In the Meantime

mark55man

I do agree with your decision.  I may have come across strongly but just trying to express options.  It strikes me the seller knows they have a problem and are now acting to prevent that from becoming crystal clear so maybe to make some less careful person take the fall,

The loss of the money and time will sting for a while.

Good luck  with everything else - feel for you :hugs:

savingholmes

Ouch to the solicitor's bill - but anyone who's ever watched property programmes hears cash registers ringing in the multiple thousands for the types of issues you were describing. Plus it's a lot of work to deal with and stress - and if you can find something more move in ready that sounds like it would be better for you in the longer term.

Humdinger1

The sellers in my opinion are going to struggle to find anyone prepared to take the risk.   It's cost you money now but how much would it cost to fix!? @mark55man has hit the nail on the head.  I know it's painful but you've dodged a bullet here.  Onwards and upwards love Humdinger xx 

doingitanyway

satchmo1 said:

It's maddening that this has happened, and you have had the expense of the survey, but it has probably saved you from some impending damp/roof repairs/dry rot/rewiring/replumbing money pit

jwil said:

Oh I'm so sorry about the house, but well done for standing your ground.  I really hope something comes up soon.

Thank you @satchmo1 and @jwil Short term pain for long term gain is how I'm trying to look at it!

mark55man said:

I do agree with your decision.  I may have come across strongly but just trying to express options.  It strikes me the seller knows they have a problem and are now acting to prevent that from becoming crystal clear so maybe to make some less careful person take the fall,

The loss of the money and time will sting for a while.

Good luck  with everything else - feel for you :hugs:

Thanks @mark55man your opinion was fine and helpful actually. It is one of the things I love about diary posts, diversity of opinions. Thanks for the positive vibes and the hugs, much appreciated. 

savingholmes said:

Ouch to the solicitor's bill - but anyone who's ever watched property programmes hears cash registers ringing in the multiple thousands for the types of issues you were describing. Plus it's a lot of work to deal with and stress - and if you can find something more move in ready that sounds like it would be better for you in the longer term.

Humdinger1 said:

The sellers in my opinion are going to struggle to find anyone prepared to take the risk.   It's cost you money now but how much would it cost to fix!? @mark55man has hit the nail on the head.  I know it's painful but you've dodged a bullet here.  Onwards and upwards love Humdinger xx 

Thanks, you both make really good points! Feeling the love at @Humdinger

doingitanyway

Still feeling the pain of losing the house as @Skint_yet_Again is (I hope you find somewhere soon too! Thanks for the supportive post  ) It is weird after assuming for months it would be my home soon, now it isn't. I have already memorised the address and postcode. I am forcing myself to look forwards and not backwards. 

Yesterday I sorted out a Royal Mail issue and redirection

Today I sorted out a bank issue

Today I completed my job application!! I will send it off this evening (Hard to focus but I did it. I need to keep options open and progress. It is a competitive field so a small chance, but no chance if I don't apply, so did it...)

I am also rethinking things entirely. It might be possible for me to go a broad to an idyllic location with free accommodation as close family live there. There is the cost of the flight only. Thinking of going beginning of November and coming back mid January. I've had a lot of stress, bereavement and disappointment and think it would be good for me. Also after Nov the markets gets quiet and picks up a few weeks into the NY. It's a risk as something perfect might come up when I'm away...

My friend is happy for me to stay until I find somewhere.

It feels awful but I have options. It could be worse. I will as @beanielou often says, keep plodding

Hope you are all ok

Humdinger1

A few months abroad could be just the job to recharge your batteries @doingitanyway, as long as you have space to yourself.  The number of sales that don't go through, you're likely to pick something up when it comes back onto the market in my opinion.   Standing by for more updates love Humdinger xx 

beanielou

Great idea to have a break & fantastic you can have the opportunity to do so 

Chrystal

A couple of months away from the stresses and strains (and the cold!) sounds idyllic and will hopefully give your mind and body a complete reset. 
You have been through such traumatic times recently, and I think sometimes we can become so bogged down with the problems around us that we don't always think straight, so time away from it all can only be good.  ((((hugs))) XX

MovingForwards

A break and total change of scenery would do you a world of good.

savingholmes

What a lovely offer. It's fab to have options isn't it - and know people care about you too.