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  • red74
    red74 Posts: 348 Forumite
    Hi Mupeteer, I'm so pleased for you, both for getting back with OH (fingers crossed that it all goes ok), and that he's taking the antidepressants -it's an excellent start.

    Sounds like his sister has some serious issues and is jealous that her brother has you. Well worth avoiding at all costs. x
    1st April 2008 challenge
    :mad: xmas overspend = [strike]£254.05[/strike] £0:j......cc1 = [strike]£240.78[/strike] £0:j .......cc2 = [strike]£667.47[/strike] £0 :j ...amount owed to ISA = [strike]£1599.90[/strike] £0:j
    TOTAL TO GO = [strike]£2762.20[/strike] £0 !!!:dance: DONE IT DONE IT DONE IT!!!:dance:
  • Mupeteer
    Mupeteer Posts: 955 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    I'm obviously not the only muppet living in this house. BF is refusing to take the antidepressants he was prescribed. His mum works in Holland & Barrett so he's getting her to suggest something herbal. Why is he being such an idiot? I'm not saying that the herbal stuff wont work but he's being so stubborn. I'm almost certain that it's that he thinks he'd be ssaying he was a failure or weak by taking them. That attitude annoys me so much, especially as he knows I've been on and off them for over 10 years now.

    Also, he doesn't want to take any time off work. He went to speak to his boss today and he has suggested he takes a few days self cert to see how he is doing. I know that wont be enough though.

    Right now he is away shopping with his sister and his mum. I know it's silly but I feel really left out. I'm really not sure if this is going to work.
    Reality check - hit rock bottom on 15 Dec 2008 with unsecured debts of £29,136 and not enough money to live on

    :j NOW DEBT FREE!!!! :j
    :oI try to take life one day at a time but sometimes several days attack me at once :o
  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    Mupeteer wrote: »
    I'm obviously not the only muppet living in this house. BF is refusing to take the antidepressants he was prescribed. His mum works in Holland & Barrett so he's getting her to suggest something herbal. Why is he being such an idiot?

    Pride.
    Mupeteer wrote: »
    I'm not saying that the herbal stuff wont work but he's being so stubborn. I'm almost certain that it's that he thinks he'd be ssaying he was a failure or weak by taking them. That attitude annoys me so much, especially as he knows I've been on and off them for over 10 years now.

    That's probably one of the reasons why he isn't going to take them.
    Mupeteer wrote: »
    Also, he doesn't want to take any time off work. He went to speak to his boss today and he has suggested he takes a few days self cert to see how he is doing. I know that wont be enough though.

    You can't save him from himself. All you can do is decide whether you want to pick up the pieces afterwards, and what price you're willing to pay in order to do that.
    Mupeteer wrote: »
    Right now he is away shopping with his sister and his mum. I know it's silly but I feel really left out. I'm really not sure if this is going to work.

    All you can do is give it your best shot. But that has to be a plural *you*. If he isn't going to try, then it won't.

    Have you done another SOA?
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."     OMD 'Julia's Song'
  • Mupeteer
    Mupeteer Posts: 955 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    Sorry ZTD, not yet. I've been putting it off but I know I need to do it. I can't rely on BF staying so I'll get onto it soon. I promise!
    Reality check - hit rock bottom on 15 Dec 2008 with unsecured debts of £29,136 and not enough money to live on

    :j NOW DEBT FREE!!!! :j
    :oI try to take life one day at a time but sometimes several days attack me at once :o
  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    Mupeteer wrote: »
    Sorry ZTD, not yet. I've been putting it off but I know I need to do it. I can't rely on BF staying so I'll get onto it soon. I promise!

    Hey it's all right - in your own time. I'm not desperate for it you know... ;)
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."     OMD 'Julia's Song'
  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    How you feeling? You sound a bit brighter...
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."     OMD 'Julia's Song'
  • Mupeteer
    Mupeteer Posts: 955 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    I'm feeling lots better, thanks. BF and I have been having a good time since he came back and we are really talking which is more than we've done for a while. I am still annoyed at his sister but not everyone can be as lovely as all of us DFWs!:D If karma is real she's in for a pretty rough ride.

    I've spent quite a bit of time with my sister lately too and I realised we hadn't seen much of each other, what with me having school practice and running around after Miss Stroppy Drawers since before Christmas. It's been great seeing more of my sister and her kids so I'm going to make time for that in the future.

    I'm not really sure if BF and I will last but I'm going to give it my best shot, and if it all goes belly up I know I will survive. I've been through bad times before and made it out the other side and I'm sure I'll do it again if I have to.
    Reality check - hit rock bottom on 15 Dec 2008 with unsecured debts of £29,136 and not enough money to live on

    :j NOW DEBT FREE!!!! :j
    :oI try to take life one day at a time but sometimes several days attack me at once :o
  • Snaggles
    Snaggles Posts: 19,503 Forumite
    I have the same problem with my hubby and anti-depressants. :mad:

    Seriously considering crushing them into his cornflakes! :o
    "I wasn't wrong, I just wasn't right enough."
    :smileyhea
    9780007258925
  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    Just say to them: "Also available as suppositories..."
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."     OMD 'Julia's Song'
  • Snaggles
    Snaggles Posts: 19,503 Forumite
    Why would I want to make it more fun for him? ;)
    "I wasn't wrong, I just wasn't right enough."
    :smileyhea
    9780007258925
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