House purchase, relatives items left in, now involving solicitor

canaldumidi

OP is still logging on/presumably reading, but has stopped responding. Not sure I'm surprised as the responses have probaby not been what was wanted or expected......

elsien

May I also suggest ignoring the ideas on here about giving auntie a cheery wave, unless you particularly want to add fuel to the fire.
You know those scenarios where you’re looking at someone because they are looking at you because you are looking at them……..?
Just take no notice, and stop gossiping with the neighbours about her. You don’t need to hear what they have to say, let her get on with it. Stop giving her the reaction she might be looking for. 

Sounds like you’re both obsessed with each other and it’s doing neither of you any good. 

Sapindus

A good point was made to start by taking the things over that look like they might actually be worth something.  When it gets down to the rubbish, THEN send a letter stating that you want her to arrange collection of the remainder of her possessions, by a certain date, or you will dispose.  And then do so. Think of the cost of this as just one of those one-off costs of buying a slightly neglected house from a family of hoarders. But clothes for e.g. can go down the recycling bin a bag at a time when you go to the supermarket. 

Alternatively, if you want to go on wallowing in the drama, this would go down well on Jeremy Kyle.

Norman_Castle

Take the stuff to her in small amounts. A few hours every few days should shift it all. You'll get areas of your home cleared for you to use and she'll have to find somewhere to store stuff she doesn't really want.

Deliver it back to her while wearing her clothes.

Skiddaw1

I'd make a guess that (presuming this isn't a WUM thread) there's probably one of those hopelessly complicated family dynamics back-stories that originated in the days of the dinosaurs and has become more and more convoluted as the years have passed. If so, OP, can you be the one who is big enough to step back, let it go and move forward? If not, it'll just become increasingly bitter and will continue to consume you.

Edi30

The size of the estate has nothing to do with hmrc. As for I’m only a grandson she was daughter, I inherited my dead mothers half, which is how I ended up living at my grans since being 14. 

Edi30

Also regarding rent no one had any authority to charge rent as there was a period of few years no one other than my gran with dementia in a home as legal authority to charge rent, to which all solicitors agreed on. Also due to the state of the house it was deemed “unrentable”. 

GDB2222

Edi30 said:

Also regarding rent no one had any authority to charge rent as there was a period of few years no one other than my gran with dementia in a home as legal authority to charge rent, to which all solicitors agreed on. Also due to the state of the house it was deemed “unrentable”. 

All that is in the past, so put it behind you. I’m sorry that you lost your mum when you were so young, by the way. 

You won’t want Auntie traipsing through the house to get her stuff, so you will need to bring it downstairs for her. By the time you have done that, you may as well carry it across the street and give it to her. 

Norman_Castle

How much is half a loft and a spare room worth to you? Thats what you will gain by moving this stuff. Get it over and done with then you can move on hopefully without further contact with someone who clearly antagonises you. She's currently winning by having her junk in your home. Don't see delivering it as a win for her, when it lands on her doorstep she has to move it inside and store it. Within minutes she'll regret asking for it. If you're physically not able to move it pay a few healthier friends to help. Use a sack truck or a wheelbarrow.

newdriver101

Edi30 said:

The size of the estate has nothing to do with hmrc. As for I’m only a grandson she was daughter, I inherited my dead mothers half, which is how I ended up living at my grans since being 14. 

OP: I'm sorry for your loss.
There is so much emotional baggage to deal with, you don't need to add to it with her physical baggage in your space.
Just take the stuff over to her and get her physical presence out of your space - it may not seem like it now but you will be free or it will free-up some of the anger you have.  
As long as you keep her stuff your anger will keep festering and it allows you to continue to be angry at her, at the past etc... By focussing your responses on comments that allow you to further demonstrate what an awful person aunt is, it seems you don't want to let go of the anger/frustration/pain...