NST January 2023 Best Possible Me 28 December 2022 at 2:20PM in Debt-free wannabe challenges 557 replies 19.2K views

grandmanerd

Monday 2nd January 2023

Emotional Abuse Looks Like This
The Silent Treatment
Refusing to accept responsibility for actions
Manipulating to get what you want
Pushing someone to question their sanity
Leading someone to believe it is their fault when it is not
Using shame to make a person feel bad
Indifference when someone appears hurt, sad, or upset 
Ignoring someone when they express deep feelings
Ridiculing a person for expressing vulnerability

When you stand up for yourself and become visible, narcissists will try to gaslight you into believing you are the problem. Don't fall for it. They are deeply disturbed individuals and believe everyone should operate in ways that make them comfortable. Let them be uncomfortable and alone in their paranoia, envy, need to micromanage and control others who threaten them. You set your boundaries and continue slaying.
Shahida Aribi @ selfcarewarrior

Be the Person Who Breaks the Cycle
If you were judged, choose understanding
If you were rejected, choose acceptance
If you were shamed, choose compassion
Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not thee person who hurt you
Vow to be better than what broke you - to heal instead of becoming bitter so you can act from your heart, not your pain
Lori Deschene

There's no need to  be perfect to inspire others. Let people be inspired by how you deal  with your imperfections
thisislovelifequotes.net

thriftylass

Just checking in to distract myself from the cravings, so badly want to nip out, get a break.

Kids are hectic, trying to tidy Christmas deco (they are helping, bless, it makes it harder but keeps them off screens, one of my resolutions). Also the more I tidy the more I see that needs doing. Need to learn to control the overwhelm and go back to eating the elephant one bite at the time.

 I'm now literally eating instead (that yummy salad I made earlier came in handy) and might even nip upstairs for a quick snooze till it passes. 

Toni'sfriend

Grandmanerd - I think that is the best description emotional abuse and how to deal with it that I have ever read. I wish I had seen it years ago! That post should be pinned up on walls everywhere. Thank you. Even at my advanced years I can take positives from it. xxx

Toni'sfriend

NSD No 2 - Not been out and about!

I've not been very good today. A few gins and snacking on some lovely blue cheese and crackers this afternoon. To be honest, the hospital tests are constantly on my mind and I can't settle. Can't take anyone with me because of COVID regulations and in any case all three of my close friends won't be here. No point in taking Himself either. Feel quite ashamed of myself given what other people cope with on a daily basis.

But I have done a few little tidying up jobs, contacted my friends before they go to Spain for three months (lucky things!), booked our annual holiday in the Lake District next December and contacted the holiday cottage lady for March to see how much we owe her.

Finished off the soup for lunch and I have sliced up the rest of the pork fillets into medallions and made a pepper, onion, cider and brandy sauce to cook them in. Roasties and parsnip as sides.

Currently watching some old programmes on tele. Pie in the Sky and some really old British wartime films. All stiff upper lift and get on with it type things.

Hopefully, I'll be in a more positive mood tomorrow.

lcc86

Productive day today. Was on call but didn't get called in, which is always a winner! Did some pilates and my physio exercises first thing, then cleaned my aquarium and hoovered. Got two loads of washing on and washed my walking boots and trainers afterwards to get rid of the mud. Probably pointless at this time of year but I like to keep on top of it!

Ordered some new aquarium plants and some stuff I needed for my rabbits, I try to buy in bulk and spent enough to get free postage. I also ordered a birthday card and an anniversary card. I walked to the local shops for some eggs but they were all out, so walked home and had to jump in the car to go and get some locally. 

I put the Xmas decs away and took the opportunity to put some other bits down in the basement that have needed to be moved for ages! Cleaned up the kitchen corner that has become a dumping ground and it's looking fab now.

Did a workout while watching worlds strongest man and about to jump in the bath. Have a long day at work tomorrow so have defrosted lunch and dinner and got everything together already to try and be prepared!

NSD's - 1

Healthy food days - 2

Workouts this week - 3

BadBookkeeper

Hope you are feeling better soon @grandmanerd.

NSD 1/15 for me. A day of packing Christmas away, a bit of a hoover & dusting and the ironing.  Proper clean can wait until Saturday.

Tried to drink more water today, not a fan but will keep going.

I should have changed my plans today and gone for a nice walk somewhere, the weather was cold but sunny.  Wish I had but it’s also nice to have the house back to normal although like someone else mentioned you see everything that needs, tidying/cleaning/fixing/painting etc!

Sorted DS wardrobe out a bit it is always an easy one to do but always better once done.

Back to work tomorrow but from home so not got that dread!!  

Cashed out some tcb money to go towards one of my 2023 goals.  

apple_muncher

Toni'sfriend, please don't feel bad about what you are having to cope with. Don't compare yourself with others, and all that. You are a turtle and we can tell each other anything. Have some hugs and a stretch out on the chaise lounge - it's fully equipped with cushions and blankets, fairy lights and whatever food you want.

the_cross_rabbit

Generally a good day, plenty of exercise. Took a bag of Christmas type food to the food bank as I'm trying to lose weight and I have no willpower. Had a walk to the local pond/park to get rid of some fat balls(smashed them up) that dad had gave me. Quick trip to the supermarket spent less than £10, everything was y/s except 1 item.
Christmas tree etc is down, cards recycled and Cs bag added to.
CRx 

Toni'sfriend

apple_muncher said:

Toni'sfriend, please don't feel bad about what you are having to cope with. Don't compare yourself with others, and all that. You are a turtle and we can tell each other anything. Have some hugs and a stretch out on the chaise lounge - it's fully equipped with cushions and blankets, fairy lights and whatever food you want.

Thank you. I think some nice relaxing (and expensive) tea, a wee bit of lemon shortbread and another chapter of my book will help enormously.

ldee2111

2nd January update 

Woke early, made a tea, sleepily walked back to bed to have a read of turtle updates… DS flew out his room to the bathroom where he was sick… first gratitude of the day is that he made it to the bathroom! Not sure what caused it but he’s well now.

We went to watch football team alongside DS’s grandparents this afternoon. Sadly no goals and a fairly dull game. 

Had a medley of homemade chips, beans and pasta for dinner… trying to use up food before our winter sun trip this week. Might have a hot chocolate tonight… to use up the milk of course. Tomorrow will be a pamper and pack day. 

Grateful for the crispy bacon roll OH made for lunch, for tea, and a warm home to return to after sitting in the cold for 90 minutes. 

NSD 1/15