Not far off.....

AntoMac

It’s good that your Dad is trying to maintain a relationship with you Emma. It must be difficult for him too. It sounds like your Mum isn’t going to ever change her behaviour so hopefully you can stay well away.
Keep being kind, and that includes being kind to yourself 

marzipan.

Emma, hi- I don’t often post on these sites but I read a few posts to keep me motivated and i wanted to share a quote with you that I think I may have got from on here a number of years ago. I’ve wanted to post it a few times in times of trouble with your mum/DS/OH’s daughter….
so here it is…

there comes a time in your life when you walk away from all the drama and the people who create it. 

You surround yourself with people who make you laugh.

Forget the bad & focus on the good. 

Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don't.

Life is too short to be anything but happy.

Falling down is a part of life. Getting back up is living.

Take care of you, you seem a compassionate, caring person and you are, no doubt, an amazing mum, daughter, partner, friend and if some people can’t appreciate you, walk away. For as long as it takes. 

MFWannabe

Valentines is just a rip off; he could buy you a very nice meal out for what they’d cost x 
Id say the  same 👍
plus I don’t ’buy’ into the valentines hype, why one day to show affection? 🤷‍♀️

Queen_of_the_Hive

Hey Emma, Sorry to hear the latest with your mum. Absolutely vile behaviour and no way to be treated.

It is by no means similar but last year I cut my dad out my life, he is not like  your mum but there is a lot of childhood trauma, hurt and in himself a very negative person. As an example, he'd call and say 'well i's still alive.. and then go on a rant..' I lost my best friend in 2022 and after that I couldn't mentally take listening to it anymore and last year was hard due to some personal stuff and I just blocked him out of my life without explanation but it did help immensly to deal with my personal stuff and to keep a positive head. My family  is ok in small doses. I jsut read what you say and think you should consider giving your mum a wide berth for a bit, as you may not realise how it impacts other aspects of your life. Your man sounds great, maybe let him treat you a bit as it reads he is a rock and don't let how family treat you, impact on that.

I'm really sorry if anything i have written causes any offense, you really deserve better & who cares what you look like in the gym. Often we don't look half as bad as our minds think we do. Well done you for going! After I move house I am going to get myself down there too as equally have boulders to loose

enthusiasticsaver

My goodness. How lucky you were there to save that lady. I was out walking with my group today and the ground is sodden and extremely muddy due to all the rain we have had. Hope the dog got out ok too. 

the_end_of_the_rainbow

How very lucky you were there - the rivers are so swollen where we are so I can imagine how quickly it took her. She is so lucky to be alive. 

wildheart83

Many years ago in the town I grew up in, there was a couple out walking with their baby and dog. The dog fell in the river so the woman went in after it and got in trouble, so her partner went in to rescue her but sadly all three succumbed to the swollen river and the poor baby ended up with grandparents as primary carer.

Well done for helping this woman, it could have ended so differently. 

marzipan.

Wow, Emma what a day that was, so lucky you and OH were there. Sliding doors moments really do make you think, if you hadn’t had those extra 15 mins at home…. That lady will never forget your bravery and how you kept her safe and calm. You saved her life. You are amazing to have the presence of mind to remain calm and collected under such circumstances and I commend you. Moments like this make us realise that there really isn’t any need to worry about things we have no control over like petty people who want to be in control of us etc. I hope your back feels better soon, do look after you. 💫

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And the bad news keeps on coming. The dog needs an operation. She has a lump under her nipple and is having surgery next Wednesday. I've been out for tea with my friends tonight and told my sister she needed an operation. She then told my Mum, who told everybody and now DD is upset that I didn't tell her first. I only didn't tell her because I wanted to do it face to face. I told my sister to ring my DD and explain that it was her that told everybody and not me. Besides, half of the family aren't speaking to me due to dog gate and so I've not really got anybody to tell. DD isn't speaking to me. Another one on the list! I can't be that unlucky to have another dog with cancer can I? She is insured and so it's going to cost me £99 excess. 

I feel like something has changed in me. I really can't be bothered dealing with other people's behaviour.  I just have no time for it. I seem to annoy a lot of people unintentionally. 

I'm going to put the dog in bed with me tonight, so we can cuddle. She likes to sleep in her cage (cage trained before I got her), but I'll just keep her with me and hope she doesn't wake me up in the night to go to her own bed. 

Humdinger1

Emma, it's not you I promise.  You are amazing; you've saved a life in the last few days! Please surround yourself with light mentally and exclude the emotional vampires.  Love Humdinger xx