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ladyholly

I am sorry you are having a tough time at home and work. OHs can be challenging with their hoarding. Is there any way you can clear a small space somewhere just for you?

jwil

ladyholly said:

I am sorry you are having a tough time at home and work. OHs can be challenging with their hoarding. Is there any way you can clear a small space somewhere just for you?

Thank you, yes they are challenging.  There's nowhere to put the stuff.  The place where I work out the back (and sit most of the time as well, is the closest I have, but it's still stacked high with boxes. It's this area I'd most like to clear (and the front room for when people come round).

jwil

PAD (Payment a Day)

Today's PAD - £2

Jan - £129
Feb - £63
Mar - £103
Apr - £149
May - £79
June - £36

jwil

And it's the start of another week.  Mine seems to be fairly quiet (at the moment) with a day at a conference on Wednesday so hopefully it will be easier.  I sat down last night and made a list of all the positives about my job to try and counteract the negative feelings and it did help a bit.

• I like my colleagues
• I earn enough for us to live on, and combined with DH's wages, we can do some extras too.
• Compressed hours means I get Fridays off with no loss of pay
• Because I have stayed where I am so long, my pension is going to be enough, and even if I left today, and took my pension at the earliest point, allowing for reductions, I'd still have an income that is enough to supplement my state pension nicely, and I would only have to work a few hours a week until state pension to have enough to live on.  Obviously this position improves every day I stay there, and I have a date fixed in my head which is the point at which I plan to 'retire'.
• Barring business need, I can choose whether I go into the office or WFH
• Flexi time
• Flexibility if I have to leave for a poorly child, go to a school event etc.
• I can walk to the office so no need for a lengthy commute

So the work might be tough and pressured, and it might be difficult to get things done and completed, but the non work benefits are high and I should try and remember that, because the grass isn't always greener.

NeverendingDMP

jwil said:

And it's the start of another week.  Mine seems to be fairly quiet (at the moment) with a day at a conference on Wednesday so hopefully it will be easier.  I sat down last night and made a list of all the positives about my job to try and counteract the negative feelings and it did help a bit.

• I like my colleagues
• I earn enough for us to live on, and combined with DH's wages, we can do some extras too.
• Compressed hours means I get Fridays off with no loss of pay
• Because I have stayed where I am so long, my pension is going to be enough, and even if I left today, and took my pension at the earliest point, allowing for reductions, I'd still have an income that is enough to supplement my state pension nicely, and I would only have to work a few hours a week until state pension to have enough to live on.  Obviously this position improves every day I stay there, and I have a date fixed in my head which is the point at which I plan to 'retire'.
• Barring business need, I can choose whether I go into the office or WFH
• Flexi time
• Flexibility if I have to leave for a poorly child, go to a school event etc.
• I can walk to the office so no need for a lengthy commute

So the work might be tough and pressured, and it might be difficult to get things done and completed, but the non work benefits are high and I should try and remember that, because the grass isn't always greener.

Sorry everything is a bit rough at the moment. Writing the positives down is a good idea but I also reckon you are feeling the brunt of the restructure as well as the treadmill of parenting and general life. I hope the week stays quieter so you can have some space from it all. I hope you get the chance to take some you time and time to relax. Easier said than done with sensory overload from boxes and piles of stuff. And scary stuff about the beaches. I darent look at the ones near us. They don't even look clean so I dread to think how they would do in the app/website you have been on. 

jwil

NeverendingDMP said:

jwil said:

And it's the start of another week.  Mine seems to be fairly quiet (at the moment) with a day at a conference on Wednesday so hopefully it will be easier.  I sat down last night and made a list of all the positives about my job to try and counteract the negative feelings and it did help a bit.

• I like my colleagues
• I earn enough for us to live on, and combined with DH's wages, we can do some extras too.
• Compressed hours means I get Fridays off with no loss of pay
• Because I have stayed where I am so long, my pension is going to be enough, and even if I left today, and took my pension at the earliest point, allowing for reductions, I'd still have an income that is enough to supplement my state pension nicely, and I would only have to work a few hours a week until state pension to have enough to live on.  Obviously this position improves every day I stay there, and I have a date fixed in my head which is the point at which I plan to 'retire'.
• Barring business need, I can choose whether I go into the office or WFH
• Flexi time
• Flexibility if I have to leave for a poorly child, go to a school event etc.
• I can walk to the office so no need for a lengthy commute

So the work might be tough and pressured, and it might be difficult to get things done and completed, but the non work benefits are high and I should try and remember that, because the grass isn't always greener.

Sorry everything is a bit rough at the moment. Writing the positives down is a good idea but I also reckon you are feeling the brunt of the restructure as well as the treadmill of parenting and general life. I hope the week stays quieter so you can have some space from it all. I hope you get the chance to take some you time and time to relax. Easier said than done with sensory overload from boxes and piles of stuff. And scary stuff about the beaches. I darent look at the ones near us. They don't even look clean so I dread to think how they would do in the app/website you have been on. 

Thank you   Yes I think there's just been so much going on, it's all overwhelming.

There are several beaches nearby where I don't mind heading to the place, but there's no way we're going in the water at any time!

jwil

It's been nice having a meeting-free day today, and it makes a change!  I've been given a load of new work though so swings and roundabouts 😆. It does sound like they might be realising that they've cut us back too far, so there might be some hope in the future.

DH sold two items today but only one posted, as the other item has sold for the second time, and the buyer has cancelled on both occasions.

I got home from taking little miss this morning, and little jwil turned up unexpectedly all upset.  I had forgotten to top up his lunch account and he'd run out of data so couldn't get in touch with me. I did calm him down and top up his lunch and phone, and then dropped him back down to school.  I forgot to send little miss with lunch on Friday and now this too (the phone isn't my fault, he could have told me he was running out of data).  It just demonstrates that I am dropping the ball at the moment, so I need to try and get more organised.  I have also reminded them all that I don't need to be doing their thinking for them, and they need to help me out.

NeverendingDMP

Another one here who had to do the drop a dinner off routine. .....Also a child wearing trainers as the lace snapped and I haven't had time... Amongst many other things. You are not alone. 

ladyholly

jwil  DH sold two items today but only one posted, as the other item has sold for the second time, and the buyer has cancelled on both occasions.

People are so rude doing that. I hoped you have blocked the offenders.

Dont beat yourself up about forgotten lunches etc. You have an awful lot on your plate and little jwil is certainly old enough to be responsible for checking his data and lunch account. You are human not superwoman.

doingitanyway

Lots of positives there and great news about your retirement income