First time buyer but hate the house

Flugelhorn

houses do look grim sometimes with everything removed - even all the dents in the carpets etc - it all goes in time and once the place has more of your own stuff in then it gets much more homely. I have on several occasions though "why have I done this" and it has always worked out in the end

cymruchris

If you're only on day 2 - you're only just through the door. You'll be surrounded by mess, most likely boxes, stuff in places it shouldn't be, you probably can't find half the things you're looking for, you're likely not used to how things work - and so no doubt you'll feel absolutely different to the time you were wandering around looking at an empty house. As you say it needs work - and that'll be a challenge - but once out the other side I'm confident you'll see things very differently. 

As the home takes shape to look and feel how you want it to, and you begin to make memories, it'll turn from a shell that you hate into a home that you enjoy. Don't make any rash decisions, no knee-jerk reactions. It might be tough for a while - but life always has challenges, and this is one of yours.

Have you listed out the things you actually don't like about it now you're in? The physical attributes?

Or is it just a feeling of chaos at the moment as it probably feels like a combination of a badly organised jumble sale and some tired old fixtures, fittings and paintwork?

Hoenir

Home is where you make it. Once you start to personalise the property the attachment will grow. 

Ksw3

I'm sorry. I had exactly this. Our house is very unappealing in winter. I feel more comfortable here but I still see problems everywhere I look. 

The first thing we did was the bedroom. Painted it, got the furniture in, made sure it was tidy. It's become my little haven from the rest of the house and is somewhere I wake up not staring at all the flaws and am happy to retreat to at the end of the day. 

We next did the living room, I thought the previous colours were OK but after we painted realised they were really drab and depressive. 

It's taken about 6 months for me to feel vaguely settled and I'm sure I'll grow to love it more as we invest in it. 

It's a huge change buying a house and it takes a little time. You'll get there I'm sure. Is your mortgage a fixed term?

Slinky

My work colleague's partner felt like this when they bought their first house together. He struggled to get her to finally move out of her parents' home and move into their new home. A few years later she loved the home so much she didn't want to sell it when the time came to move on.

It's day 2, it's overwhelming, it's winter. Give it time to make it your own home.

K_9981

Ksw3 said:

I'm sorry. I had exactly this. Our house is very unappealing in winter. I feel more comfortable here but I still see problems everywhere I look. 

The first thing we did was the bedroom. Painted it, got the furniture in, made sure it was tidy. It's become my little haven from the rest of the house and is somewhere I wake up not staring at all the flaws and am happy to retreat to at the end of the day. 

We next did the living room, I thought the previous colours were OK but after we painted realised they were really drab and depressive. 

It's taken about 6 months for me to feel vaguely settled and I'm sure I'll grow to love it more as we invest in it. 

It's a huge change buying a house and it takes a little time. You'll get there I'm sure. Is your mortgage a fixed term?

I am so glad I’m not the only person who feels like this. We picked fixed term as we got a good interest rate before they went up again. I am worried I still won’t like it in 6 months time. Just starting to feel regret and maybe being a homeowner is too much stress for me personally 

Postik

babyblade41 said:

This isn't unusual at all, in fact it's quite normal .
Get one room just how you want it and start making it home, give it 12-18 months and see how you feel .

I remember I felt like that about my first house, mainly because it wasn't the detached mansion that I would have liked.  It was covered top to toe in wallpaper with low ceilings.  But my partner at the time liked it and so did my parents.

I started on the first room, which was the living room because it's where we spent the most time.  I got the buckled ceiling re-plastered, re-decorated in nice light colours, new wide-screen TV, new sofas, etc.  I think the bedroom was the next room.  Eventually I refitted the kitchen and bathroom.  It wasn't affordable to do it all at once and would have been too disruptive anyway.

In the end I loved that house, I still do now.  We only moved because we outgrew it.

housebuyer143

I bought my dream house last year and when I got the keys I hated it and I wasn't a FTB. I even have a post on here about it 🤣 I absolutely love my house, but I can tell you I am never painting another wall! 
It's the initial shock. You spent a lot of money which is daunting, now you moved in and you clearly need to spend more money - even more daunting. 
Give it time, when things settle down you will feel different. 
It's not all smiles and happiness the day you get the keys which everyone be will have you believe.

Albermarle

There is even a name for what you are feeling . It is called Buyers Remorse. You can get it after any purchase, but obviously the feelings will be stronger when it such a big item.
Buyers Remorse When Buying a House? Property Solvers Explain What to Do...

Martico

It is daunting, but in some ways having to do a lot to a house can help. You will be making the decisions, doing a lot of the work, and with each small piece that you do, you'll feel a bit more of a sense of ownership. But yes, it can be very tough at the start