Alchemausterity II

RosaBernicia

Sorry to hear about the unsupportive parents Alchemilla, but glad to hear you're only doing work you choose.  Sending you Captain Awkard style BOUNDARIES enforcing energy and virtual hugs

RB xx

(for anybody who hasn't yet discovered the fabulous Captain Awkward, the site is here and it's well worth reading the archives)

Alchemilla

edinburgher said:

@Alchemilla - how awful - that's the last blimmin' thing you need right now!

I think I will join you in Dry January. DD1 has been watching a lot of Horrible Histories and I'm watching their harsh depiction of Henry VIII and his massive appetite for food and wine and thinking "amateur"

I love it!!!!! 

Alchemilla

Thanks everyone. I collected his ashes yesterday and howled like a banshee all the way home.

I had to fetch DD2 from the 'rents house (long story) and I think when they saw the state of me they got it much more.

Yes they did see a lot of him and he and they relied on each other for some things so they are grieving too. 

twinklie

Big hugs. But I have no doubt the howling will help. Keep doing it as long as you need. 

Alchemilla

Thank you🙂 as I was howling I though I hadn't made that much noise since I gave birth 🤣

twinklie

Alchemilla said:

Thank you🙂 as I was howling I though I hadn't made that much noise since I gave birth 🤣

I think I’m a Scientologist…I’m a silent birther. 

Watty1

Howling is good.  There will be more of it.   

I left the ashes of an ex partner in a cupboard for years. Moved house with them too. Never told Mr Watty what was in the box.  Finally scattered them when we bought the cottage we have now.  Took me years to part with them.  Ashes,  So final.

sending huge love

savingholmes

Sending love and hugs.

I have those kind of parents too so can relate.

Alchemilla

Haha scientologist!

Well I have booked a holiday for me, two youngest DC and the 'rents in July. We'll they have booked it and I've agreed to it.

I may regret it but it is something to look forward to. 

Today I'm going to repaint part off DS's bedroom today before his new bed goes in.

Anything else is a bonus today but if possible I would like to also apply for DD2's sixth form boarding. Long story, we're not rich, state school. 

edinburgher

It is nice to have something to look forward to Al - live in hope it goes well

Here's hoping you find a little time for you over the weekend (if you want it at the moment), the howling sounds healthy