Prosperous soul, mortgage neutrality & creativity Year 2

Fortune_Smiles

Well done on the life style changes and weight loss SH - you are inspiring me to make some of my own changes.  I've been listening to this podcast recently and it's been making me think a lot about what I'm eating.

Fortune x

doingitanyway

I hope the viewing goes well

savingholmes

Earliest viewing for that one is Tuesday so need to decide if wait until Saturday instead. They had a sale fall through. Lots of offers already refused. Doesn't sound like I could get it for what I am willing to pay.

Other option is to try original valley house.

Drove to valley today. Had coffee in a tiny cafe and talked to friendly locals. Not much on the market in the area currently... Definitely need to consider practicalities. Last 5 miles of journey to valley sometimes cut off in winter. 

Currently in a pub about 7 miles away. Didn't enjoy meal but they have my fave soft drink.

Unfortunately I forgot to take meds today and have none with me. Don't know whether to go home early....

Will reply to individual comments when I am back on a laptop.

doingitanyway

I don't know how far you are from home. Could you drive home for meds, then go back?

If the vendor has had a sale fall through they might be more open to an offer not less?

I found talking to friendly locals to be the best way to 'get a feel' for the area. 

jwil

Hope you enjoyed your day out.  Have you looked into internet connections in the new area? Not only for WFH, but if I was in an area likely to be cut off by weather, I'd like to feel connected to the world still.

savingholmes

Thanks Beanie, MF, Dancing, Jwil and KK

I was really put off by the estate agent - as they were suggesting the vendors wouldn't accept any low offers and had already rejected loads. I think the romance wore off slightly yesterday of the tiny valley too as I sat in the tiny cafe that wasn't much bigger than my lounge. There was a young family there but they were visiting their mother while she volunteered there. All the other people in the cafe were pensionable age. The young family said they lived in a nearby town as there was more there for the kids. However, I was feeling a huge level of fatigue as I'd forgot my meds and ended up going home early as I was scared I'd otherwise fall asleep while driving.

KajiKita said:

I like the boldness of the trainers - both the colourfulness and the decision to get them. I am starting to realise I am looking a bit threadbare … I need to do something about this but I hate shopping so much and I don’t want to spend the money! 😂

KK

I bought mine online. In real terms I've had the same brand of trainers for about 13 years now - just get different styles in them.

savingholmes

Thanks FS - I don't have a TV licence so assume I can't listen to that. What these meds have proven is that my huge level of over eating had a chemical component. That actually feels quite freeing and enables me to forgive myself for it. I was telling my counsellor this week that even as a child I stole money from my parents for sweets and chocolate - but apparently that was logical as it was one of the few ways to give myself dopamine in a tricky family and school situation.

Apparently these meds are known to positively impact binge eaters but aren't prescribed in isolation due to the risk of dangerous side effects which I found out this week can include sudden death which was a shock. Presumably that's why I needed an ECG first and regular BP monitoring. For the first time in years I am experiencing a feeling of 'fullness' during meals - and sometimes stopping before my plate is cleared. That in itself is blowing my mind. What I also hadn't anticipated is that it is changing the taste of food. So crisps while on the meds taste wrong and very chemically - but off the meds yesterday were delicious. Shop bought coffee cake ended up being binned which just never happens in this house. It felt the same waste of calories that a watery tangerine is that has lost its flavour. I have had some small bits of chocolate but it's no longer a compulsion.

I gained a 1/4 of a pound overnight just for one day off the meds. I reckon I ate at least 600 extra calories yesterday of junk compared with when I am on the meds. My mouth was back to being as dry as a bone overnight - where is had improved significantly while on the meds - presumably helped by the reduced sugar. I am a mouth breather so some dryness is to be expected.

I think it is also highlighting my impulsivity. I wasn't that aware of it before - as presumably I just did things - but now I am wondering was the valley house an impulse / autistic obsession. I still think I'd benefit from being surrounded by more green - but can now at least process the valuable bits in what the naysayers are saying - such as consider medical, wifi, travel in winter etc. I have a horror of single track roads - but in that valley - only one road out is dual track all the others are single so I need to consider how much time (and stress) that could add to journeys.

Thanks DIA - I was too far away from home and really tired from the lack of meds.

Jwil - good call on the internet. Phone signal isn't great.

Hope you are all having a good weekend. 

DD is switching her official address elsewhere which feels a huge milestone. There would be a benefit in testing the impact of that ahead of any move on my part too.

My trainers came - I'm keeping one set and returning the others. I did a short walk to the nearby shop last night but just bought slices of ham and beef and some tomatoes.

Merlin's_Beard

SH -BBC radio and podcast listens don't need a TV licence, which is for live television and iplayer only (not BBC sounds which is the audio-only part these days)

I think having a rethink when the practicalities and the realities of the location become apparent isn't a terrible thing to do. The whole point of you going was to gather more information so you can better make a decision - if you've got more information, then that's good!

Baileys_Babe

@savingholmes do you regularly use the same bag when going out? If so would it be possible to keep a small amount of your medication in a pocket or similar? It would prevent yesterday's difficulties.

KajiKita

“  I was telling my counsellor this week that even as a child I stole money from my parents for sweets and chocolate - but apparently that was logical as it was one of the few ways to give myself dopamine in a tricky family and school situation.”

Ummmm ….. me too …. For similar reasons.
<loud sound of penny dropping with a clang like a sauce pan lid>
Wow. 

Thank you for sharing that insight. ❤️

KK