Prosperous & Creative Soul & MFW Year 3

DaisyCheerings

Hello savingholmes.  You're putting me to shame with how much you're doing while also being poorly and sleeping badly.  I need to up my game quite considerably 😬

I hope your system gets more used to the ADHD meds and lets you sleep a bit better, although it's good that you're not having to get up for work and concentrate all day right now.

dawnybabes

You can ask for a copy of your last report if you can’t find it from
PIP 

Blackcats

Back to families - there are also deficit mindset families and credit mindset families.  My in-laws (as previously moaned about in my diary 😉) are definite deficit people.  For example on Saturday we were face-timing mil and showed here the lovely blue sky - she pointed out the only cloud in the furthest distance.  Everything with the in-laws is about how much things cost to enable them to say what a waste of money it is.  We took mil out for a meal a while ago (which of course we were paying for) and she moaned that the onion bhajis were too round and she preferred flat bhajis and that they were also too expensive.  MrBC said "good job you aren't paying then".
anyway with Billy Joel as an anthem we can find our coping strategies which you are doing very well.

hope that PIP review is a quick and painless formality.  Try not to stress.  Your situation is still as it was when you applied and were awarded PIP.  Although you've recently been acutely unwell so you might mention that.

badmemory

Mr BC is obviously a keeper

WelshmansDaughter

Caught up at last. Might I suggest anti slip tape for the garden steps? 
Recovery is never linear and you have a lot going on so well done with all you've achieved.
Other people's opinions can be annoying; your parents might find change quite difficult to understand perhaps. With Teacup I find the comments aren't usually intentional it is just all she knows how to say.

doingitanyway

Keep taking care of yourself x 

jwil

SandyShores said:

jwil said:

I'm so lucky with my family in that we just tend to cheer each other on, and don't get involved unless asked.  DH's on the other hand is the opposite and they've always got an opinion and tell each other what they should be doing (in their mind).  It really gets my back up, so I can understand your frustration.  You don't need to explain your choices to anyone so stay strong  

You are really lucky jwil.  I remember seeing an episode of Oprah where she said there are families that love and families that fight.  I hadn't thought about it before but my parents were definitely a family that fought, although its confusing as there is also love there hidden behind all the comments and prickliness.  I distance myself from mine as its exhausting always being on the defence, especially if you are ill or vulnerable (just when you need your family really).  My DH's family are similar - not quite as bad, but at times exhausting so you have to make sure you're in the right space to cope.  My advice to anyone when choosing a partner is to make sure they are from the cheering on type of family not the pulling it apart type - but not sure how you can tell in those early stages.

Thank you.  I see from reading on these diaries how lucky I am, and I appreciate it every time I'm getting stressed from a relative on DH's side.  It is exhausting and ruins what could be very nice times.

jwil

I hope the PIP review goes well and isn't too stressful for you.

savingholmes

Thanks Lucielle, WD, Jwil, Blackcats, Daisy, DIA, BM and Dawn

Still not getting as much sleep as I'd like but better than the start of the week.

Yesterday I went to the garden centre - had a free coffee as part of a club free trial - so nice start. They had some tall plants red robin and laurel for less than half price - so I got them and they are going to make a bit difference in terms of screening and privacy. I also picked up a couple more bird obelisks and more alpine plants. 

I then rested most of yesterday afternoon before going back to Bed 2 and attempting to dress the bed with the new mattress protector and an existing pinky purple irridescent bedspread and an oriental design aubergine embroidered type top dressing' above that. I put the accompanying quilt set and a spare and pillow cases and sheets in the wash today as they smelt musty. I found a 4 season type quilt in two parts. I've washed one half yesterday and dried it today - so hopefully I'll be able to finish 'dressing' the bed soon. I also unpacked 3 boxes - which were mostly books. Found loads of SW ones - so at some point may try some new recipes. 

DD and her BF came yesterday evening. She's finding it hard to adjust to being in yet another new place. She may want some of my surplus furniture - so I need to measure it (or she will Saturday) and then hopefully take it. She may even want my spare FF. DD had to buy a new to her car as her last one failed its MOT days before her move. She picked it up this week - it looks lovely. Someone else lent her most of the £ which was a relief to me and she paid the rest herself.

DD is due back this way Saturday so she's going to pick me up and take me into town as she needs me to use my 0% card to lend her the £ for the optician as it's a lot of cost at once. That will however mean I finally see what my local town centre is like as I've only gone to retail parks so far. Partly due to lack of stamina but also just overwhelm and anxiety... Going with someone else the first time should then make it easier for me to go back on my own if any of the shops I want are in the centre. She'll then come back here and I'll feed them.

savingholmes

Daisy - no shame. You are comparing yourself as a busy working person to someone who is otherwise sat at home all day. That's not reasonable. I'm going out and doing stuff to try and build up and test my stamina - and also TBH for some social as other than the handyman and direct neighbours I don't know anyone else here yet.

Dawn - I think I know where it is - it is just an emotive read - and hard to make myself even go looking at any of that stuff!

Blackcats - I have family like that - and ex MIL was absolutely like that. Glad you have each other.

Hope you are well BM and your DS.

WD - congrats on catching up - I imagine there was a lot!! I need to look into the tape for the steps. I got overwhelmed by choices a while ago and abandoned it...

DIA and Jwil - Hope  you both feel better soon too.