House purchase, relatives items left in, now involving solicitor

doodling

Hi,

A solicitor will write you a letter telling you to make her stuff available for collection, that is pretty much all.

If you're really determined to prolong this then when you receive that letter (if you ever do) you could write one back telling her that you need the space and therefore you will be putting her stuff into storage.  You can get prices for a suitable storage unit and tell her that, pointing out that you will be selling her goods as necessary to fund the storage.

For someone who has said they they don't want any dealings with her, giving her an excuse to pester you about something seems like a waste of time - I'd be delivering the stuff to her and then ignoring her rather than trying to prolong my dealings with her.

Tiglet2

Could you write a letter to her advising that her belongings will be available until a certain date, after which you will be disposing of them if not collected?  Do you have a garage to put everything in until that date?

pinkshoes

Edi30 said:

Already got vertical blinds but I shouldn’t have to keep them closed because of her, can’t use fence etc as it’s our front looking toward her back. 

Can’t see it being sentimental about looking out for her mum as even when she lived here before going in a home I often got a call at work to go and help her because she couldn’t be bothered. 

When the house was going through she cost us £5000 in solicitor fees as she wanted to evict us as I refused to pay full price for house knowing I was left half, at that time we had just had our son, he was only month old at the time yet she did her best to evict us despite not having any legal power too. She’s not a nice person who I have no intention of helping, spent my life helping her before all this and no gratitude at all so don’t want any dealings with her. 

But regards her junk here what can a solicitor do for her? 

OMG talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face.

If you don't want dealings with her, then just box up her stuff and deliver it. Every little bit of it. Get someone to discretely film you dropping it off to prove you did it. Or get someone else to take it for you. DONE. Then you'll never have to deal with her again. 

And as for her looking at you?! How would you know unless you were also looking?? Just ignore her and get on with your life.

theoretica

My front window looks out onto the street and I much prefer voiles in the lower half for stopping feeling I am in a goldfish bowl and only use the blinds when I turn the lights on.

Why don't you want to deliver her stuff? Seems like it wouldn't be much more work than getting it to the front door for her to take, and you would have more control over timescales or doing it in more than one batch.

Edi30

I know she looks because neighbors have seen her watching and have commented that it’s not normal behaviour for someone who’s late 60s and each time we talk to somone on the driveway she look then when we look back hides behind a tree. As for her and her mum being close they weren’t, more just tolerated each other. 

The reason I’m not spending any money moving her stuff is simply the fact she cost me a fortune for no reason and my money is better spent on my son and paying bills as I’m the only income at the moment. 

As far as my duty to her belongings are I told her to collect them, she didn’t and refused to pay to have them collected so iv done my bit, her problem if she won’t pay someone, (she’s not poor at all, and has excess of £200,000 saved) but she is tight. 

HampshireH

Edi30 said:

I know she looks because neighbors have seen her watching and have commented that it’s not normal behaviour for someone who’s late 60s and each time we talk to somone on the driveway she look then when we look back hides behind a tree. As for her and her mum being close they weren’t, more just tolerated each other. 

The reason I’m not spending any money moving her stuff is simply the fact she cost me a fortune for no reason and my money is better spent on my son and paying bills as I’m the only income at the moment. 

As far as my duty to her belongings are I told her to collect them, she didn’t and refused to pay to have them collected so iv done my bit, her problem if she won’t pay someone, (she’s not poor at all, and has excess of £200,000 saved) but she is tight. 

Well it's your problem really as your the one living with the stuff and refusing to help yourself by taking it outside and across the road......

She's lived without it for decades she clearly doesn't need it. The only person it's inconviencing is you

macman

If you can't take the simple step of returning her stuff, then bin it and tell her to sue you....
Solicitors just love these pointless disputes, because their bills mount up, and common sense just goes out the window on both sides.

theoretica

What we are not getting is why you would need to pay someone to move 'mostly old clothes' to a house in staring distance rather than carry them yourselves.

SavingPennies_2

No it's not "normal behaviour" it sounds the like behaviour of someone who is probably very lonely and unhappy, regardless of whether she is a nice person or not, and she is possibly stringing this whole thing out just to get attention from you, as she obviously doesn't need the stuff. You really are cutting your nose of to spite your face. You say you don't want to spend any money cos she has 200K in the bank, well you got a house out of it too (and at less than the going price you said) so just think of the few hundred (if that) quid it will cost to pay someone to pack it and move is as being offset against what you saved if you'd had to buy the house outright yourself at going rate. I think opinions are pretty unanimous here, give her the stuff back, then you can cut contact altogether and get on with your life - I'm sure you will both be happier for it!

getmore4less

You should ask for an inventory of all the things she wants back that she thinks are in the house.

How did you know what was hers and what was grand?

One issue here is the executor messed up they should have sold the house from the estate with vacant possession all the stuff remove d.