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Debt and Caring

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  • doingitanyway
    doingitanyway Posts: 9,889 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Name Dropper Mortgage-free Glee!
    Sorry things are so difficult at the moment. I hope your dad perks up after his lurgy. Glad your nephew gave you smiles  :)
    If you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them

    Emergency fund 0/1000
    Buffer fund 0/100
    Debt March -1,119 (April) -889 (April) -498 (April) -378 (May) -875 July (190)
  • savingholmes
    savingholmes Posts: 28,953 Forumite
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    Glad your nephew brightened your day. I'm seeing 2 nephews and a niece later and I'm looking forward to it too.

    Glad you have plans in place for your Dad. Look after you too.
    Achieve FIRE/Mortgage Neutrality in 2030
    1) MFW Nov 21 £202K now £174.8K Equity 32.77%
    2) £3K Net savings after CCs 6/7/25
    3) Mortgage neutral by 06/30 (AVC £22.5K + Lump Sums DB £4.6K + (25% of SIPP 1.1K) = 28.2/£127.5K target 22;12% updated 6/7
    4) FI Age 60 income target £16.5/30K 55.1%
    5) SIPP £4.6K updated 6/7/25
  • doingitanyway
    doingitanyway Posts: 9,889 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Name Dropper Mortgage-free Glee!
    We haven't had a post from you for a while. Hoping things are ok for you?
    Sending out positive vibes
    If you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them

    Emergency fund 0/1000
    Buffer fund 0/100
    Debt March -1,119 (April) -889 (April) -498 (April) -378 (May) -875 July (190)
  • Cherryfudge
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    I'm so sorry, @WelshmansDaughter, you're in my thoughts. x
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  • savingholmes
    savingholmes Posts: 28,953 Forumite
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    So sorry. Sending love and peace your way.
    Achieve FIRE/Mortgage Neutrality in 2030
    1) MFW Nov 21 £202K now £174.8K Equity 32.77%
    2) £3K Net savings after CCs 6/7/25
    3) Mortgage neutral by 06/30 (AVC £22.5K + Lump Sums DB £4.6K + (25% of SIPP 1.1K) = 28.2/£127.5K target 22;12% updated 6/7
    4) FI Age 60 income target £16.5/30K 55.1%
    5) SIPP £4.6K updated 6/7/25
  • doingitanyway
    doingitanyway Posts: 9,889 Forumite
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    Oh, I just read your last post! I'm so sorry to hear your lovely dad died. It might not help now, but it might be some comfort later to know you really were an amazing daughter. Take care and come back when you are ready. I am thinking of you.
    If you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them

    Emergency fund 0/1000
    Buffer fund 0/100
    Debt March -1,119 (April) -889 (April) -498 (April) -378 (May) -875 July (190)
  • Pink12345
    Pink12345 Posts: 30 Forumite
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    So sorry to hear of the passing of your lovely dad.  Now is the time to take great care of you.
  • stymied
    stymied Posts: 655 Forumite
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    I’m so sorry @WelshmansDaughter
  • Thank you all for your sympathy. 
    Dad finished living two weeks ago today. He got a Gold Star in the Game of Life.

    Some practicalities:
    Go back to work tomorrow, find out what the plan is for summer holidays.
    Bought new passport, am not hopeful that it will arrive soon.
    Carer's Allowance stops on 16/08 (Dad's birthday oh the irony). Govt site makes less sense than Dad at 2am but something exists called pathways to work. 

    No plans to get a job. I had thought about retraining, doing a level 5 course in the basics of art for a year. Doubt I could follow any kind of structure though.

    Making a garden for Dad. He planted a rose bush years ago beside the back wall. So I have bought plants to go in that area. Will also make some kind of living bench.

    In the meantime, I am sitting in the sun eating buttered pasta
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