Money Moral Dilemma: Is it fair for my parents to penalise me for not having children?

edited 25 October 2022 at 5:11PM in Deaths, funerals & probate
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edited 25 October 2022 at 5:11PM in Deaths, funerals & probate
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

My parents are making their will, and have told me that they're splitting their assets equally between my brother, his two children and me - so we each get 25%. I'd assumed they would split them equally between me and my brother, and then we could reallocate them as we saw fit. As it is, it feels like my parents are penalising me for not having children, while rewarding my brother for having them, which seems unfair. It'll be difficult to tell my parents how I feel, but should I say something, or respect their wishes?

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  • thirtytwentytenthirtytwentyten Forumite
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    Emmia said:
    It's your parent's money to do with as they see fit - you're not entitled to any automatic inheritance, so they can give it to the grandchildren, the local donkey rescue or whatever.
    This ^^^^
  • JamesyMacJamesyMac Forumite
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    The money going to the kids is going to them; not your brother. You’re getting as much as your brother, and you aren’t being penalised, unless you thought that you’d be spending money that would be for your kids, if you had any.
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