Prosperous & Creative Soul & MFW Year 3

KajiKita

Glad the parentals visit is done and went well and the comment from the handyman shows how effective organising systems are! 😊

Hope you slept and that you enjoy planting up your pots today 😊

KK

jwil

Glad the visit went well.

Humdinger1

Glad you're feeling so much better @savingholmes.  I know you know this, but the tidiness of your house is no business of your parents.   Absolutely none; you have done brilliantly.   I wonder if they ever acknowledge that.  Onwards and upwards love Humdinger xx 

lucielle

I bet you’re glad the visit is done and hopefully your stress levels are going down. 

Your handyman sounds like real gem!  Is it this week you try out a cleaner?
L

savingholmes

Thanks KK, Jwil, Humdinger1 and Lucielle

I slept better other than the howling gale kept blowing my back gate despite 5 bricks attempting to hold it in place. It was even tugging at my ill fitting garage door.

Humdinger1 said:

Glad you're feeling so much better @savingholmes.  I know you know this, but the tidiness of your house is no business of your parents.   Absolutely none; you have done brilliantly.   I wonder if they ever acknowledge that.  Onwards and upwards love Humdinger xx 

Love you for this @Humdinger1 - I get little acknowledgement. One parent would say in one breath how relieved they were I was so much better and in the next that they were surprised I hadn't done more as I had known they were coming!!  They also argued against some of the changes I want to make in the house and garden - and I kept saying - 'It wouldn't work for your life - but I don't have your life.' Then came the very telling reply 'But I want that life for you...' There was the crux of the issue. How do you get to your 50s and still have your parents trying to tell you what to do? I was kind enough not to say, 'I don't want your life' but surely my actions tell that story? I listened to a utube once in which someone said, 'My life, my vote' and I have it written on a blackboard in my house for just such occasions as these.

All being well the handyman is swapping the two bed frames between rooms today and then assembling them. Excited. I can then get bedroom 2 set up and check out what bedding I have - and what I want to put in my ottoman bed and what I need to let go of altogether. I may list some bits on Olio to see if anyone wants them - otherwise the D bedding type shop has a recycling facility.

I am hoping to do the garden today KK - so very excited about that - planting pots first - and then if I have the energy doing something with the bare patch at the front so that I can plant some wildflower seeds. Prompted by TG - I'll also look at what other annuals I could sow from my seed stash.

savingholmes

Jwil and Lucielle - grateful the visit is over. Yes my new cleaner is due for 4 hours on Friday - so hopefully that will get things like the floor deep cleaned and then see how far she gets with the rest. If I like her - she's then due back for 2 hours a week.

£25 has gone into savings today - I think I'll sent £25 early from another account too. I don't know if I said - but I'd wildly miscalculated how much I could send to savings this month - so sent £400 to the ISA yesterday - not the £700 I thought might be possible. To do that however I'll need to put around £450 on a 0% CC.

catclaires

Everything's sounding great with the house progress - and your garden must be looking amazing with all the plants. Really glad you're feeling so much better! And very satisfying to be able to spend on the house/garden and still be sending good chunks of money to savings.

The parental visit sounded stressful - you have (to me) a strikingly clear vision of what you want in life/your house etc, so it's a shame they can't see that!

EssexHebridean

"But I want that life for you" - "I understand that, and know and love that your life makes YOU happy, but it wouldn't fit me in the same way, and so wouldn't make ME happy"  You don't want to be unkind, but there are ways of refuting things like that without being nasty about it, just underlining that in much the same way as your life-choices might not fit/suit them, theirs don't fit/suit you either! 

As you say - at the age you are at they shouldn't still be telling you what to do, or indeed making you feel as though you are being told what to do. Better to make a clear statement, then draw a line in the sand and be able to move on, rather than just letting things rumble of and leaving you dreading the conversation?  

MovingForwards

Sorry to hear about the bed delivery experience, sadly, more businesses are turning to drop off only. Those who offer assembly, fitting, removal of old tend to charge an extra fee for it.

Seems like whatever you would have done, your parents would have found something to nit pick. Let it bounce off with a shrug and 'whatever', don't dwell as that's them continuing to exert control in your personal life.

All the plants will transform the outside areas, providing the vibrancy and visual appeal you're after.

beanielou

Sorry to hear about the parentals. Your mortgage, your home & your life. Hope the handyman has worked his magic.