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Impartial opinions sought on family Christmas matter
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Both grown ups they decide between them.
It's Xmas Eve I expect the older has all day, as long as their station was convenient then just pick up from destination station would work.
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Pollycat said:MIZZ12 said:BrassicWoman said:I think you might be pot stirring and should let your husband and his mum sort it out themselves?
Justify your husband's (i.e.the son) actions?
If 90% of people agree with the son or 90% think he should have picked his Mum up, it's not going to change the opinion of the other member of the family.1 -
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MIZZ12 said:Pollycat said:MIZZ12 said:BrassicWoman said:I think you might be pot stirring and should let your husband and his mum sort it out themselves?
Justify your husband's (i.e.the son) actions?
If 90% of people agree with the son or 90% think he should have picked his Mum up, it's not going to change the opinion of the other member of the family.
Or maybe she wasn't happy and whinged to said family member..
Maybe she's playing 2 family members against each other.
If I'd asked my Mum to come to our house by public transport and she didn't express any objection, I'd expect her to back me up against anybody else who wanted to make an issue of it.
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Pollycat said:MIZZ12 said:Pollycat said:MIZZ12 said:BrassicWoman said:I think you might be pot stirring and should let your husband and his mum sort it out themselves?
Justify your husband's (i.e.the son) actions?
If 90% of people agree with the son or 90% think he should have picked his Mum up, it's not going to change the opinion of the other member of the family.
Or maybe she wasn't happy and whinged to said family member..
Maybe she's playing 2 family members against each other.
If I'd asked my Mum to come to our house by public transport and she didn't express any objection, I'd expect her to back me up against anybody else who wanted to make an issue of it.
Has she done that?.0 -
Too many variables. Is the 25 miles train journey a straight through quick one or involving changes and various stops en-route. Does Mum live near enough to get on the train without an additional trip to the station first, same when she gets off the other end. Was son doing anything to prevent picking up eg if he was at work? Does the cost of petrol and who would pay for that versus who would pay for the train fare come into making the decision?
Has the family member complaining have any reasonable argument (even if it's one you disagree with) about why Mum should have had a lift rather than they just think son should have given one?1 -
MIZZ12 said:Pollycat said:MIZZ12 said:BrassicWoman said:I think you might be pot stirring and should let your husband and his mum sort it out themselves?
Justify your husband's (i.e.the son) actions?
If 90% of people agree with the son or 90% think he should have picked his Mum up, it's not going to change the opinion of the other member of the family.
Your husband does have that option. He can say to family member that it was an arrangement between him and his Mum and if family member (husband's sibling at a guess) isn't happy with that then they were welcome to sort out Mum coming over themselves. Then change the subject.
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Thanks all for your inputs, it really has helped. Christmas was a damp squib because of family politics, but then again what is new! I hope you all managed to have a (relatively) stress free Christmas and wishing you a very happy and healthy New Year !2
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How did the family member hear about your M-i-L traveling to your house?
Are you sure she wasn't the cause of this?
Either by accident or deliberately.
Is she aware of the 'family politics' that spoiled your Christmas?
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Pollycat said:How did the family member hear about your M-i-L traveling to your house?
Are you sure she wasn't the cause of this?
Either by accident or deliberately.
Is she aware of the 'family politics' that spoiled your Christmas?3
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