Alchemausterity II

Alchemilla

One aga sold, other still quiet.
Had afternoon tea in the garden with family friend, lovely!

DD wrangled successfully.

edinburgher

Well done for DD wrangling and apology writing. Since DD was born we have agreed that we will never become those parents who refuse to accept that their child can do any wrong, as this mentality seems to be pevalent nowadays. In my job I have to respond to complaints from members of the public. A colleague remarked the other day that he has never responded to a complaint relating to a violent criminal where it has not been submitted by their mum!

savingholmes

Good luck with the aga. Well done on DD wrangling. Glad your mum is doing better. Thanks for visiting my diary too.

Paspatur

edinburgher said:

Since DD was born we have agreed that we will never become those parents who refuse to accept that their child can do any wrong, as this mentality seems to be pevalent nowadays. 

Edinburgher it is not just prevalent these days I think it has been for many years.
 1984 and my 5 year old daughter was regularly being hit by a neighbours daughter and the neighbour only ever saw it and complained when my daughter eventually retaliated.
 I have always put my hand up if my kids were in the wrong but sometimes you have to step back and look at the evidence. My son was blamed by 6 kids in our cul de sac for breaking a childs leg by running over it with his bike. Turned out he was actually away for a sleepover at the time and the kid who actually did it had manipulated the other kids to agree with his version. 6 and 7 year olds!!
Same son at 14 was arrested in connection with a fire set in a building simply because he had an orange jacket and was in the area, nothing to do with him and when I arrived at the police station he was having an asthma attack as they had confiscated his inhaler!
I gave them merry hell for that
Hopefully things have improved since then but temper the difference between my child is in the wrong and my child is not in the wrong with evidence
You will always get the parents whose kids can do no wrong but in my experience they do not grow up to be decent members of society like mine have

Alchemilla

edinburgher said:

Well done for DD wrangling and apology writing. Since DD was born we have agreed that we will never become those parents who refuse to accept that their child can do any wrong, as this mentality seems to be pevalent nowadays. In my job I have to respond to complaints from members of the public. A colleague remarked the other day that he has never responded to a complaint relating to a violent criminal where it has not been submitted by their mum!

I so agree. This is reminiscent of complaining parents at school.

Good on you and Mrs E though I am sure Miss E is a fabulous small person.

Alchemilla

@Paspatur oh my golly goodness about the inhaler! Eeek.

@savingholmes good to see you x

Well I seem to be up early. Today I have to

Drop kids to school
Arrange tyre replacement
Fetch DD2 from school
Participate in her Autism assessment
Fetch DS from school

All the while making DH uber low fat low carb under 800 kcal meals and trying to get some domestic goddessing done.

I also need to negotiate visiting time at the hospital for when he goes in, if it is negotiable. At the moment it clashes with school run, hospital is 90 min away.

Aga negotiations have stalled for now.

Alchemilla

Kids dropped, tyres arranged, visiting can't be arranged until he knows which ward he's on post-op. Apparently the ward he's on first is just day cases and no visiting.
Also posted fleabay parcel (£2.50 in) and DH had left over curry for brekkie.

Next up coffee and some domestic goddessing.

Alchemilla

Some domestics done, new toaster (Christmas present) set up, which looks good. Washing DH's hospital PJs so we can start packing his bag. 

Also took down the dog crate in the sitting room and washed the cover. It had been there since Daughterofsatan was on crate rest after she was spayed.

DH has settled on pilaff with his two tablespoons of cooked rice for dinner. Off to fetch DD2 in a minute.

Karmacat

Well done on all the balls you're juggling.  

Hospital visits seem to be all over the place still.  My great-niece born in November was born in hospital by emergency caesarean, and mum and dad were both in the room together, all the time, for about 6 days.  The new dad didn't even get to go outside - and there were no visitors allowed at all.  

Anyway, your OH will hopefully bear up well under it all - so, so tricky.

apple_muncher

How is dc's autism assessment going? We're also going down that road with dc.