Mortgage free in Forever Home :-)

LadyWithAPlan

My friend /neighbour lost his keys Dec 30th this year travelling back to London  - late on a Saturday eve - luckily I had just got back so he slept in my spare room on his blow up mattress he had left with me!
Locks had to be changed and 3 days later his sister had found his keys in his identical black hoodie he had left there ... He had put on the wrong one ..!

I know Mr KK defrosts the freezer at least  due to his hairdryer technique ..

I hope if you are wearing jeans to the barn dance you at least are wearing cowboy boots and a large stetson to wave around and distract when you forget the steps ...

savingholmes

Glad you have good division of labour it helps. Irritating re the keys. I'm constantly losing stuff - they always turn up though.

KajiKita

Mr KK has found his keys!!! 🥳🎉🤩😊
He’d already booked someone to come out and map a new one for him and as he needed a spare he still had him come over. Because auto-locksmith didn’t have to pick the lock he only charged Mr KK £120 for spare transponder key and call out, which I don’t think was too bad. 

I have had my car fixed for it’s weird stopping / go-slow fault, hopefully. £180, which is exactly what I thought it would be - bizarre 😊 That included an oil and filter change between services due to my mileage, so I am not unhappy with that. However, because I had to collect Mr KK from the garage last night where he had been deposited by a colleague, I took the rest of my house etc keys off my car key ring … aaaand, you guessed it, I have now left them in work, in one of my desk drawers I suspect! 🤷‍♀️🙄

Tried to call and book a blood test for my thyroxine levels. Apparently I can’t do this - it has to be approved by the GP. I was promised a callback today but it never happened … 🙄

In better news:
- Booked La Belle Floof in for her jabs and general ‘MOT’ next Tuesday evening after work - sorry Little One … 
- The roadworks in the next village which were hideous to battle through a) to the garage and b) to my pharmacy, have finally gone, after 4 weeks! 🥳
- I have got ahead on weekend chores and collected my prescription this evening.
- I have won £100 on the PBs. First win ever!! 🤩❤️🎉 No idea if they are reinvesting or paying out - I guess I will find out 😂

KK

beanielou

Great news on the PB’s. 

KajiKita

Had an interesting discussion with Mr KK last night after reading one of the threads about slow living on here. Someone was saying that she was trying to do some crochet, but had to stop and unpick an error from a previous session as she had left it to late in the day and hadn’t had good daylight to work in. She commented that she has a pattern that she tends to ‘do chores first’ and only then makes time for hobbies or creativity. 

You could have heard my penny drop from space!

I do this. I prioritise and make my whole weekend about chores or obligations and by the time I get to any time for ME, I’m done, cooked, over, out … and I am left with this feeling of never ending, drudgery and ‘what’s the point’ness. 

Mr KK acknowledged that it is hard as we both work full time and there is a lot to do here. His suggestion is that we both try to do a bit every evening when we get home in the week, so leaving the weekend to actually be the weekend. He suggested learning how to program the new washing machine to run whilst we are out at work during a week day - so the washing would go in one evening and come out and be dried the next. We could each take one small cleaning / clearing chore each, each evening. I think this is an interesting idea but I would need a second pair of work trousers as I wear one pair all weeke and then wash and dry them in one weekend. I’m happy for both of us to try one small chore an evening but I have just been landed with a meeting next Monday that means I have to be in work 1.5 hours after my normal finish time! 🙄 Gah! I also think we need to wander round the house together and work out what still needs better storage (or preferably moving out! 😉) as I think we moved in here 4 years ago and haven’t really got on top of that yet. 

Mr KK also said that sees me spending hours doing our finances every weekend and perhaps that could be a chore I could move to in the week. What really blew me away was that he expressed how grateful he was that I do all this, as it would just befuddle him. Bless him. ❤️

Anyway, it was an interesting conversation and I will start trying to do something along these lines …. along with the first thing I do each weekend day being something creative or ‘play’, not the last ting I aim to pick up. 

KK

beanielou

I hope you find a way to make that work for you

PennysIntoPounds

That sounds very wise, if we don't have joy then what are we doing all the other stuff for

Congrats on the PB win, £100 is a nice sum!

KajiKita

beanielou said:

I hope you find a way to make that work for you

Me too. I suspect it needs to be approached as a gradual, incremental process ….

redofromstart

I read your post and nodded all the way through. For me it has been about placing value on our time. If something doesn't exceed a criteria (for example: it it truly essential ( most cooking and cleaning), or an act of love for someone to whom it matters, does it pay minimum wage , does it get us closer to a goal (moving house), OR does it feel good ( crafts him and garden me)) what am I doing for? I stopped doing most surveys, overthinking our finances and ironing as a consequence. 

KajiKita

PennysIntoPounds said:

That sounds very wise, if we don't have joy then what are we doing all the other stuff for

Congrats on the PB win, £100 is a nice sum!

Exactly!! I’m slipping in to my parents’ trap … 😉

redofromstart said:

I read your post and nodded all the way through. For me it has been about placing value on our time. If something doesn't exceed a criteria (for example: it it truly essential ( most cooking and cleaning), or an act of love for someone to whom it matters, does it pay minimum wage , does it get us closer to a goal (moving house), OR does it feel good ( crafts him and garden me)) what am I doing for? I stopped doing most surveys, overthinking our finances and ironing as a consequence. 

Well at least I never iron!! 😂😂😂😂
Those are good ‘tests’ - thank you ☺️ 

KK