Progress not Perfection

dawnybabes

Glad your daughter has had the op, was it keyhole ?

grrrr to Mr SA - out hospital shop sold lip balm maybe mention it to his sister for next time 🤣🤣

warby68

Oh my goodness, DD's problem was obviously quite serious - you do wonder at them sending her home. I do hope she has a smooth recovery. She sounds like the easier one of your patients for sure though. She has been through the mill, it must be very frightening being whisked to surgery like that.

I don't think there are any easy answers for Mr SA, especially with delirium in the mix. He does not play fair with needs and attention at the best of times so can only imagine how far he can up the ante now. But PLEASE don't feel bad for leaving him to it for a day or two. You have no respite only that you make for yourself. If its not too rude, sister sounds as much use as a chocolate fireguard - surely she could have rustled up a lip salve or two for him and even picked up a change of clothes. She must be daft if she doesn't appreciate even just a little how much pressure is on you 24/7/365. I'm sorry he is not picking up though and its hard to stay away when he is so poorly. Lets hope tomorrow sees the tide turn for all of you xx

Chrystal

To be honest, and it's only my opinion, if he's well enough to hassle everyone with hearing range that he INSISTS on having lip salve NOW, then he's not that poorly.

It sounds as though he's so used to getting his own way that he can't imagine why people aren't jumping to his every wish.

I know he has brain damage, but SA has said that he's always been difficult, so that part is just him being him.  Problem is he has a phone.... wonder if the staff could mislay it for a couple of days.

Willowtree222

Hope you're getting some well needed rest. 

I think a day off is well deserved, even if it is just catching up with things.

Take care of yourself x

EssexHebridean

No wonder DD was feeling so rough - thank goodness she is hopefully now sorted and will be on the mend!

Definitely agree with you taking a day for yourself. There is so much pressure of expectation in situations like this - but particularly where there are other family members to visit, you absolutely do not need to visit every single day. If it suits others to do that with their hospitalised family members, then good for them, but their needs aren’t the same as yours! (And they might also have easier travel to get there than you do!) 

jwil

Glad DD has finally got a diagnosis.  You definitely need a day to yourself.

RelievedSheff

Glad they have found out what was wrong with DD. Hopefully she should be on the mend now.

Hopefully Mr SA will be on the mend soon. He is in the right place for him right now.

You make sure you get some you time this weekend.

enthusiasticsaver

Again I wonder why SIL could not get lipsalve at the hospital shop.  I agree you need to take a day or two to yourself especially if they discharge your DD in the next few days too.  You do not drive and you are still trying to work too and have two family members in different hospitals.  Maybe if the hospital see how difficult Mr SA is then you may get more support going forward (unlikely but maybe?).  Whatever I agree you need some respite as your holiday sounded anything but relaxing. 

Blackcats

I hope that DD can now begin her recovery - the last couple of weeks must have been very scary for her and worrying for you of course, 
From experience I would say that a Friday discharge is not recommended as there won't be GP cover or easy access to district nurses etc so hopefully DD stays in over the weekend to be sure of the best care and least responsibility for you for her post-op care.

MrSA sounds like he is dehydrated or has a UTI - that usually causes strange imaginings.  My dad was adamant there was a fox in his hospital ward.

suggest to the ward that they give him one of those little sponges on a stick and a pot of water to keep his lips moist and get some fluid into him.  Tell him that this method is much better than lip balm! 

Hopefully the old adage of going to work for a rest is true for you today.

Sun_Addict

Thank you all. 

Worked in the office this morning, did what I had to do then logged off before lunchtime. Caught a bus to the hospital to see Mr SA. He looks and sounds so much better. The fluid is finally clearing from his lungs and he’s a lot more lucid. The ward he’s on is really nice (despite SIL saying it was horrible 😐). He’s right by the window and can watch people walking past. He was enjoying fish, chips and mushy peas when I arrived. He has admitted he doesn’t want to come home until it’s safe for him to do so. 

The elderly bloke in the bed opposite him had a speaking clock shouting out the time and date every 5 minutes. It said the date was 31 December 😬 Fortunately his grandson came to see him and set it to the right date and hopefully for the other patients put it on silent. 

I’m afraid SIL has been interfering and I’ve had to put her back in her box in no uncertain terms 🤬 She has no idea of how Mr SA is at home, she never visits. She was telling the hospital he needs carers to come in and get him up, shower him, etc. He doesn’t he can do this himself! 

DD is doing great, she’s had another scan to make sure the op has worked and will get the results tomorrow. 

Got back home about an hour ago and played with the dog in the garden then sat and read my book in my hanging chair. 

Today’s freebies - free Caffè Nero coffee courtesy of 🐙 been upgraded from Greggs 😆 Also free weekend paper and magazine from Waitr0se and free magazine from Mr T. 

Only spends have been 2 x £2 bus fares to/from hospital. Walked to work.