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The Mental Debt Struggle...

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  • Sarahwithlove
    Sarahwithlove Posts: 3,343 Forumite
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    That's great news about the refund it's about time. 

    I still have my fan on at the moment all the time and keep turning it off but then get too warm after 5 minutes. So frustrating but need to keep cool I suppose. Never happy with the weather us brits! 
    *Dad loan - £5300 - £7200
    *Virgin Credit Card - £3552.50 - £0
    *Natwest - £1828.35 -£0.00

    Barclaycard - £2315.25 - £0.00

    Creation Finance - £960.32 £840
    *Total debt - £8040/£11641.17*


    Savings
    *Savings Buffer - £100/£1500
    *Emergency Fund - £1500/£1500


    New diary- https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6474943/the-three-cs-coffee-clothes-credit-cards/
  • Hi Keedie! I am so amazed by your resilience and your kindness, your diary has been a rollercoaster read and all throughout you have steadfastly stuck to what is important to you! I have no doubt that you will smash this debt, even if the journey isn't linear, as it so often isn't! Your good parenting clearly comes from your loving parents, I will be checking in regularly!
  • AntoMac
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    Hooray for the refund - Nice to have a trip away (with your money saving railcard!) to look forward to as well 
    What a relief that the really hot weather has broken, although it’s still very muggy here in Somerset. Looking forward to a cold cider or two tonight. 
    @Aimingforthegoodlife makes a good point. Your journey won’t be linear but you WILL get there. I’m sure with your life experiences you know that there will be ups and downs to come. Keep remembering you’re going in the right direction and you’ve already achieved a lot.
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  • Keedie
    Keedie Posts: 2,851 Forumite
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    I've got a long day today as I have to do a bit of work for my employed job as I didn't complete all my hours this week due to my son's appointments, so I have to drag myself out of bed for that at some point. I was meant to log onto work this morning but I'm so tired I'll have to do it this afternoon instead. 

    Paid £50 fixed direct debit to MBNA so that's now 33.04% repaid. The minimum is £25 a month, but I'll need a balance transfer for my Barclaycard next year, so I need to get the balance for MBNA low and keep it at a level to get a good balance transfer around Easter 2023.

    A lady from the care agency is coming today to do a review of the support that I receive, and I'm not really in the mood to see anyone to be honest, but at least they're finally getting the details/instructions for the carers to match my actual care plan. So wish me luck that this lady actually gets it right, as the last time they interpreted my need for help with shopping as a domestic task and the last carer refused to help me with shopping as it wasn't on her list of things to do. And I live on the top floor (3rd floor) of a small block of flats, with no lift. It's been tough going that's for sure... 🤦🏾‍♀️.
    Debt Free Diary:- The Mental Debt Struggle
    (Original Debt on 15/07/2016 was £33,056.76) 🙈 but Debt Free on 09/02/2025 🎉
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  • beanielou
    beanielou Posts: 95,555 Ambassador
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    Hope that it is helpful today.
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    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.

    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
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  • AntoMac
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    Sounds like today had the potential to be quite a slog Keedie. Sometimes these days turn out to be not as bad as we thought. Hope that was the case today
    27/5/17 Mort 64705 BTs 1904031/12/17 Mort 59815 BT 1673007/04/20 Mort 49208 BT 1572128/07/20 Mort 47387 BT 1263414/11/20 Mort 45905 BT 10134 20/05/21 Mort 42335 BT 686811/08/22 Mort 32050 BT 2915Sealed Pot Challenge 16 Number 5
  • Hope it’s all gone ok with the care review and that you’re feeling ok? 

    Great news on your son’s mindset, that’s hugely positive x
    Life gets in the way...PADding is addictive...Saving's better than spending...
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  • Keedie
    Keedie Posts: 2,851 Forumite
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    Thanks for checking in @beanielou, @AntoMac and @LittleMissDetermined. Today turned out to be a lot better than I thought it would be, so I'm happy with that. 

    The review with the care agency took about 4 hours of going through an incredibly long risk assessment form, and my back was killing me and my brain fog was sabotaging me today so it was very slow going. But she fully understood my needs and where the agency had made errors beforehand and I showed her my original care plan and pointed out all that was missing. I pointed out that the main point of my care plan was to have help with domestic tasks (cleaning, laundry etc), food shopping and help with meal preparation to help with batch cooking and cooking light meals.

    For 18 months, I've had nothing but domestic support which was great, but in reality a fraction of what I needed. All because someone at their agency used their discretion and decided that they wouldn't include the shopping and help with food, despite the care plan saying that was an area of significant need. It's been a battle for the agency to admit that they were wrong and they refused to change it unless there was an increase in the care plan if I wanted 'extra' support. Of course social services refused to offer more hours and wanted to do a series of reviews and so I've been caught in between their assessments, paperwork and meetings for the last few months, but things are a lot better now.

    So we've come up with a new way of managing my 4 hours a week of care. Mondays will be 1 hour for food shopping and 30 minutes for meal preparation followed by 1 hour of domestic duties. Then on Thursday, it will be 1 hour domestic followed by 30 minutes meal preparation. The new carer is lovely and so I'm hoping that things will work out with a new plan and with the agency properly understanding what is needed 👍🏾.

    Today also ended up being a very spendy but unexpectedly happy evening, as my friend called me out of the blue and said that she was out for drinks as it was the last day of term (she works in a school) and she was Revolutions down the road so I went to out and it was fun. Had a strict budget and only brought in the happy hour cocktails 2 for £10 and at 16:58, managed to sneak in a lunch deal that ended at 17:00, with a really filling halloumi and avocado wrap and soft drink for £8.50. Wasn't expecting to spend, but I felt so much lighter for having gone out and been spontaneous for once 🤗.
    Debt Free Diary:- The Mental Debt Struggle
    (Original Debt on 15/07/2016 was £33,056.76) 🙈 but Debt Free on 09/02/2025 🎉
    2025 SAVINGS: Emergency Fund (£604.30/£5,000) 12.09% saved
    2025 CHALLENGES: #16 Sealed Pot Challenge ~ 18 || #9 50 Envelope Challenge 22/50
  • beanielou
    beanielou Posts: 95,555 Ambassador
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    A good day all round then  :)
    I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.

    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.

    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.
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