My friend lying about job

Pollycat

I would tell him how he's making you feel.

It may ruin the friendship but it's not really making you happy, is it?

NBLondon

I'm starting to wonder if this is the OP's only close friend and ditching or ignoring them would thus be more difficult...

sim2335

I only have 2 friends and their both close friends

its too hard for me to explain how I feel to him, and he would twist and turn it like he’s done nothings wrong.

it of course depends on what it is sometimes he will admit he’s worng

calleyw

NBLondon said:

I'm starting to wonder if this is the OP's only close friend and ditching or ignoring them would thus be more difficult...

Personally I would have no friends if the person was being causing me more hurt than joy.  I don't really have friends as I am not a people person and have been messed about and hurt to many times in the past by them.  I do get lonely as no one to do things with apart from my partner but would rather be myself than put up with someones carp.  Everyone is different.  Don't get me wrong would love to have friends but just don't know how to be friends with people any more.  So don't even try any more!!!!

NBLondon

sim2335 said:

I only have 2 friends and their both close friends

its too hard for me to explain how I feel to him, and he would twist and turn it like he’s done nothings wrong.

it of course depends on what it is sometimes he will admit he’s worng

This could be a difficult thing for you then...  It might even be the case that this person knows this and doesn't actually think as much of you as you do them.    If they aren't prepared to hear how you feel - then maybe you do need more/different friends.

ripplyuk

Sounds like he’s doing sex work and doesn’t want you to know. If I were you, I’d just mind my own business. If he talks about his job just tell him you’re very happy for him. 

sim2335

He’s so strong in his views there’s no point even saying opposite, you can’t argue with him his too good, even if you think opposite you can’t justify why he can.

For example he thinks even if you with someone who has ripped clothes etc that  shouldn’t effect you approaching girls, maybe he’s right but I was thinking, what if girl sees the other guy won’t it out then off, he was like no you just go for what you want such strength and passion he says it with, and stuff like you can’t be successful if you not selfish, I can’t say him he’s not, as he will then say how did I discover god and what religions right etc.

I spoke to him and he was like I keep nothing hidden, then I’m like other then you secrect job, he dismissed that.

Then I was like you ever gona tell me what you secrect job is you don’t have to, yeah when we meet chnaged subject again.

Then I went back to the job saying can I do it, he’s like listen I will tell you about it when we meet, I’m like so you gona tell me he’s like yeah.

Pollycat

If he does tell you about his job, will that satisfy you?
Just curious because you started this thread about your friend allegedly lying about his job but over the last 3 pages you've thrown in other stuff that irritates you about him.

74jax

sim2335 said:

He’s so strong in his views there’s no point even saying opposite, you can’t argue with him his too good, even if you think opposite you can’t justify why he can.

Why would you want to argue though, leave it and talk about something else 

For example he thinks even if you with someone who has ripped clothes etc that  shouldn’t effect you approaching girls, maybe he’s right but I was thinking, what if girl sees the other guy won’t it out then off, he was like no you just go for what you want such strength and passion he says it with, 

I agree with him, but I wouldn't argue over it 

and stuff like you can’t be successful if you not selfish, I can’t say him he’s not, as he will then say how did I discover god and what religions right etc.

Religion is a minefield, I stay off this topic if I can 

I spoke to him and he was like I keep nothing hidden, then I’m like other then you secrect job, he dismissed that.

So don't mention the job again. 

Then I was like you ever gona tell me what you secrect job is you don’t have to, yeah when we meet chnaged subject again.

Why though? Why ask? Leave it. You do not need to know. 

Then I went back to the job saying can I do it, he’s like listen I will tell you about it when we meet, I’m like so you gona tell me he’s like yeah.

I'm not sure why you keep going back to the job. Just forget it.
Talk about stuff you can (not the job, not girls, or religion). 
If you have nothing to talk about, don't meet up. 

Archergirl

Can you join some clubs find a hobby and make new friends?