Complete candour here. The experience of selling a house has made me suicidal.

GDB2222

You sound completely overwhelmed. It will probably help to talk things over, and the Samaritans are great at that. 

I’m not sure if you want practical help on how to sell the house, but this forum can be pretty helpful. 

tenzin_2

sheramber said:

What feedback have you been given from the 40 viewers as to why they didn’t put an offer in?

Especialky someone who viewed it 5 times. 

No feedback at all.  The 5 times  guy owns 40 properties, mostly terraced houses with rents between, £1000/ £1200 per month.. Probably too big for him. 

I used the garage as a utility room. Washer and dryer and a huge chest freezer. Little colour portable TV with a coat hanger aerial.   Happy days! 

tenzin_2

GDB2222 said:

You sound completely overwhelmed. It will probably help to talk things over, and the Samaritans are great at that. 

I’m not sure if you want practical help on how to sell the house, but this forum can be pretty helpful. 

 I want to someone to recommend someone who will sell my house quickly. A proper Estate agents, not filled with kids in ill fitting suits and Gucci loafers who tell lies. These are not professional people. I would bet that none of them I have encountered will be in this profession ten years from now.
In Martin Lewis’s book about buying and selling houses. It actually says you are not allowed to bribe an EA, but you are allowed to incentivise them. I have absolutely no idea who they are working to help, if not themselves? I thought solicitors were bad, 

Tabieth

Please contact the Samaritans. You sound like you are in crisis and your mental health is the priority. Get help and support, worry about the house at a later date. Good luck and take care. 

youth_leader

I am so sorry you are feeling so bad.  I often ring the Samaritans, it does help even though they are not able to give advice, they listen and they are always there on 116 123. 

deannagone

I googled 'combination Venlafaxine, Mirtrazapine and diazapam'.  I suggest you do the same and then have a conversation with your GP.  I left hospital with two very iffy antidepressants.  I had been depressed but that was because the nursing and medical staff were totally awful, even the way they spoke to me.  I went in with septicaemia and pneumonia.  Came out hardly able to walk, with 'depression'.., and PTSD.  Doctors don't always get medication right.  But don't suddenly stop taking the medication, it will need to be reduced gradually if that's what you decide. 

You have been through an awful time, I wish there was more I could do to help.  Just remember, you have been through the worst, and managed to keep going with a situation that was as awful as it could be.  That takes an awful lot of strength even if you don't feel strong right now. 

Think about if you really want to die, or if you want the pain to end. I suspect you want the pain to end.  I was in a long term abusive relationship with other things going on.., I got exhausted and suicidal, wanted the pain to end eventually found other ways to cope, ways that really helped.  Destruction wasn't necessary.  Now if I get down, I know with certainty that it will pass.  Personally, I agree that talking to samaritans is helpful.  

The best advice I got when I was a bit down, was do something that gives you pleasure.  Whatever it is. It may be going for a walk, listening to music, doing anything you find pleasurable.  I watched the whole of "Touched By An Angel".  Knew it was fantasy but for three weeks I lived in a world where there was hope of goodness happening.  Each to their own lol!  Just remember what you like doing and do it.  Give yourself a treat (obviously you don't need to spend money to give yourself a treat lol).  You most definitely deserve it x x x 

I hope something in this helps.

RAS

tenzin_2 said:

 I want to someone to recommend someone who will sell my house quickly. A proper Estate agents, not filled with kids in ill fitting suits and Gucci loafers who tell lies. These are not professional people. I would bet that none of them I have encountered will be in this profession ten years from now.
In Martin Lewis’s book about buying and selling houses. It actually says you are not allowed to bribe an EA, but you are allowed to incentivise them. I have absolutely no idea who they are working to help, if not themselves? I thought solicitors were bad, 

tenzin_2

Hope you are feeling a bit better this morning? Have you spoken to anyone?

One of the basic problems with estate agency, as artful so often explains, is that NO qualifications are required to be an estate agent. Estate agencies have to be members of one of the schemes that's supposed to weed out duds but don't seem to be very effective. The ones you've used will be members of one or other scheme and you can formally complain but frankly you need your energy to deal with the more important matters right now.

On a practical note, you should not be paying for the utilities of the house you are selling. Those are the responsibility of the estate. So you put the accounts into the name of "estate of mum" and they will just wait until the house is sold The fact you administer the estate does not make you liable.

It would really help if you could explain what why you think you are going to be screwed again on Friday, please? Unless we understand we can't help.

There's a certain amount in your other comments that also needs unpacking but let's start with the Friday situation.

tenzin_2

The  auction house has relisted the property because my 21 day withdrawal  letter doesn’t come into effect until July 1st. Friday is the next new end of auction day. The house won’t sell. 

Still leaves 10 days until withdrawal day.

Then that’s when the !!!!!! really hits the fan.

I can’t sell the house to anyone who has either viewed the house, been introduced to it, by them or their agents, AND, THE EVEN BETTER PART. *A connected person is defined as a relative, ie brother or sister, ancestor, or linear descendant of either the registered viewer, bidder or the spouse or the civil partner of the registered viewer/bidder.  This is for a period of 12 months.
A f*cking ancester???   

housebuyer143

tenzin_2 said:

The  auction house has relisted the property because my 21 day withdrawal  letter doesn’t come into effect until July 1st. Friday is the next new end of auction day. The house won’t sell. 

Still leaves 10 days until withdrawal day.

Then that’s when the !!!!!! really hits the fan.

I can’t sell the house to anyone who has either viewed the house, been introduced to it, by them or their agents, AND, THE EVEN BETTER PART. *A connected person is defined as a relative, ie brother or sister, ancestor, or linear descendant of either the registered viewer, bidder or the spouse or the civil partner of the registered viewer/bidder.  This is for a period of 12 months.
A f*cking ancester???   

This is standard wording for all agents. You can definitely sell it to someone they introduced later but you might have to pay their fees. 

List it via a traditional auction and it should hopefully sell quickly 

whizzywoo

We withdrew our house from the modern method of auction.  
And found a new local Estate Agents.  None of the people who viewed via the Auction Company showed any further interest in the house when it was with a new Estate Agents.  All new viewers.

It was still very very frustrating and we were extremely depressed before it eventually sold 12 months later.

It fell through 3 times, firstly to someone who was going to refurbish it but gave backward two weeks later.

FTBs who got cold feet just before an Exchange date was fixed.

Third buyer was due to exchange and complete and the same day.  Nobody could get hold of him - unfortunately for us and him, he was in hospital after having a major heart attack.  He withdrew because of his health problems.

Eventually sold to cash buyers who didn't bother with searches and it took only 3 weeks from offer to completion. 

We did reduce the price substantially as we just needed it to be gone.  We had no mortgage or debt.  We had moved out several months earlier when we thought the FTB's were going to buy it.  We moved into temporary accommodation with family.  We are now in the process of buying a lovely new build house for cash and should complete in the next couple of weeks.

Walk away from the Modern Method of Auction.  They are con merchants.  You will feel tons better when the 21 days are up.  Block them from ringing you, that's what we had to do.  Take a few weeks to get back onto an even keel.  Then start again with a traditional local estate agents, not one of the countrywide chains.

Best of luck.