Learning to walk before I run

badmemory

What do you call them if not boyfriend?  I'm 79 & I have one.  Please remember that it does not necessarily mean a lifetime (well the short bit that is left) commitment.  It is only if there is an intention to cohabit you need to worry.  It is nice to have company that "gets" it.

edinburgher

@badmemory - coming from a family where there have been a few divorces - "friend" or "partner" are some of the common ones Anyway, I'm only commenting on my own word choice, MIL just calls the guy by his name. It's not ageism, if that's the reading you've taken? 

I'd feel bizarre having a "girlfriend" at 42, it's just personal preference.

Visit over and chap seems perfectly inoffensive. A bit too fond of his own chat but that knows no age and could just be nerves on his part. Mrs E seems mollified, which is all that concerns me.

badmemory

No I wasn't talking ageism at all.  Partner to me means live in.  It is difficult sorting appropriate terminology.  So glad it must have gone off okay.  Bringing someone new into the mix is always difficult.

KajiKita

I’m glad Mrs E is more relaxed about the incomer now. 😊

Have you caught with yourself a bit after getting home from your ‘holiday’? 

KK

edinburgher

Not really KK but thank you for asking

Strongly expecting to find myself grumpy and exhausted after a workday with 10-11 hours of screen time tomorrow. Have tried my best to retain a sense of perspective but the Sunday blues are kicking in.

Suffolk_lass

We bought this house from a couple who got together after both were widowed. They explained this was her house, and they were moving to his house in a town, now he was mid seventies and the garden was too much. They went on to explain their adult children welcomed them living together for the companionship and support they brought to each other, but also welcomed that they would not marry, or include each other in their wills (so inheritances were to remain intact?) - I think it's a bit more than that, around the intactness of a parental relationship with the other parent, being impacted by new and different memories. I haven't put that too well

South_coast

BF insists that he and I are boyfriend and girlfriend - any other terminology undermines his carefree bachelor perception of himself. This despite being together for over a decade 🤣!

edinburgher

Having some thought about "the number". MFWers with adult children - does your spending on these children (bar gifts) ever go away? I have received approximately SFA from my parents over the years in terms of "support" (and I haven't expected it) but some people seem to be constantly paying for uni, car costs, housing etc. 🤔

rtandon27

@edinburgher - oh dear you have made me chuckle today - all that comes to mind is the Maltesers advert!

OH and I have been together 19 years & if he ever called me his girlfriend, even in jest, I'd have his head on a platter! My preferred word is partner, but my mom's younger sister who is only 1 year older than him will not call him anything other than the word husband. 😁 Terminology is truly a matter of personal preference!

edinburgher

I am fighting the Sunday blues with an OP of £125.18, for an interest saving of £560+ A little bit of virement, with 25% of residual budgets from June rolled into the OP line of the budget. I cannot wait 'til August with the childcare budget of £108, to be followed by £91.67 from September onwards.

Dinner was udon noodles with a broth made from HM chicken stock and white miso, topped with pulled chicken (I cooked a whole chicken in the SC), the onions from under the chicken, red pepper, wakame and a little chilli oil. I do love a nice Sunday dinner.