Mortgage free in Forever Home :-)

SandyShores

Congratulations on the PB win!!  Completely agree that prioritising chores means you are then too tired to do the enjoyable stuff.  But you do fit in so much stuff, so you are achieving loads.  Don't forget that the lighter evenings are on the way and we fit so much more into the longer days

skint_spice

Well done on the PBs🎉

KajiKita

SandyShores said:

Congratulations on the PB win!!  Completely agree that prioritising chores means you are then too tired to do the enjoyable stuff.  But you do fit in so much stuff, so you are achieving loads.  Don't forget that the lighter evenings are on the way and we fit so much more into the longer days

I hope you’re right about the longer days … January seems to have gone on for months! 🙄😉

skint_spice said:

Well done on the PBs🎉

Thank you 😊

KK

Brie

Inspired by your win I went to look at my emails and noticed that there was a notice of a win for the OH.  All excited I looked and saw £2k!!!  Which I told him about!!!  He's excited.  Came back and asked if he should use it to buy me a new car!  (upgrading the old one really).  No, says I.  Because by then I'd realised my mistake and he actually only won £25.  I'm not going to stomp on his excitement and he's now considering getting a exercise bike to go upstairs so he can look out at the garden while pedaling.  

redofromstart

Oh Brie, so much sympathy on that one.

KajiKita

Oh bad luck @Brie. Put it down to being shattered.

KK

KajiKita

Had a nice day 😊
Lazy slow start with a brew in bed 😊
Poddled down town to get my car washed (phew!), drop off the duplicate seeds at the community garden project (very gratefully received 😊) and got a new battery fitted in one of Mr KK’s watches 😊
Got home *just* in time for my Toscos delivery, wrestled all that away. 

Had a breather on the sofa with a cuppa, a podcast and some embroidery - a project that I started at Christmas but hadn’t touched for weeks 😊

Cycled through three loads of washing, got it mostly dry on the whirlygig and finished off in the tumble. All now folded and away. 

Weeded 2/3rds of one of the worst veggie beds! 💪
Hit 10K steps 😊
Cancelled the English coaching session today as I hadn’t had his homework by noon today - I have had no reply to either my text or email, little worried for him …
Booked the pub for Mr KK’s birthday dinner at the beginning of March. 

Scrubbed, emptied and refilled water filter jug. 

Feeling achy but happy 😊

KK

Brie

I was just chuffed that we'd "finally" won something.  OH had PBs for years with no win.  And these I bought a year back some for him and for me.  Just for fun and to set a bit off to one side.

Hope your student resurfaces.  Maybe just shy because he'd not done his homework perhaps.

CCW007

KajiKita said:

Had an interesting discussion with Mr KK last night after reading one of the threads about slow living on here. Someone was saying that she was trying to do some crochet, but had to stop and unpick an error from a previous session as she had left it to late in the day and hadn’t had good daylight to work in. She commented that she has a pattern that she tends to ‘do chores first’ and only then makes time for hobbies or creativity. 

You could have heard my penny drop from space!

I do this. I prioritise and make my whole weekend about chores or obligations and by the time I get to any time for ME, I’m done, cooked, over, out … and I am left with this feeling of never ending, drudgery and ‘what’s the point’ness. 

Mr KK acknowledged that it is hard as we both work full time and there is a lot to do here. His suggestion is that we both try to do a bit every evening when we get home in the week, so leaving the weekend to actually be the weekend. He suggested learning how to program the new washing machine to run whilst we are out at work during a week day - so the washing would go in one evening and come out and be dried the next. We could each take one small cleaning / clearing chore each, each evening. I think this is an interesting idea but I would need a second pair of work trousers as I wear one pair all weeke and then wash and dry them in one weekend. I’m happy for both of us to try one small chore an evening but I have just been landed with a meeting next Monday that means I have to be in work 1.5 hours after my normal finish time! 🙄 Gah! I also think we need to wander round the house together and work out what still needs better storage (or preferably moving out! 😉) as I think we moved in here 4 years ago and haven’t really got on top of that yet. 

Mr KK also said that sees me spending hours doing our finances every weekend and perhaps that could be a chore I could move to in the week. What really blew me away was that he expressed how grateful he was that I do all this, as it would just befuddle him. Bless him. ❤️

Anyway, it was an interesting conversation and I will start trying to do something along these lines …. along with the first thing I do each weekend day being something creative or ‘play’, not the last ting I aim to pick up. 

KK

redofromstart said:

I read your post and nodded all the way through. For me it has been about placing value on our time. If something doesn't exceed a criteria (for example: it it truly essential ( most cooking and cleaning), or an act of love for someone to whom it matters, does it pay minimum wage , does it get us closer to a goal (moving house), OR does it feel good ( crafts him and garden me)) what am I doing for? I stopped doing most surveys, overthinking our finances and ironing as a consequence. 

These posts really resonate with me, need to spend some time reflecting on this so thank you for sharing.

KajiKita

@CCW007, glad it was useful. I will interested to see how you approach it and will learn from you too 😊

KK