and I expect similar happened to you. I had no idea she had anything like this going on in her life. We were working in different teams and what with hybrid working arrangements and the like, she just seemed to be her usual happy go lucky self to me. I was so shocked when I found out what she was going through.
Keep going and please don’t ever think you’re not good enough just because of the cruelty this sick individual has inflicted upon you.

ThriftyPrincess40

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/81970808#Comment_81970808

I feel for your colleague, send her a survivor hug from me💕 I thought the hardest part was leaving, it’s not, it’s after. I didn’t know which way was up and was totally lost without my puppeteer. Your colleague has likely been masking, I did it for so long but I was lucky two very clued up colleagues spotted the signs, intervened and supported me in getting out with WomensAid and their support continues.
I’ll certainly still post, it helps to see how well others are doing and fills me with abit of positivity. As you and Sue say better days are on the horizon 🤞

AntoMac

Another £3 potted today. Suddenly we’re just about halfway through the challenge 😮