How did having a child impact your marriage/relationship?

Archergirl

squirrelchops2 said:

Ibrahim5 said:

Things change throughout your life. My sister was happy not to have kids and concentrate on her career. Now she is getting to retirement age she is realising she hasn't really got any family left apart from me. Hopefully she has a network of friends who can look after her because after looking after my elderly parents (she couldn't help because of her career) I don't relish the thought of being next of kin.

We don't have kids, in fact we really don't have any family and I am not close to nieces and nephews so it is really just us.

I would hate to have had children though with the expectation on them that they have to look after me when I am old! 

Sometimes I get scared of thinking I will die alone but so what you can die alone even if you had 10 kids! All we can do is try to keep good health and have a bit put away so at least i will die in relative luxury somewhere warm.

Absolutely, My aunt had 4 children all lived away from her, but appeared when she died......... We don't have children, never wanted them but sometimes wonder what will happen, but then again it might not who knows x

cheeky-peach

Exodi said:

I always find threads like this make for tough reading - as a 30 year old child-less couple, who have their finances in order, strong relationship, very happy with life.

We've said we would both like to have kids in the next few years once we've ticked off some things from our bucket lists, but it's hard to swallow the comments along the lines of - "welcome to being broke and miserable, you can kiss goodbye to your relationship".

We have one child and in our 30s and it hasn't meant we have kissed goodbye to our relationship and we are certainly not miserable!!