A Better Life.

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I hope you know that if there was something we could do to help, we would. Take care

Crazycatlady2

I’m also member of a Facebook group for carers but not sure if same one. Makes you feel less alone at least x 

RosaBernicia

Sorry to hear that Buffy.  I'm rarely on here at the moment but have been popping in to check your diary as was worried how all this would affect you. 

I hope things will work out, but I also really wish you'd see a solicitor so you know what can be done to protect your interests, since it seems your family haven't been prioritising you and may not treat you fairly. 

Also on a message if needed. 

RB xx

Buffythedebtslayer

Thanks everyone, I am a little better today. I have a lot to do and there is nothing I can do about what has happened. I need to wait for the out come of a few decisions and plan from there. Rosa, it is too late to protect anything now. When I spoke to a finance advisor a few months (year?) ago it couldn't be done but now it is too late. It is awful really. Even difficult to write about it. I will message you tho, when I get a minute. 

In other mundane news the dishwasher is broken. So I need to do a LOT of washing up. And washing and hoovering and cleaning out of animals. 

Since my sister visited dog two has been so jumpy and needy. He is breaking my heart. The guinea pigs make a noise drinking from their bottle and each time if  he is asleep he jumps when they drink. He follows me constantly, I nearly fell over him the other day and I shouted and felt so bad. But I was right in the oven getting the dinner out  
they have had so much to cope with. 

Need to get on with the housework. 

RosaBernicia

Sorry to hear that Buffy.  I hope the decisions come out as much in your favour as possible, and also that from here on you act for YOUR needs.  And I would still check in with a solicitor, even just an initial consult, to be sure that everything you are being told is correct. 

I'll message you about something that might be of interest. 

Re dogs underfoot in the kitchen, mine have got accustomed to sitting at the other end because I throw scraps and treats over there while I'm prepping and cooking. It helps keep them out of the way.  You can always try the same thing! 

Buffythedebtslayer

that is a really good idea about the dogs, thank you XXX 

milann

Sorry to read this Buffy. Hope things work out as best they can for you.

Buffythedebtslayer

No answers yet. 

Bit annoying as can't really "do" anything concrete till it is sorted. 

I honestly thought I would do some gardening today but that didn't happen. 

News in Buffy world. 

1. Tried online dating - a disaster - people expect to meet immediately - it has been at least ten years since I did any serious attempts at dating, now they have location, verifying of pictures and all sorts! I was used to chatting for a week or so and then meeting but now it is if can't come out tonight or tomorrow then that is it. Given that that isn't possible in my world I have snoozed my profile! Oh and one guy, he thought he was paying me a compliment by telling me he liked me cos I was fat! Delightful!! I mean I am fat but come on! At least lie about my personality! 

2. I have realised the dogs are fully attached to ME. I feed them at the same time each day and we have a routine that is apart from mum. She is too frail to do much with them. This has sort of broken me really. Leaving them each day is getting easier but coming home to two absolutely frantic to see me dogs is heartbreaking. They are hyper alert to everything especially dog 2. 

3. The rabbits are adorable. See also Guinea pigs (please imagine me saying that as Giinnnny piiigs cos I love them)

4. I haven't killed any vampires. 

5. Work is simply dreadful. DREADFUL. But still better than being at home. 

6. I have no money!! 

There is about an hour till the sun sets. I wonder if I could garden for a bit............

beanielou

Step away from the online dating.
Imagine someone telling you that you are fat.
THat's just so unaccept5able on so so many levels. 
That's really not what  you need at the moment.
You are not fat BTW xxx

Buffythedebtslayer

beanielou said:

Step away from the online dating.
Imagine someone telling you that you are fat.
THat's just so unaccept5able on so so many levels. 
That's really not what  you need at the moment.
You are not fat BTW xxx

Oh I am and it isn't something I am going to do anything about because if you took away chocolate and cakes from me at this point I would lose my marbles and honestly I don't care about weight, I haven't got the discipline to do anything about it and there isn't anything wrong with being fat as such I just think I would rather get on with a person? and have them like ME not just because of my size if that doesn't sound too poncy and naff ! Another guy liked my feet and I was oooookay.................I have snoozed the profile and have to be realistic about actually having the time.... I don't!! and as one of my dear dear friends says this part of my life won't be forever so one day I will go a looking! 

I did nothing aside from feed the animals from the "herb garden" - read raised bed full of mint! they like it! 

I don't have much patience with Mum tonight. TV is on absurdly loud and she doesn't want dinner. Ok am just here at your beck and call!!