Complete candour here. The experience of selling a house has made me suicidal.

lincroft1710

What sort of a boat that you can live on can you get for £500???


Don't forget you will have to pay mooring fees or if you moor for too long in a particular spot the waterway authority will move you on and most waterways require boat owners to pay an annual licence fee.

ShinyStarlight1

tenzin_2 said:

Not stressed, depressed, frustrated, angry, but suicidal. I am suicidal. 

On Tuesday when the house auction ended with one bid, which was then pulled by the buyer. When I received the message from the well known auctioneer, I was on a train. I rang my brother, who burst out into laughter. I hung up on him, and I was like my body went into autopilot. I just got off the train, and waited for the next train to pull in with every intention of stepping in front of it. 

I have been treated like a stupid c*nt by each and every EA, members of the converancing team, and the staff at this auction site. 

This is all I think about about every second of every day. I have spent thousands getting the house prepared. New electrical everything.  Asked my wealthy brother to  help with the costs, he refused, he said, wait till the house is sold, then we can divide it up. I am on benefits, my savings are gone, I am now in in £8000 of debt.
 The auction company dropped the price after being told explicitly not to. I had 40 viewings of the house. It’s a huge house with a detached garage. It is worth at least £360,000. They dropped it to £275000. One bid. And they pulled out.  The EA explicitly told me the system was no win no fee. What he didn’t tell me was what happens if you try to leave the contract. I have given them the 21 days written withdrawal. But guess what? Anyone the EA has introduced to the house, and their relatives or associates cannot buy the house for 12 months. Not that I met any of them. I was never present during any viewings.  So they have advertised the house again, dropped the price again.  Spoke to the auction guy, empty promises. I know I’m going to get screwed again on Friday. 
I was the sole carer for my dad until he died in 2024. My brother and daughter did nothing. The last weeks of his life were terrible. I was awake sometimes for 26 hours straight until the DN gave him sleeping meds. I did the Bereavement tax and Probate with help on the pages of this forum, and I so grateful for that. We could not afford a solicitor or their bs. And of course my family left it for me to get on with. But this selling of a house has broken me. It has truly broken me. 

After my brother mocked me like that I just did not want to live anymore. I have truly had enough. My dream of getting away from this sh*thole of a town I live in is gone. I knew I would never have enough to buy a flat. But I just want to spend the last few years of my life alone, away from here in this death house. 

Yesterday my brother walked into the house like nothing had happened and I screamed hysterically at him. When he refused to leave I called 999. That scared him, and he left. I can’t remember what I said to him but it was along the lines of I am absolutely done with you. I have never had an outburst like that with anyone ever. I will NEVER speak to him again. He’s always been nasty. 

I just want this house gone. I just want it gone. 

I’m so sorry for everything you have been through. 

Looking after a dying parent is emotionally, physically, and psychologically demanding.

Their death can be shocking, and the grief that follows can be overwhelming and disorientating. 

Having then to deal with all the paperwork involved in probate etc can be exhausting. Particularly if you don’t feel you’re getting the support you need or acknowledgement for the struggle you feel.

You have done so much and it’s time now for you to get some support. You deserve to rest and to share the weight of all these responsibilities. People posting on here have good suggestions - use any or all of them.

You are not alone.