In Search Of Me's brand spanking (behave SS!) new 2008 diary...

hypno06

Sorry you are feeling poorly - I hope you soon feel much better. Bah to all winter bugs :mad:

I am sat here munching on Christmas chocolates - need to get them all out of the way before weight loss programme starts in earnest next week - need to get fit for skiing at the end of March! I will be cutting out the chocolate, which is like cutting off my right arm, and upping the yoga, hoping to get at least a little fitter in a few weeks' time!

In_Search_Of_Me

Thanks H - flipping miserable & currently streaming but consoling myself with red wine under the must drink while i can theory! Like you getting rid of it all in readiness for next weeks start afresh! Its the little change sthat make the difference! I have a small stash of hormone chocolate in the freezer but wine is my downfall! Yoga sounds good!

In_Search_Of_Me

Still got a streaming cold but hopefully this will be the worst day...just pottering, catching up on washing & may hoover later if I can muster some energy which is distinctly lacking at present....what an exciting life I lead!! Mega hail here this am - so loud it woke me up!

In_Search_Of_Me

:mad: Just need a rant! Brief history... I have a neighbor who is unable to work due to ill health so I help out where I can by making soup and giving her food when I have made too much etc...Also did Christmas lunch for them & made a reall effort with lovely crackers & sparklers...
In the past she has asked me for money & I have said on a number of occasions that I can ill afford to lend money and also would rather she didnt ask. The last time she did it I was very clear about not being asked for money as I said it was embarassing for me to have to say no & it made me feel bad. She also knows that I've just had a £600 bill for the boiler and that money was tight after Christmas.
She rang earlier and yet again, despite the fact that I obvously have a cold & feel like ****, asked for money. I said I wouldnt give her money but if she wanted to borrow cigarettes until Tues that was fine.
I just rang to say she could come & get them & she said not to bother as they can use rollups....I said in which case why had she asked for money. I reminded her that I am trying to pay debts off, already work full time & do babysitting etc and live frugally plus just had Christmas & boiler.
Also that have asked her a number of times not to ask for money but she keeps doing it & I now feel really used and angry. Am I being unreasonable? I dont think I am as I do feel she's taking the mick...I know I live a different type of life to them but I work hard & also have alot more bills to pay so its all relative...

elantan

i think you should stop helping her completely she is using you maybe she needs to learn things the hard way as a very very wise person once said to me (and i never thanked her) you can only control your own behaviour you cant control anyone elses ....thanks a bit late i know but i did listen eventually lol

In_Search_Of_Me

Thanks Eltan...I wouldnt stop helping her compleatly because she's my friend but no way I'm giving money. Am more cross than anything that she asked! yet again despite me making it clear at least 3 times in the past that I wont give her money! I know that I'm being used to a degree and am ok with this to a point as despite being in debt I still have more than they do IYKWIM! So ture that you can only control your own behaviour - was it me that said that to you?!! Sort of thing I would say and its true! I think its upset me more than anything because I feel its taken away from feeling good about giving them a nice Christmas....

elantan

yes it was you summer of 2006 (if you can remember)

In_Search_Of_Me

wow that long ago. True though isnt it eh!! We'll get there - just a shame people have to take the P**** in the process but thats life I guess!

postingalwaysposting

i dont think you were being unreasonable. You told her before no she should respect that.

Btw you have email before i go and buy a book

In_Search_Of_Me

Thanks PAP - have replied re the CJ - my email seems a bit slow for some reason! Virgin media for you! I did you to me so that if we're in the vicinty f each other around swap time we could pass rather than post! Cribbs must be visited on occasion although with my 8000 challenge and new grocery budget not that often!