Watty's Awakening

KajiKita

Loving the jam jar drama … 😉😂
Well done for stepping in and giving VNM a push in the right direction. He will feel better for having made some concrete progress. 

The idea of you having to coordinate a Disney Princess made me smile too 😉 More organising but for a much gentler and kinder cause 😊

Hope you and Charming Cob enjoy your potter today. 

KK

Alchemilla

Hope you enjoyed riding Charmingcob.

A boxing day outing on Bigorse was the highlight of my Christmas.

I failed to choose an outfit for DH to be cremated in. He had no reputable clothes and didn't care about them so he wore a gown.

PennysIntoPounds

Well done you, and well done VNM

daisy_1571

well done starting the push.  It will undoubtedly help him to feel he's making progress.  

I find awkward difficult people easy enough to deal with.  If they consistently find fault with reasonable things, I feel theyre gonna hate everything therefore might as well do what I feel is right secure in the knowledge they will complain and its actually nothing to do with me so it can slide off.  I know some folk can't do this.  Mr d had a nitpicky boss who had to see EVERY  communication.   She ALWAYS  had changes.  Then when the changed document was presented, more changes.  Ad infinitum.  Till it jo longer made sense sometimes.  Often it ended with her changing some bits back to how mr d had started.  With me, I'd have just done it and known she was an @ho!e.  He was high up grade by this time for heaven's sake.  He though used to tie himself in knots trying to 'get it right'.  I tried to help telling him that was madness, nothing would ever be 'right', its her issue  nothing he has done or not done.  Hes not like me though and it really knocked his confidence that he couldn't even write a stupid letter without it being 'wrong'.  I hated that woman.   (Funny, i rarely get annoyed about people who slight me, but upset him and I hate you lol.)   Vnms mum sounds like that and it seems he's more like mrds approach, still hoping for a kind word from someone who withholds it. 


Hoping he finds it easier as time goes on


Dxxx

Watty1

Alchemilla said:

I failed to choose an outfit for DH to be cremated in. He had no reputable clothes and didn't care about them so he wore a gown.

never chosen an outfit either.  Can't see the point. More to do, more distress and will they care?  I don't think so. I've organised a few funerals and never worried about an 'outfit' for the deceased.  

Alchemilla

daisy_1571 said:

well done starting the push.  It will undoubtedly help him to feel he's making progress.  

I find awkward difficult people easy enough to deal with.  If they consistently find fault with reasonable things, I feel theyre gonna hate everything therefore might as well do what I feel is right secure in the knowledge they will complain and its actually nothing to do with me so it can slide off.  I know some folk can't do this.  Mr d had a nitpicky boss who had to see EVERY  communication.   She ALWAYS  had changes.  Then when the changed document was presented, more changes.  Ad infinitum.  Till it jo longer made sense sometimes.  Often it ended with her changing some bits back to how mr d had started.  With me, I'd have just done it and known she was an @ho!e.  He was high up grade by this time for heaven's sake.  He though used to tie himself in knots trying to 'get it right'.  I tried to help telling him that was madness, nothing would ever be 'right', its her issue  nothing he has done or not done.  Hes not like me though and it really knocked his confidence that he couldn't even write a stupid letter without it being 'wrong'.  I hated that woman.   (Funny, i rarely get annoyed about people who slight me, but upset him and I hate you lol.)   Vnms mum sounds like that and it seems he's more like mrds approach, still hoping for a kind word from someone who withholds it. 


Hoping he finds it easier as time goes on


Dxxx

That is my boss. Except mine is male.

Alchemilla

Watty1 said:

Alchemilla said:

I failed to choose an outfit for DH to be cremated in. He had no reputable clothes and didn't care about them so he wore a gown.

never chosen an outfit either.  Can't see the point. More to do, more distress and will they care?  I don't think so. I've organised a few funerals and never worried about an 'outfit' for the deceased.  

I think if someone would care then they would specify, assuming not a sudden death.

So glad you are doing well @W@Watty1

WelshmansDaughter

I chose the outfit for my Dad to wear- it was his Welsh jersey and comfortable trousers. He probably would have preferred a suit thinking about it now.
But he was past the need for caring about such things and it gave me comfort at the time.

greenbee

My dad was sent off in his very scruffy sailing gear. He'd have hated to be wearing a suit for eternity!

SandyShores

Alchemilla said:

daisy_1571 said:  

I find awkward difficult people easy enough to deal with.  If they consistently find fault with reasonable things, I feel theyre gonna hate everything therefore might as well do what I feel is right secure in the knowledge they will complain and its actually nothing to do with me so it can slide off.  I know some folk can't do this.  Mr d had a nitpicky boss who had to see EVERY  communication.   She ALWAYS  had changes.  Then when the changed document was presented, more changes.  Ad infinitum.  Till it jo longer made sense sometimes.  Often it ended with her changing some bits back to how mr d had started.  .....

That is my boss. Except mine is male.

Omg I have had a couple of bosses like this and I react like Mr d so can emphasise.  Although before xmas I had some advice from a new manager who does the same as daisy_1571 and I've been putting it into practice - its so refreshing to just do what I think - and I'm left wondering why I didn't give myself permission to do this before!