Need to stop spending and chasing dopamine!

Pink_Butterfly

Well the cheapest quote OH got for fixing my car was £720.00 😬 My colleague has already transferred it into my account even though it’s not getting done for another 3 weeks. Bless her. I checked in with her yesterday to make sure she was ok when we were both in the office and she told me her boiler had broken too 😭 Poor woman, I feel so bad for her. She offered to pay for any taxis I may need while my car is being fixed as it’s going to take 3 days to fix and she doesn’t want to go through insurance as she’s a new driver, so her insurance is already a lot, but I told her not to worry. My parents have a car that rarely gets used so I can use that.

The carpet for DSD’s new bedroom is being done next week. The conversion was meant to have been completed by yesterday but it’ll definitely be another few days before it’s done. OH has been finding new homes for everything and his house is slowly becoming more like a house again rather than a building site 🙂

I had sore muscles yesterday from the body pump class but I went for a nice walk at lunchtime with some colleagues which eased the soreness 😁 It was nice to get out to be honest.

Today I’m working from home so will take the girls to school and then come back to work here for the day. One of my friends is coming over tonight for a catch up which should be nice as I’ve not seen her in a while. I’ve got 5 friends coming over this weekend too for a girls night, as it’s the last time I can have them all over before I move 🥹 It’s getting real now!

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I’ll cut to the chase. My solicitors e-mailed me yesterday saying I had to pay money to the managing agents and the freeholder for the sales management pack and other documents. The cost? £972.00!!!!!! 😭😭😭😭 Absolute daylight robbery. I have requested a money transfer from Barclaycard to pay for it as I don’t have much choice and will pay once it comes through. Sigh.

Could be worse I suppose - every time the solicitors e-mail me I worry it’s them saying the buyer has pulled out so I’m thankful it’s not that!

It was nice seeing my friend last night. We were chatting for over 3 hours so I was pretty tired by the time she left.

OH is back at work tonight so he’s at his house sleeping and I plan to do not a lot. I’ll catch up on my favourite TV programme as I’m a bit behind and then it’ll be an early night I think! Work was really busy today so I’m exhausted 😴

Pink_Butterfly

Eeeeek 😬 a week without an update!

Flat update… Help To Buy have processed my application and have sent my solicitors the legal pack. The freeholder has also e-mailed the pre-sale information pack to my solicitors, however the managing agents have said they won’t be able to send their sales management pack until 9th February. I tried to pay extra to have them send it quicker but they couldn’t do it. So that was disappointing, but never mind. I’ve asked my solicitors if the sales management pack is all they need from my side before we exchange contracts but they’ve not replied yet. It’s been almost 10 weeks since I instructed them to start the conveyancing so I’m hoping we are near the end now, though I appreciate Christmas may have slowed things down.

My friend wants my fridge/freezer & washing machine but I’m waiting for the buyer to confirm if she wants them, as well as my sofa, armchair, dining table and dining chairs. Hopefully I’ll know either way next week 🙂

Money update…. Skinto 🤣🤣 I can’t wait to be paid! I have less than £100 in my account. Luckily my child benefit will be paid in soon. I won’t be claiming that for much longer - I’m going to stop claiming when I move in. This weekend I’m going to try and sell my slow cooker, microwave, and anything else I won’t need.

OH’s house is looking much better. The garage conversion is almost done and should be finished in 3 days time. The fitted wardrobes are being delivered on the same day and will take 2-3 days to install. It still doesn’t feel real that I’m almost one week away from moving in!

I feel like I’m a bit fed up with my job at the moment. I’m sure it’s just a phase though. At least it’s the weekend now so I can forget about it for a while! It’s just been quite intense recently, and a couple of colleagues are not pulling their weight which is frustrating.

I’ve not seen OH for 4 days which isn’t like us but we’ve both been so busy. I’ll hopefully see him tomorrow but DD2 is out all morning at her performing arts class, and then I told my brother I’d see him & my nephew in the afternoon, so we may not have time. It’s just one of those things but it won’t be like this for much longer! He kindly took me out to one of my favourite restaurants the last time I saw him as I wasn’t having a great day, bless him. He knows how to cheer me up 🙂 I felt like a piglet though, as the day before I’d been out for a carvery with my mum, and the day before that I had my friends over for a Chinese takeaway 🤣🐷🐷

DD2 is in the thick of SATS prep bless her but she’s doing really well. She got 40/40 in her mental arithmetic test the other day which is amazing. She loves her maths 😁 DD1 is doing really well in school too. Her school has gone downhill recently which is a shame but it doesn’t seem to be affecting her. I’m keeping a close eye though! The Principal left suddenly over the summer holidays and since then it’s not been great.

OH is currently asleep but he’ll be up in around 2 hours time to go to work. Luckily he’s off for 2 nights after tonight. He got told that he was the number 1 driver in December out of over 4,500 drivers 🙂 So proud of him. He works very hard and is good at his job 😊

Tonight I’m in with the girls and we’ll be watching the final traitors 👌🏼 I’ll be sad when it’s over but I’m keen to see who has won!

Have a lovely evening all x

Pink_Butterfly

It’s been a day.

DD2 had her performing arts class this morning so dropped her off and then went to the supermarket with DD1. She wanted some cream cheese, chocolate biscuits and chocolate buttons to make a chocolate brownie, and we got ingredients to make a cheeseburger pasta (new recipe for us) for dinner.

After we picked up DD2 we went to see my brother, his partner & my nephew which was nice. We then went home, had dinner, and then the girls emptied out their bedside units so we could put them in the car to take to OH’s. Unfortunately he messaged me to say he had broken down, so I quickly took the bedside units to his house and then rescued DSD and all her bags etc. OH is still waiting to be rescued by AA and it’s been about 1.5 hours now. Poor thing. He was working last night too so he’s been awake for about 22 hours. Hopefully they pick him up soon.

I got a bit concerned with DD1 last night over something, so I checked her phone this morning and read a message to her friends that was very alarming. I’ve spoken to her about it and she seems ok but I called her dad to tell him (whilst balling down the phone) and said we can’t let her out of our sight now. I’ll speak to her school on Monday but to say I’m worried is an understatement 😢

Humdinger1

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Thank you. I’m struggling a lot to be honest, but trying to stay strong. She was quiet this morning but perked up by lunchtime. She’s a bit of a closed book so it can be hard getting her to talk. She’s at a very delicate age, got all the hormones running around her body, plus she displays some autistic traits so if she is neurodivergent then she will be struggling with that aswell. Bless her 💔

On the plus side, she’s got a very caring & loyal bunch of friends. They really do love her. We live on the other side of town but I’ve said when we move she can have them over after school or during weekends if she wants.

OH got home after 2 hours of waiting last night. It turns out the alternator has gone on his car. Just brilliant timing! My mum has given him her Corsa for the time being.

DSD’s new bedroom has now been painted & glossed, all ready for the new carpet tomorrow. OH will then move her bed downstairs into her new room, and then DD2’s new bedroom will be ready! In the next few days we need to get DSD a curtain pole & curtains. DD1 & DD2’s new mattresses got delivered today but the old mattresses won’t be collected for another 4 days, which is annoying, but never mind!

I’m so tired but I need to try & finish cleaning the kitchen, as OH & DSD came over for dinner and it’s a state 🤭 I’ll be so happy to have a dishwasher soon lol x

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It’s been the worse 48 hours of my life. Things escalated with DD1 and it’s been horrific. I won’t go into details on here because I know it can be triggering, but we saw the GP today and we’ll hopefully be getting her the help she needs. Her school and her friends have been brilliant I have to say.

I can’t get over what’s happened over the last few days. I don’t think I’ll ever be the same again 💔 My work colleagues have been amazing & supportive though, as well as OH, my family, and my friends. I miss what my life was like before this 😞

I was meant to go out tonight for a work social but I cancelled for obvious reasons. I’ve spent the evening swapping mattresses about instead, which was a workout. The old ones are being collected in a couple of days.

OH’s house is almost done. The wardrobes are being installed tomorrow and then that’s it. The carpet got laid down today and it looks really good. OH is back at work tonight but he’ll have to sleep at my flat tomorrow while the wardrobes are being done.

The solicitors have confirmed that my buyer has asked for a bunch of furniture & appliances to be left, which suits me - it saves me having to transport it all, and I get a bit of money back. They’ve sent me the contract & transfer deed to sign aswell, so I’ll go to their office tomorrow and sign them ready for exchange 😊 The buyer’s solicitors have a couple of queries too so I’ll need to try and answer them if I can.

I’ve cancelled my TV licence so that’s £15 saved next month. Every little helps.

I'm going to do a bit of work now to make up the time I was at the doctors and then I’ll go straight to bed I think. I’m emotionally exhausted.

Pink_Butterfly

Today was quite a big day for the flat sale. I signed the contract and transfer deed, but also the managing agent sent the solicitors the sales management pack, which we were not expecting until 9th February. So hopefully we are close to exchanging contracts. I had to re-fill one of the forms which I’ve now done, so I’ll drop it off tomorrow, and then I’m just waiting for the managing agents to get back to me with a query. I’ll chase them up tomorrow as they can be slow at responding.

The fitted wardrobes should be all done by lunchtime tomorrow. Poor OH is currently sleeping on a mattress on the floor because the wardrobe man put loads of covers on his bed to protect it!

DD1 has asked to sleep on the sofa tonight as it’s her last night in the flat. She loves sleeping on the sofa for some reason! It still feels a bit surreal that we are moving out. It probably won’t hit me until next week.

I still feel a bit emotional but today has been the best day I’ve had for almost a week. DD1 seems ok. She has eaten a fair bit too, more than usual, which is really good. One of the things that has come to light over the last few days is her potentially having an eating disorder, so we are all monitoring what she eats. As much as we can do anyway - obviously when she’s in school it’s harder.

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Pink_Butterfly

Thank you 💗

Well, we’ve made it to Friday. It’s my last night in my flat & I’m on my own. It’s silent, and I’m thinking about the last 8 years & 3 months, and all the memories the girls and I have created. They were only 4 and 2 when we moved in. Little cherubs they were 😍 I’m excited for our new chapter, but I’m also scared, especially after the last few days. I’m worried about this massive change making things worse for DD1 but hopefully she will love the fact she has her own bedroom and no longer has to share. I’m determined to help her and create positive memories for her.

I was meant to be out for dinner tonight with some friends but I cancelled. I don’t normally cancel but I feel emotionally exhausted, and I just want to do a bit of packing and watch some rubbish on YouTube. The girls are with their dad for the next few days but I’ll try and see them at some point over the weekend.

I received my biggest wage packet today as my salary increase has kicked in, plus I got a £500 recruitment bonus for recruiting my friend. It’s come at a good time! As great as the money is though, I have been having doubts about my role. This last week has made me change my perspective on things and I’m wondering if I need to decrease my hours so I can be there for the children more. It’s definitely something to think about.

OH is currently arguing with the wardrobe company because the guy who fitted them has made many mistakes. OH filmed them all and it was a 6-minute long video! Not what we need but he’s said he will sort it for us bless him. I think he’s worried about putting more stress onto me but he’s doing loads at the moment. I’m going to pick him up at 8:30am tomorrow so he can collect the hire van, and then his brother, brother-in law and one of my brothers are coming to the flat to help lift all the bedroom furniture.

I’ll see you on the other side x