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Watty1

Very brave decision making redo.   High five for that.  

jwil

Echoing what everyone else is saying, lovely to meet up with old friends, and glad you are feeling more positive.

redofromstart

Thank you everyone for your kind comments and encouragement.

Quotes are in and I will probably give them the go ahead on Monday, about four weeks of work again so major upheaval. 

I spent this morning cleaning the summerhouse, and making it nice again so that I have somewhere completely clear of stuff.  I can take my coffee and my music up there even if it is raining.  I can't think why I didn't do this before actually.  Went out for a bit this afternoon and did some clothes shopping as I have very little left that fits.  It is a nice problem to have.  I made myself try things on, and bought the right colours and shapes so I am happy with that spend.  This evening I have been working on the dining room which had quietly slipped back into 'of doom' status.  Back to asking myself if I would bother to pack it, pay someone to move it, and find it a home at the other end which does make the decision making process easier.

Cherryfudge

That sounds like a very productive day. You will be able to enjoy the summer house while the work is going on elsewhere, so get it well stocked with everything from snacks to a woolly jumper and slippers!

debtfreewannabe321

Not sure if you bought the bras yet but I have a local lady here (cos I'm an awkward size and m&s and suchlike don't make my size) and she swore by elomi for larger busts and I've got four now that I swap between and they do fit well. I wish they kinda pushed everything forward though rather than rounding them off under arms and elsewhere 🤣. I tried to order a swimsuit from bravissimo and saw the fire had happened ☹️ bit sad by that as that's my second go to place. 
Clothes shopping sounded a good success. 
And I love the sound of your summer house. Sounds like a haven for you.
When decluttering for moving I went through a similar process of, do I really want to pay extra for more van storage to move it for me to the new house...and if I didn't love it it got sold or donated or chucked. Good luck with that one. 😃

dawnybabes

I like Elomi bras too, the last few I’ve bought have been off Vinted.  

LadyWithAPlan

I am a huge Wonderbra fan - they used to sell them in braviss*** they last forever and look great 

It’s good you are clear on your next move - the summer house sounds lovely ! I will be borrowing the ‘do I want to pay someone to move this ‘ declutter question 

Seasidegal58

I’m totally in agreement with the others on how you’re more positive.  I’m so glad you’re feeling a little of warmth from the light at the end of the tunnel although it must still feel a way away at times. 

The clothes shopping sounds like it gave you an uplift too and your summer house will prove a haven xxx❤️

doingitanyway

Nice to think of you enjoying the summer house. Well done for clearing it to create a new space to be

redofromstart

Thank you everyone.  Every time I feel a bit better there is another curve ball but that is life for you.  Lots of positive things on the horizon as we get to the one year anniversary next week.

I did commit to the next round of building works (windows, damp, drive), the most money I have ever spent in one go without actually buying a house.  That stressed me even though I have the money.  I did pay the deposit on my cashback credit card for the protection and the vouchers.  Now on a deadline to make the windows accessible, and maybe have one last skip before the drive is rebuilt.  Due to start late October.  Lots of work to do but when it is finished the house will be dry, water tight and warm which can only be a good thing and I am looking forward to it.  It will take all of my easily accessible funds so I do need to start thinking about going back to work.

The latest curve ball was having to say goodbye to the evil ex stray.  He followed us home from a walk ten years ago and frankly refused to leave even though he hated my other cats.  He wasn't my biggest fan either but was DS1s favourite cat.  Evil, but full of character.  I shall miss my biting alarm clock, his enthusiastic greeting of all visitors (in case they have brought snacks), his decision to bite the cat thief neighbours so they didn't steal him and his insistence on three breakfasts.