First time buyer but hate the house

K_9981

Ksw3 said:

How long is your fix for and is there a charge for early repayment? 

We are in a 5 year fix. When I first moved in this felt like an eternity but time is moving much quicker and I'm liking the house more. 

Our fixed is for 5 years too. It was the best option at the time but now I just don’t know if I want to see it out that long. I’m not really sure how to go about a repayment 

K_9981

BellaBlondykeTheThird said:

Felt the same about one house, couldn't shake it we sold it on 6 months later.

Life's too short.

This is the way I’m thinking if I can’t shake it off but just feel a bit trapped with the payments of doing so. Such a horrible feeling not being able to connect to the house like I thought I would. It’s just so different to what I expected 

babyblade41

Realistically you are there for 6 months so if this feeling is so deep rooted your best thing to do is do the re-wire . Firstly it's a messy job  so it won't make you feel any worse , secondly it will make the place feel a little less tired with nice shiny new sockets and thirdly it's a big positive when /if you decide to sell 

Get one room that you spend most of your time in and decorate exactly how you  envisage your dream home to be , again this will look better when selling .

It's pointless now just feeling negative no matter how it makes you really feel, by doing these 2 things you are doing something positive, either to make you love it or to make it worth more and more attractive when you sell.

Either way  it will help your mindset 

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K_9981 said:

Skiddaw1 said:

I can't add to what everyone else has already said @K_9981 but please do accept a virtual hug from me.

I suggest you revisit this thread six months from now (because I'd put even money on you feeling completely different long before then).

Thank you ☺️ I really hope so. It’s just not what I expected at all from buying a house 

As many have already said - house buying and selling is a really anxious time - it passes though and you learn to just get on with things.

If it had gone to probate, was it an older person that lived there before ?
If so, the decor etc will be in an older style/theme - live with it until you have some savings to do 1 update at a time - by that i mean don't try and do several rooms and the garden all at once - either do the easiest to hardest or vice versa.
The biggest updates will be bathroom and kitchen - if they bother you the most, do one and then the other.

If you choose to tackle the room you spend most time in, start there.

Change the way you think about the house and things will then start to happen.

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K_9981 said:

steve866 said:

Moving is expensive (taxes, legal fees, agents) and very stressful. For that reason I've always gone as 'big' as I could and it has paid off in the long run massively. I felt underwhelmed when I moved into my most recent purchase seeing it empty, with all the imperfections but I love it now. Give yourself a 6 months with a positive mindset and then re-visit this thread.

Okay thank you. I feel like we have messed ourselves over by going too big 

No, no, soon you'll really love having that space and visit other houses and notice how the smallness is far less attractive, not to mention practical.

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@K_9981 surround yourself with positive people, that changes everything.

And, you have friends, you have family, aswell as neighbours,
You have telephones, you have internet - every one of those individuals and facilities will know of someone or be able to show you how to do or who can help.
The situation is entirely in your hands - so ..... surround yourself with positive people .....

Postik

K_9981 said:

Thank you. I just feel like we should have gone for something smaller to start with. The house feels so big but maybe that’s because we haven’t got everything in yet. I feel so lost and hope it gets better soon. I just feel like I’m trapped 

Lol better that it's too big than too small.  My new house is big and there's still plenty of space even with furniture in the rooms, I love it.  I moved from a house where my son couldn't fit a full size bed in his room and there was nowhere to keep the hoover or ironing board.

pretamang

we moved up to our current 'big' house in stages by buying/selling every few years to increase the size and move a little but further out of the city each time - every time we moved our new place at first seemed huge, but then very quickly starts to feel too small. In hindsight I wish we'd moved less often and in fewer steps, the hassle of the buying process and moving is one you don't want to do too often.

how urgent is the wiring? Unless you are in a new build it'll always be outdated and surveys say it needs replacing, but it's not necessarily dangerous. We've lived with outdated electrics, sockets in skirting etc. with no problems

Slinky

I'm curious; how big is this new house?