Does your child help pay the rent?

lika_86

Albermarle said:

lika_86 said:

Find out what the market rent would be for a room of similar spec in a shared house, then charge him at least that plus a share of bills. 

In a more expensive part of the UK ( but not London) I would be thinking that would be £1000 a month.....

What's your point? If that's the case then that's the case. If he doesn't like it he can look on the open market.

Jami74

Does he pay anything? One child is working (placement year) and pays 20% of net income. I don't call it rent, I pay the rent whether they're here or not. The contribution goes towards food and the extra electricity, water etc. Other child not working yet but when they do they'll pay 20%. 

london21

Should be paying bills. At least 200-300 pm. 

sheramber

I charged mine what it cost extra fo them being at home. so  a share of food and utilities.

If he pays nothing he will never be able toa fford to move out unless he find s a rich partner

His mother needs to have a stern conversation with him.  Pay up or move out.. 

SootySweep1

Yes, he should be making a financial contribution.

For me how much would depend on how much he earns & how much he contributes to the household in other ways eg housework & babysitting.

Albermarle

Wyndham said:

I'd certainly be asking for rent. I'd also be asking him to do a share of the housework. Appreciate he may do this already, but if not, someone has to clear up after him. Does he get meals provided? If so, a contribution would be good. Does he know how to clean a toilet If not, he should learn as it's a lifeskill.

If he doesn't want to pay a high financial cost, you could get him doing more around the house. Does he help at all with the other children for example?

Does he get meals provided? 

According to the OP he eats out/takeaways all the time. Presumably with all the money he is not paying in rent !

Sea_Shell

This is more a relationship question than a financial one.

It's all going to come down to how your wife feels about the situation and if she is happy with her adult, working son "sponging" off you both.

If she doesn't want to charge him keep, then you're in a lose lose position.

Once you're on the same page about charging him "something", then the discussion can move onto how much?

So, are you on the same page?

Wyndham

Albermarle said:

Wyndham said:

I'd certainly be asking for rent. I'd also be asking him to do a share of the housework. Appreciate he may do this already, but if not, someone has to clear up after him. Does he get meals provided? If so, a contribution would be good. Does he know how to clean a toilet If not, he should learn as it's a lifeskill.

If he doesn't want to pay a high financial cost, you could get him doing more around the house. Does he help at all with the other children for example?

Does he get meals provided? 

According to the OP he eats out/takeaways all the time. Presumably with all the money he is not paying in rent !

Yes, but even breakfast and lunch can add up over the week.... and snacks....!

silvercar

Sea_Shell said:

This is more a relationship question than a financial one.

It's all going to come down to how your wife feels about the situation and if she is happy with her adult, working son "sponging" off you both.

If she doesn't want to charge him keep, then you're in a lose lose position.

Once you're on the same page about charging him "something", then the discussion can move onto how much?

So, are you on the same page?

I guess being in a blended family can cause more issues, but I object to the term “sponging”. Some parents decide from the outset that their (adult) children will always be allowed to live rent free in their own home. The idea of charging your own offspring rent is something I wouldn’t consider. Having made the choice as adults ourselves where to live, it is up to my children if they want to live with us or move out, rent doesn’t come into it. 

dinkylink

When I went into full time work my parents charged me a pretty token amount to cover food and extra energy costs, probably about the equivalent of £200 a month today.

But I also didn't spend much money on takeaways or expensive cars, I drove an old banger and saved hard for a deposit!

Would also note my parents owned their house outright by that point so had no mortgage/rent etc.