Does your child help pay the rent?

theartfullodger

All my 3 sons have their own homes. 8 grandkids!

I'd tell him to leave, serve a formal notice to go then when that notice expires wait until he's out then change ALL the locks. Cheeky entitled toad... 

Don't let him get his stuff back himself, but agree time when he'll pick things up from outside the front door .  

Tough love time 

Sounds possible/probable that the house is legally overcrowded. 

 Occupiers/owners/tenants can be fined for this.  Look up room sizing and permitted occupants (might be 1/2 a human - child under 10) -see Shelter on overcrowding..

lika_86

Find out what the market rent would be for a room of similar spec in a shared house, then charge him at least that plus a share of bills. 

MEM62

mrmojo27 said:

and stepson who is 23 and refuses to move until his is 30.  

Just as an aside - he can do that because you facilitate it.  if you do not want him there then do not give him the choice.  And whilst there he should pay the going rate for whatever a room rents for in your area.    

Albermarle

lika_86 said:

Find out what the market rent would be for a room of similar spec in a shared house, then charge him at least that plus a share of bills. 

In a more expensive part of the UK ( but not London) I would be thinking that would be £1000 a month.....

Rob5342

silvercar said:

mrmojo27 said:

Couldnt find where to put this question so apologies if its in the wrong place!
Basically I rent (private) and live with my wife, 2 children (8 and 10) and stepson who is 23 and refuses to move until his is 30.  He says he cant afford it but happily goes out every night and has bought himself a very nice £20000 grand car!  We live in whats officially classed as a 3 bedroom house but the third bedroom occupied by the step son is small.
Question is, do others get their adult children paying rent and if so how much?  do they ask for a third of everything?  token gesture? 
Bear in mind, he works full time and as ive said is quite happy to buy a car, have a gym membership, 50 quid phone bill, meals out virtually every night, 2 or 3 holidays a year. 

I never asked my kids to make a contribution as I don't think that children suddenly becoming adults mean that you immediately break all financial support - others may have different views. 

Asking them for rent isn't necessarily breaking all financial support, you could still be saving them a significant amount over what they might be paying if they lived elsewhere.

When our daughter starts earning we'll certainly be charging her rent if she still wants to live at home. We haven't decided how much yet but it will be a level that helps us out with our bills a bit, but helps her out a lot by giving her a cheap home. I'm pretty certain that she would volunteer the money without us ever mentioning it.

Wyndham

I'd certainly be asking for rent. I'd also be asking him to do a share of the housework. Appreciate he may do this already, but if not, someone has to clear up after him. Does he get meals provided? If so, a contribution would be good. Does he know how to clean a toilet If not, he should learn as it's a lifeskill.

If he doesn't want to pay a high financial cost, you could get him doing more around the house. Does he help at all with the other children for example?

marcia_

 Definitely they should pay rent and pay towards the food etc
 i paid my mum £30 from the £55 in benefits I received at the time. 

HampshireH

Asking for housekeeping or rent froma 20 something who can afford a 20k car 3 holidays and year and gym membership isn't cutting off financial support.

This adult is clearly earning enough to treat himself and have nice things and that means he is adult enough to contribute to household expenses and the roof above his head.

timmy_bolt

If they were grafting, saving for a house, then I wouldn't charge rent. 

Also this doesn't mean they have to live like a hermit and a lot of the things you have listed aren't wrong in moderation. 

If you just kick him out and he has to rent, he'll likely take an age or never get on the housing ladder in today's market.

But you should make a condition of him living with you that he has an agreed savings plan with you. After that he can spend the remainder on what he likes.

I don't subscribe to the whole kick them out stand on their own two feet mentality, 25 years ago fine, but in today's property market a helping hand is unfortunately needed. But don't be a pushover. If he doesn't agree to a route to leave home then sure, send him on his merry way.

njkmr

I remember my mate telling me when he started work , (he's in his 60,s now) ,he earnt £2.50 a week and his mum took it off him and gave him 50p back for himself...!
Im not saying be that harsh though.