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First time buyer but hate the house

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Me and my partner just bought our first home. We waited 5 months to get in and thought we loved it. We knew it needed some work to get it how we wanted it. It is day 2 and I really don’t like the house. It feels like the estate agents gave us the keys to a completely different house. I feel like our deposit was too high, leaving us with not much money. I’m not sure what to do now. My partner loves it whereas I feel like we should have paid a lower deposit for a newer house. If we were to sell and buy a smaller home, what would happen with the mortgage, and what happens to the surplus? Could we pay out the mortgage? I just don’t think this house or being a homeowner is for me
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If your partner loves it then is there a chance that after the initial stress and chaos of moving that you will fall back in love with it too?
It sounds like it might just be that the thought of living in a house that needs work is what doesn't appeal right now. Is the work needed significant or will small, cheap changes alter how you feel about it in the meantime? Painting walls and kitchen units could give the place a much needed face-lift in the short term that makes it much more yours.0 -
This isn't unusual at all, in fact it's quite normal .
Get one room just how you want it and start making it home, give it 12-18 months and see how you feel .
Don't forget lenders don't like lending if selling within 6 months so although conveyancing can take some time your buyers pool will be limited for now ....but give it time5 -
lika_86 said:If your partner loves it then is there a chance that after the initial stress and chaos of moving that you will fall back in love with it too?
It sounds like it might just be that the thought of living in a house that needs work is what doesn't appeal right now. Is the work needed significant or will small, cheap changes alter how you feel about it in the meantime? Painting walls and kitchen units could give the place a much needed face-lift in the short term that makes it much more yours.It needs a rewire which we loved the house so much we agreed we could do it. But it also needs plastering after , kitchen/bathroom update, skirting boards need replacing, and a lot of paint work. I think you are right about it not feeling appealing, I didn’t think of it in that way ☺️
I feel so depressed and at the time it didn’t feel far away from my family (only being 12 minute drive away) but now it just feels like a lifetime away from them. I just dread going back and don’t know what to do without hurting my partners feelings.0 -
babyblade41 said:This isn't unusual at all, in fact it's quite normal .
Get one room just how you want it and start making it home, give it 12-18 months and see how you feel .
Don't forget lenders don't like lending if selling within 6 months so although conveyancing can take some time your buyers pool will be limited for now ....but give it time0 -
You do like the house. You liked it in spring when it was fully furnished.
Now it's the most miserable time of the year and I guess you've just moved furniture in and not done anything else. You can probably see a few faults that were hidden before and I bet there are a few things maybe your memory wasn't that accurate about.
It can be quite depressing when your "dream house" is just an empty, slightly cold dark place.
But you both have time and creativity to make it much nicer and individual that the one you viewed.
Receiving a house isn't as "woo" as receiving a brand new car sadly. You need to get excited about the potential, the little projects you can do on it. Getting it ready for Christmas and summer.
A cheap, new home may feel like a safer option but you'll very soon get bored and outgrow it.
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It sounds like you are a little overwhelmed by the new house, I hope you don't mind me saying that. As BabyBlade41 has said, its actually not unusual to feel this way, there are many threads on this forum that have said the same.
It sounds like the house is liveable as is but needs work so just concentrate on one room at a time and make it how you want it. When you way the house needs a re-wire, does it really? How were the previous owners living there? I bought a ex council 1950s house that needed a re-wire according to the survey, I never got around to it in the 10 years I lived there.
If you truly want to change houses again you will need to factor in the costs of moving, how much did the solicitor etc cost this time? Also you won't have the FTB status so that will impact on the finances too. Have a look at your mortgage and see if you can switch without paying a penalty.
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mark_cycling00 said:You do like the house. You liked it in spring when it was fully furnished.
Now it's the most miserable time of the year and I guess you've just moved furniture in and not done anything else. You can probably see a few faults that were hidden before and I bet there are a few things maybe your memory wasn't that accurate about.
It can be quite depressing when your "dream house" is just an empty, slightly cold dark place.
But you both have time and creativity to make it much nicer and individual that the one you viewed.
Receiving a house isn't as "woo" as receiving a brand new car sadly. You need to get excited about the potential, the little projects you can do on it. Getting it ready for Christmas and summer.
A cheap, new home may feel like a safer option but you'll very soon get bored and outgrow it.0 -
GixerKate said:It sounds like you are a little overwhelmed by the new house, I hope you don't mind me saying that. As BabyBlade41 has said, its actually not unusual to feel this way, there are many threads on this forum that have said the same.
It sounds like the house is liveable as is but needs work so just concentrate on one room at a time and make it how you want it. When you way the house needs a re-wire, does it really? How were the previous owners living there? I bought a ex council 1950s house that needed a re-wire according to the survey, I never got around to it in the 10 years I lived there.
If you truly want to change houses again you will need to factor in the costs of moving, how much did the solicitor etc cost this time? Also you won't have the FTB status so that will impact on the finances too. Have a look at your mortgage and see if you can switch without paying a penalty.0 -
Perfectly normal to feel like that about a new place. Just give it a few months and you will feel less overwhelmed.1
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mark_cycling00 said:
Now it's the most miserable time of the year and I guess you've just moved furniture in and not done anything else. You can probably see a few faults that were hidden before and I bet there are a few things maybe your memory wasn't that accurate about.
It can be quite depressing when your "dream house" is just an empty, slightly cold dark place.
Never take a stranger's advice. Never let a friend fool you twice.0
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