Frump to Fab 2023

thepurplepixie

I want a Catholic mass and reception into the church the night before.  The whole shebang.  Hardly any friends are Catholic so they won't know what's going on.

I'm reading a great book, Priests de la Resistance.  It is about religious people and what they did in the war, most of them Catholic but not all, e.g Prince Philip's mother who was Greek Orthodox.  They are such characters and incredibly brave as they stood up to the nazis and some died horrible deaths in the end but they saved thousands and thousands between them.  Although bits are obviously very sad/traumatic it is very uplifting about human courage and the will to sacrifice for others.

thepurplepixie

I did get out, didn't get the cream bun as I had a maple and pecan danish instead.  It was lovely and I felt better and bought myself some new jeans in Sainsburys, I did need some.

Floss

I've put in my will that I want a Humanist service & my ashes scattered where my parents' ashes were scattered. The choice of service is to take the decision from my sons who are non-religious / practising Catholic... one of my brothers has suggested a Scouse Viking funeral by putting me into a wooden boat on the Mersey near my home & setting fire to it 🤣🤣

Abbafan1972

Morning. 

I have just been reading about Humanist services (I have heard of them before, but just wasn’t sure what they were). Lol, about the Viking boat! 

They sound something really nice and especially if you are not religious. 

Regarding music being played - my cousin unfortunately died last year at the age of 44 and although I wasn’t at the funeral, my parents went and they said that “Firestarter” by The Prodigy was played and also a song by Coldplay, but they didn’t know which one. 

Regarding my frump to fab campaign, I need to get in touch with my hairdresser, as I desperately need a haircut. I am using my perfume bottles and creams everyday. 

I need to be good with my food this week, as I need to get a loss this week! 

Speak soon xx

TC77

Interesting reading all the posts. A house inventory sounds good as I ca never remember what paint colour I've used etc or when guarantees run out.
On the humanist funeral side both my parents had humanist funerals 12 years apart and we asked the same celebrant as she was wonderful. My mum wanted Bing Crosby and then my dad chose other music and some.of us read or said things but overall is was a celebration of their life and everyone of different faiths who attended found it helpful/ reflective/ celebratory if that makes sense. 
On the fabbing front dressed up.for friend's birthday meal, have discovered dresses are so much more.comfy than tight waistbands bit must get waterproof mascara. Rarely wear it but last 2 times found had drifted not a good look. 

thepurplepixie

My husband attended a humanist funeral but the celebrant didn't turn up.  DH took over and at the end the funeral director asked him if he'd be interested in some paid work.  DH declined, he didn't feel he could do the same for a stranger as he'd done for his friend and he was glad he could do it for him.

2Scratters

@sugarbaby125 loved the picture of your night out - beautiful smile and a stunning pink dress. 
Yesterday made an effort and trying to get the needed mind set of saving nothing for best. Each day as it happens is its best.

The above statement here is from a few days ago and clearly not  completed it. I had popped back in to see you had all been going on as i ended up working all weekend.
I'll pop back later.

2 Scratters xx

sugarbaby125

2 Scratters thank you 

Watty1

Loved catching up on here. The funeral talk reminded me of my mum.  She always said she wanted a jazz band at her funeral so when she died I found one.  They said if they played at the funeral they wouldn't be able to play for long and suggested they played at the wake afterwards.  So they did.  A few people raised eyebrows but at the end people were up and dancing and so many people came up and said what a fabulous party and then remembered why they were there, it was kinda funny as they then said, oh but you mum would have loved this.

She would have too.  Then me and the ex and my brother went out for a dinner.  A good service for a life well lived.  Which is what I think all of us can ask for.

Watty1

I understand being so consumed by grief. I lost myself when my relationship collapsed and my gorgeous partner turned into someone I just did not recognise.  He had some kind of breakdown when his stepfather died, went into counselling and I took the brunt of everything.     I left him, am still struggling to cope, he refuses to settle the finances and although I have a very nice man in my life now I am still struggling with the loss of that relationship and myself. That is why I am here.

To rebuild me.