Money Moral Dilemma: How much should my partner pay towards our holiday?

fpm

Get shot of him now, look at def of partner. He aint one.

easy

Flipping heck ..  so when it's time to buy ice-creams,  you'll buy the one for your child and he'll buy the one for his ???

If you are a family, then you shouldn't be regarding your children in this manner. As far as things like holidays are concerned,  you have 2 children - unless you want to alienate your partner's daughter for ever. 
My guess is that, if the daughter is 15,  you might just be able to ask her to babysit the little one while you both go for a drink/meal one evening during the holiday?  So that's worth your contribution on it's own,  isn't it?

TBH I'd assume that the cost of holidays was split 50-50,  or split depending on who earned more, or who had more money left after general housekeeping bills were settled.  

Seems like a strange family dynamic to me.

ginger_chocolate

KaelaLee88 said:

This is why advisors like Dave Ramsey talk expansively on the problems of "playing house" with someone who isn't your Spouse x

Not sure how being married or not would make any difference to this particular situation?

maman

I think the partner has been generous enough in offering to pay his daughter's air fare. OP wants to take advantage of the fact that their toddler daughter is still young enough to not need a ticket or presumably a separate room in the accommodation whereas the other child is older.

I'm hoping that when the holiday was planned, OP agreed happily to the stepdaughter coming along and suitable accommodation being booked.

NHenry

Your full circumstances are not evident here, but I suspect you haven't adopted your partner's daughter and she lives with her mother? If so she already has two parents supporting her. You, of course, should make her welcome, but she is their financial responsibility not yours anymore than any previous children you may have had are your husbands responsibility. You won't have equal parental role and say in her life, no matter how much time you spend together. As a woman you are stastically likely to earn less than your husband too. You are quite right to want to welcome his daughter, but highlight where your responsibility starts and ends, both financially and parental roles as I'm sure her mother and father will.

Pollycat

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