First time buyer but hate the house

K_9981

steve866 said:

Moving is expensive (taxes, legal fees, agents) and very stressful. For that reason I've always gone as 'big' as I could and it has paid off in the long run massively. I felt underwhelmed when I moved into my most recent purchase seeing it empty, with all the imperfections but I love it now. Give yourself a 6 months with a positive mindset and then re-visit this thread.

Okay thank you. I feel like we have messed ourselves over by going too big 

thegreenone

Buying a house is a huge undertaking and not surprising that you are feeling over/underwhelmed. 

How long until you can get an electrician in for a full rewire so you can see a start to getting the work done?  Positive things.

You say your family live locally, could you have a painting party soon?  Everyone helps with wallpaper stripping and a fresh coat of paint to brighten everything up - hopefully including ((((you)))) and hire a carpet cleaner/washer to spruce up the floors.   Lay on some food and drinks and if it's not raining, a BBQ would be fun - jacket pots and sausages a la Bonfire night. 

Get a Christmas tree and some lights up to make it 'warmer'.  As a probate property, it may have been empty and unloved for a long time but you and your partner can put the love back into it.

We wanted a large 3 bed semi for our first purchase together but it was a divorce case and Mr DID NOT want to sell and it dragged on so long that we pulled out.  We bought a smaller house that lasted until our youngest was one and then we needed to move.  We doubled the mortgage    to afford a detached bungalow.  We survived, financially, by the skin of our teeth and absolutely love it here but, had we been able to get the first house, I'm sure we would've still been there as there was so much scope to extend and improve - and we'd have been mortgage free a heck of a lot earlier!  



  

Bluebell1000

Big is okay in my opinion, think about the fun you can have from having friends and family to stay now you have room! I would love space for a craft room or a drum kit 😁

Jonboy_1984

It is normal and for most people disappears as you make the place your own.

Depending on the property values involved Selling and buying another probably won’t see much change out of £6k for the estate agent and solicitors and then you will have stamp duty on top which you probably avoided as FTB, so if you are going down that route at least £10k of your equity(previous deposit) will disappear so definitely worth giving it a few months for the dust to settle.

Zerforax

What is the concern about the place being too big? Just means more room to keep your clutter! Just use the space you want for now and the rest can stay tidy.

I'd be more concerned if you moved in and then decided that it was too small since you can't really change that.

RHemmings

housebuyer143 said:

K_9981 said:

pretamang said:

my wife felt the same about our first place. The market was crazy at the time so we felt pressured to go for anything that came up and was half-decent. We'd just pulled out of a flat purchase after paying out lots of fees to find out the lease was a mess a few weeks before we were due to move in, and nothing else seemed as nice as that one. She saw it as an investment and short-term fix until we could move again and afford something bigger.

Once we got in, painted it, settled in with our furniture and things, made friends with the neighbours, she quickly fell in love with it and we were both really sad to move once we'd outgrown it a few years later.

I’m glad your wife fell in love with the flat in the end ☺️  I feel so guilty as my partner absolutely loves the house and I am sat there in tears. I feel like we should have gone for something smaller and then progressed to something bigger. I feel like this house is bigger than what I remembered and I just don’t want to live in the same place for 10+ years and I feel like this is more of a family home then a couple start up. I really don’t know what to do

You should definitely read my post when I bought mine. The main upset was we went to big and it was a mistake... It feels big now but you will very quickly adapt to the space and it won't feel like that at all. 

Once you have got it feeling more like home and built up some more cash it will start to feel better. 
It's better to go for larger than having to do all the buying and selling in a few years 100%. You will be surprised how quickly 10 years goes by... 

Is it this thread? https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6350704/anyone-regretted-buying-a-house-that-is-too-big

Ksw3

How long is your fix for and is there a charge for early repayment? 

We are in a 5 year fix. When I first moved in this felt like an eternity but time is moving much quicker and I'm liking the house more. 

BellaBlondykeTheThird

Felt the same about one house, couldn't shake it we sold it on 6 months later.

Life's too short.

K_9981

thegreenone said:

Buying a house is a huge undertaking and not surprising that you are feeling over/underwhelmed. 

How long until you can get an electrician in for a full rewire so you can see a start to getting the work done?  Positive things.

You say your family live locally, could you have a painting party soon?  Everyone helps with wallpaper stripping and a fresh coat of paint to brighten everything up - hopefully including ((((you)))) and hire a carpet cleaner/washer to spruce up the floors.   Lay on some food and drinks and if it's not raining, a BBQ would be fun - jacket pots and sausages a la Bonfire night. 

Get a Christmas tree and some lights up to make it 'warmer'.  As a probate property, it may have been empty and unloved for a long time but you and your partner can put the love back into it.

We wanted a large 3 bed semi for our first purchase together but it was a divorce case and Mr DID NOT want to sell and it dragged on so long that we pulled out.  We bought a smaller house that lasted until our youngest was one and then we needed to move.  We doubled the mortgage    to afford a detached bungalow.  We survived, financially, by the skin of our teeth and absolutely love it here but, had we been able to get the first house, I'm sure we would've still been there as there was so much scope to extend and improve - and we'd have been mortgage free a heck of a lot earlier!  



  

Thank you for your reply, this has really helped 😊 I really hope my feelings take a turn 

K_9981

RHemmings said:

housebuyer143 said:

K_9981 said:

pretamang said:

my wife felt the same about our first place. The market was crazy at the time so we felt pressured to go for anything that came up and was half-decent. We'd just pulled out of a flat purchase after paying out lots of fees to find out the lease was a mess a few weeks before we were due to move in, and nothing else seemed as nice as that one. She saw it as an investment and short-term fix until we could move again and afford something bigger.

Once we got in, painted it, settled in with our furniture and things, made friends with the neighbours, she quickly fell in love with it and we were both really sad to move once we'd outgrown it a few years later.

I’m glad your wife fell in love with the flat in the end ☺️  I feel so guilty as my partner absolutely loves the house and I am sat there in tears. I feel like we should have gone for something smaller and then progressed to something bigger. I feel like this house is bigger than what I remembered and I just don’t want to live in the same place for 10+ years and I feel like this is more of a family home then a couple start up. I really don’t know what to do

You should definitely read my post when I bought mine. The main upset was we went to big and it was a mistake... It feels big now but you will very quickly adapt to the space and it won't feel like that at all. 

Once you have got it feeling more like home and built up some more cash it will start to feel better. 
It's better to go for larger than having to do all the buying and selling in a few years 100%. You will be surprised how quickly 10 years goes by... 

Is it this thread? https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6350704/anyone-regretted-buying-a-house-that-is-too-big

Thank you, this thread has really helped. I am stating to feel a bit more positive