First time buyer but hate the house

K_9981

housebuyer143 said:

I bought my dream house last year and when I got the keys I hated it and I wasn't a FTB. I even  have a post on here about it 🤣 I absolutely love my house, but I can tell you I am never painting another wall! 
It's the initial shock. You spent a lot of money which is daunting, now you moved in and you clearly need to spend more money - even more daunting. 
Give it time, when things settle down you will feel different. 
It's not all smiles and happiness the day you get the keys which everyone be will have you believe.

Thank you 😊 you putting it into words like this is exactly how I’m feeling. I honestly thought buying a first home was so exciting like everyone says it is. When I’m reality it’s so different 

K_9981

Postik said:

babyblade41 said:

This isn't unusual at all, in fact it's quite normal .
Get one room just how you want it and start making it home, give it 12-18 months and see how you feel .

I remember I felt like that about my first house, mainly because it wasn't the detached mansion that I would have liked.  It was covered top to toe in wallpaper with low ceilings.  But my partner at the time liked it and so did my parents.

I started on the first room, which was the living room because it's where we spent the most time.  I got the buckled ceiling re-plastered, re-decorated in nice light colours, new wide-screen TV, new sofas, etc.  I think the bedroom was the next room.  Eventually I refitted the kitchen and bathroom.  It wasn't affordable to do it all at once and would have been too disruptive anyway.

In the end I loved that house, I still do now.  We only moved because we outgrew it.

Thank you. I just feel like we should have gone for something smaller to start with. The house feels so big but maybe that’s because we haven’t got everything in yet. I feel so lost and hope it gets better soon. I just feel like I’m trapped 

pretamang

my wife felt the same about our first place. The market was crazy at the time so we felt pressured to go for anything that came up and was half-decent. We'd just pulled out of a flat purchase after paying out lots of fees to find out the lease was a mess a few weeks before we were due to move in, and nothing else seemed as nice as that one. She saw it as an investment and short-term fix until we could move again and afford something bigger.

Once we got in, painted it, settled in with our furniture and things, made friends with the neighbours, she quickly fell in love with it and we were both really sad to move once we'd outgrown it a few years later.

Skiddaw1

I can't add to what everyone else has already said @K_9981 but please do accept a virtual hug from me.

I suggest you revisit this thread six months from now (because I'd put even money on you feeling completely different long before then).

K_9981

pretamang said:

my wife felt the same about our first place. The market was crazy at the time so we felt pressured to go for anything that came up and was half-decent. We'd just pulled out of a flat purchase after paying out lots of fees to find out the lease was a mess a few weeks before we were due to move in, and nothing else seemed as nice as that one. She saw it as an investment and short-term fix until we could move again and afford something bigger.

Once we got in, painted it, settled in with our furniture and things, made friends with the neighbours, she quickly fell in love with it and we were both really sad to move once we'd outgrown it a few years later.

I’m glad your wife fell in love with the flat in the end ☺️  I feel so guilty as my partner absolutely loves the house and I am sat there in tears. I feel like we should have gone for something smaller and then progressed to something bigger. I feel like this house is bigger than what I remembered and I just don’t want to live in the same place for 10+ years and I feel like this is more of a family home then a couple start up. I really don’t know what to do

K_9981

Skiddaw1 said:

I can't add to what everyone else has already said @K_9981 but please do accept a virtual hug from me.

I suggest you revisit this thread six months from now (because I'd put even money on you feeling completely different long before then).

Thank you ☺️ I really hope so. It’s just not what I expected at all from buying a house 

NameUnavailable

You can't really sell for at least 6 months and you said the house needs work. Look at it as a project, get stuck in to doing the work and if when it's done you still don't like the place consider selling then when you have added value to the place.

Chances are by then you will have completely changed your mind.

housebuyer143

K_9981 said:

pretamang said:

my wife felt the same about our first place. The market was crazy at the time so we felt pressured to go for anything that came up and was half-decent. We'd just pulled out of a flat purchase after paying out lots of fees to find out the lease was a mess a few weeks before we were due to move in, and nothing else seemed as nice as that one. She saw it as an investment and short-term fix until we could move again and afford something bigger.

Once we got in, painted it, settled in with our furniture and things, made friends with the neighbours, she quickly fell in love with it and we were both really sad to move once we'd outgrown it a few years later.

I’m glad your wife fell in love with the flat in the end ☺️  I feel so guilty as my partner absolutely loves the house and I am sat there in tears. I feel like we should have gone for something smaller and then progressed to something bigger. I feel like this house is bigger than what I remembered and I just don’t want to live in the same place for 10+ years and I feel like this is more of a family home then a couple start up. I really don’t know what to do

You should definitely read my post when I bought mine. The main upset was we went to big and it was a mistake... It feels big now but you will very quickly adapt to the space and it won't feel like that at all. 

Once you have got it feeling more like home and built up some more cash it will start to feel better. 
It's better to go for larger than having to do all the buying and selling in a few years 100%. You will be surprised how quickly 10 years goes by... 

K_9981

housebuyer143 said:

K_9981 said:

pretamang said:

my wife felt the same about our first place. The market was crazy at the time so we felt pressured to go for anything that came up and was half-decent. We'd just pulled out of a flat purchase after paying out lots of fees to find out the lease was a mess a few weeks before we were due to move in, and nothing else seemed as nice as that one. She saw it as an investment and short-term fix until we could move again and afford something bigger.

Once we got in, painted it, settled in with our furniture and things, made friends with the neighbours, she quickly fell in love with it and we were both really sad to move once we'd outgrown it a few years later.

I’m glad your wife fell in love with the flat in the end ☺️  I feel so guilty as my partner absolutely loves the house and I am sat there in tears. I feel like we should have gone for something smaller and then progressed to something bigger. I feel like this house is bigger than what I remembered and I just don’t want to live in the same place for 10+ years and I feel like this is more of a family home then a couple start up. I really don’t know what to do

You should definitely read my post when I bought mine. The main upset was we went to big and it was a mistake... It feels big now but you will very quickly adapt to the space and it won't feel like that at all. 

Once you have got it feeling more like home and built up some more cash it will start to feel better. 
It's better to go for larger than having to do all the buying and selling in a few years 100%. You will be surprised how quickly 10 years goes by... 

Thank you. Have you stayed there or moved along? I just can’t stop thinking if we should have bought a start up home or is like you said going bigger better in the long run? I’m just so confused at the moment

steve866

Moving is expensive (taxes, legal fees, agents) and very stressful. For that reason I've always gone as 'big' as I could and it has paid off in the long run massively. I felt underwhelmed when I moved into my most recent purchase seeing it empty, with all the imperfections but I love it now. Give yourself a 6 months with a positive mindset and then re-visit this thread.