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Point it out and mention he should fold it??? Or maybe that's what you meant.KajiKita said:
I don’t think I did - I just describe it in a lot of detail! 😂😂😂savingholmes said:Wow you got a lot done. I used to have a contorted hazel - not sure what happened to it. I love the catkins.
And reading back over it has prompted me to remember that Mr KK’s washing needs folding ….
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I did think - good job he has two hands of his own then...Brie said:
Point it out and mention he should fold it??? Or maybe that's what you meant.KajiKita said:
I don’t think I did - I just describe it in a lot of detail! 😂😂😂savingholmes said:Wow you got a lot done. I used to have a contorted hazel - not sure what happened to it. I love the catkins.
And reading back over it has prompted me to remember that Mr KK’s washing needs folding ….Achieve FIRE/Mortgage Neutrality in 2030
1) MFW Nov 21 £202K now £171.3K Equity 36.55%
2) £2.6K Net savings after CCs 10/10/25
3) Mortgage neutral by 06/30 (AVC £30.9K + Lump Sums DB £4.6K + (25% of SIPP 1.25K) = 35.5/£127.5K target 27.8% 14/11/25
(If took bigger lump sum = 62K or 48.6%)
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I do appreciate that you mean well but …. Mr KK lived with his mother before starting to live with me. When we moved in together he literally said to me, I don’t know what will need doing, you will have to tell me.savingholmes said:
I did think - good job he has two hands of his own then...Brie said:
Point it out and mention he should fold it??? Or maybe that's what you meant.KajiKita said:
I don’t think I did - I just describe it in a lot of detail! 😂😂😂savingholmes said:Wow you got a lot done. I used to have a contorted hazel - not sure what happened to it. I love the catkins.
And reading back over it has prompted me to remember that Mr KK’s washing needs folding ….Floors have become his job - in the house (vacuuming and infrequently mopping the kitchen floor) in the garden (mowing) and he cleans the hob. I clean the bathroom and the loo. He cooks c. three nights per week, I do the rest. He does all of the DIY around the house, I assist. He does truly vile jobs such as changing the filter in the kitchen extraction unit. He puts his washing on - I get it dry and fold it.We meal plan together and put the delivery away together. He cooks his own batches for the freezer as I don’t like handling raw meat too much.The one real imbalance is on the finances - I take the lead on all of that. It would be nice if he helped more on that. But we discuss it a lot more than we used to - he asks me questions where he wouldn’t have before.Overall, it’s a reasonable balance.KKAs at 15.12.25:
- When bought house £315,995 mortgage debt and end date at start = October 2039 - now £227,385
- OPs to mortgage = £12,881 Estd. interest saved = £6,203 to date
c. 16 months reduction in term
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That seems like a well worked out solution on splitting the household responsibilities. I think when you mentioned HIS stuff needed folding my brain switched to mumsnet mode where everyone starts stomping on the nasty man taking advantage of the weak willed woman. I should have remembered that you are not weak willed and Mr KK is far from nasty. Sort of guy I'd actually say is a keeper.
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No stirring and thank you for caring enough to challenge ❤️ I never (aim to anyway) react badly to challenge delivered with positive intent. I get it wrong at times on here too. Easy to miss context others expect to be common knowledge.Brie said:That seems like a well worked out solution on splitting the household responsibilities. I think when you mentioned HIS stuff needed folding my brain switched to mumsnet mode where everyone starts stomping on the nasty man taking advantage of the weak willed woman. I should have remembered that you are not weak willed and Mr KK is far from nasty. Sort of guy I'd actually say is a keeper.
Apologies if I stirred!!! (I do have form for this....)I just didn’t want Mr KK to be seen in that light - I mean I know you will never meet him so on one level it doesn’t matter, but he is a good guy and it didn’t sit well with me 😊😉
KKAs at 15.12.25:
- When bought house £315,995 mortgage debt and end date at start = October 2039 - now £227,385
- OPs to mortgage = £12,881 Estd. interest saved = £6,203 to date
c. 16 months reduction in term
Fixed rate 3.85% ends October 2030
Read 80 books of target 52 in 2025, as @ 25th December
Produce tracker: £457 of £300 in 2025
Watch your thoughts, they become your words.
Watch your words, they become your actions.Watch your actions, they become your reality.7 -
It’s crazy-mad busy in work atm …. but I’m keeping calm. Rather to my surprise. But I have been making concerted efforts on this. Must sustain this to continue to sleep and survive.
Mr KK cooked tonight so I have sown my onions ❤️ They are nicely snuggled up on a heating mat, under a sheet of clear plastic (3rd year of using 😊) with a timer set for the grow light above the seed trays 😊
I have also, finally, finished the before and after photos / presentation for my mother to show her the light improvement in our lounge thanks to her gift of windows. 😊
Still struggling with the surveys …. 🙄 Tiny scrap of TCB claimed yesterday.Had the barn dance in March tickets arrive tonight 😊
Also had a colleague in work ask me if I would be a guinea pig for his wife who is training in voice sound healing. Session booked for Sunday morning 😊KKAs at 15.12.25:
- When bought house £315,995 mortgage debt and end date at start = October 2039 - now £227,385
- OPs to mortgage = £12,881 Estd. interest saved = £6,203 to date
c. 16 months reduction in term
Fixed rate 3.85% ends October 2030
Read 80 books of target 52 in 2025, as @ 25th December
Produce tracker: £457 of £300 in 2025
Watch your thoughts, they become your words.
Watch your words, they become your actions.Watch your actions, they become your reality.8 -
Voice sound healing sounds good
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Sounds interesting doesn’t it - apparently it starts with tuning forks.beanielou said:Voice sound healing sounds goodKKAs at 15.12.25:
- When bought house £315,995 mortgage debt and end date at start = October 2039 - now £227,385
- OPs to mortgage = £12,881 Estd. interest saved = £6,203 to date
c. 16 months reduction in term
Fixed rate 3.85% ends October 2030
Read 80 books of target 52 in 2025, as @ 25th December
Produce tracker: £457 of £300 in 2025
Watch your thoughts, they become your words.
Watch your words, they become your actions.Watch your actions, they become your reality.4 -
What a lovely division of labour in your house. So nice to read.Made it to mortgage free but what a muddle that became
In the event the proverbial hits the fan then co-habitees are better stashing their cash than being mortgage free !!1 -
Ask her to tune her fork in my direction please 😂
Barn dance sounds like a good laugh, will you be wearing a flouncy dress with lots of skirt layers?2
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