Progress not Perfection

PennysIntoPounds

I got my Dad one of those pedal bars so he could 'cycle' while watching TV, is that something that he might be up for? 
Though I like @Cherryfudge idea of earning the beers 😁

beanielou

So many reps of lifting tins of beans earns a beer! 

Crazycatlady2

Totally get where you coming from with having a wobble tbh. Our household have it very different due to youngest disabilities and it gets to you when you see and hear what others are up to sometimes x

amber03

When me and the DH both worked before early retirement I had a lot of time by myself where I could do or go wherever I wanted, be it shopping, walking etc as he worked abroad quite a bit. THat all changed when we both finished work and to be honest I have struggled with him being here all the time. I am someone who can always find something to do or go to. I had started to have a “ME” day where I would just do something by myself. That all stopped when Covid hit. I decided recently to start this again as I love time by myself. DH is out with friends this Saturday, so I decided to start this Saturday and head out to the shops to have a good old mooch around and have coffee and cake. Only to be informed this afternoon that DH has booked the car in at the garage for repairs on Saturday and can I pick it up. Not happy at all, told him as much. So I’ll go out Sunday instead, so no food shopping or roast dinner will be done. 

I feel for you SA, it must be harder for you, due to your home circumstances. You do feel like you are forgotten and you are entitled to have a wobble.xx

harddays

I understand you having a wobble I frequently have them. OH has alzheimers and progressing faster than expected. Life changed overnight and friends drop off.
I have just persuaded him to have a sitter twice a week for 3hrs.
Makes a big difference but hospital appointments for other conditions keep coming up on my small amount of freedom  .
Take care x

Sun_Addict

Thank you for the kind comments and the funny ones about him earning his beer with exercise @Cherryfudge @beanielou 🤣 I've thought of the cycle thing before @PennysIntoPounds but suspect it would end up gathering dust behind his chair after the initial enthusiasm wore off. We do have an unused exercise bike which he won't let me get rid of in case he wants to use it, same with the bar weights he's holding on to just in case.

He does use his Zimmer frame @ladyholly although it was outside on Sunday when he needed it! It's back in the house now and he was using it yesterday.

@Crazycatlady2 it must be even harder when it's your child that's affected, I take my hat off to you. 

@amber03 this is exactly what I'm dreading when I retire. I was an only child so fiercely independent and happy in my own company, I like to go places by myself. 

@harddays alzheimers is a terrible disease, I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. I hope you manage to get some of that 3 hours respite to do something nice for yourself.

Apologies if I've missed someone out who has commented. 

Sun_Addict

Morning all.

WFH again today. I'm hoping to get back to the office tomorrow as I feel I need to get out of the house and have a change of scenery. Mr SA was very wobbly yesterday so will have to see how he goes today. I'm thankful I have the option of WFH in place although I am allowed carer's leave. I don't want to use carer's leave unless it's a real emergency.

It should be NSD3 today. I thought I might need to pick up some bread but there's enough to last until the big shop arrives on Thursday.

Talking of the big shop, what was I saying about Michael Moseley coming out of his dust bag every January, he was on TV last night rummaging though people's shopping trolleys 🤣🤣 It was quite entertaining though. 

I feel a lot more refreshed this morning although the dog got me up twice in the night to be let out! 

Today's exercise is dog walking later this morning, a lunchtime bums & tums session and resistance bands tonight.

Tonight's dinner will involve the final bits of the cheap root veg bought before Christmas shouting 'eat me' every time I open the fridge, possibly something in the slow cooker. 

Crazycatlady2

Grr to dog getting you up....it's like they take it in turns 😂

When I get up with my son in night I quite often have the cat bothering me too but luckily the dog sleeps well in his crate all night....hope I've not jinxed it now 😂

Cherryfudge

Sun_Addict said:

@amber03 this is exactly what I'm dreading when I retire. I was an only child so fiercely independent and happy in my own company, I like to go places by myself. 

I wonder if you could arrange it so you 'don't retire'? Maybe reduce hours but have 'office days', IYSWIM? You could even do it for real if your company allows it: some sort of minimal contract. It would give you your own space and time, provide more social contact and a trickle of income - and your employer would benefit from your experience which has to be good from their point of view.

I saw the Michael Moseley programme last night too - DH guessed drinks were the problem before MM said so!  

foxgloves

Morning @Sun_Addict,
Now then Missis, you are allowed to have a wobble every now & again....even a wobbly wobble. You have a tough role in being the full-time earner & carer and you don't seem to get much, if anything, in the way of official support. I was listening to a Michael Mosely prog on Radio 4 recently (yes, he does get about, doesn't he?!) & it was about maintaining muscle strength. Basically, there was an expert saying that it is keeping our big thigh muscles strong now in our 50s which will make the difference with independence in everyday tasks in our 90s.....even just being able to get on & off the loo without assistance. I made a mental note to do the standing up from a chair without using my arms as a matter of regular habit - it's something I used to do, but the habit has slipped, & for people who hate squats (me!), this is apparently the next best thing. So when I read your post about Mr SA not being able to get himself up off the floor, it made me wonder, as others have done. if he could attend any strength training classes or similar for people in his situation. I suppose, as you say, the problem is that this sort of intervention is temporary, & if he won't do the exercises at home, then it is back to square one, but it really does sound as though some kind of intervention is needed, Have you & your DD ever had any training in how to lift a person off the floor? As you have mentioned that Mr SA is tall & heavy, you could both end up doing yourselves an injury. It is a difficult situation, which doesn't sound as though it is likely to get any better without some kind of help.
Re retirement worries because of no longer getting to have much needed time away from the house - I think you will need to play the assertive lead role here by establishing at least a day a week when you go out on your own for some 'me time'. I wouldn't get into any debate about it, but just do it. Everyone deserves some time for themselves & it is not at all unreasonable. 
Honestly, I think you should have a medal (preferably one which comes attached to a lovely bottle of rose cava)
F x