Future Proofing my life: Deposit saving then MFW journey in under 13 years

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  • LadyWithAPlan
    LadyWithAPlan Posts: 3,661 Forumite
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    edited 13 February 2024 at 12:07PM
    Have just been catching up! Oh so much going on and the taxi fare/situation ouch, but hey those are the memorable things in relationships sometimes especially if it progresses it will give you both something to laugh about. With some guys you find paying for a taxi would have been the first thing that happened and you realise when it all goes to pots that he is someone who just makes ladies to pick up the bills due to one excuse or the other lol. On this occasion though as he has not been resisting paying for all else we wait and see. I do get it though not being able or not wanting to ask about the taxi fare which he said he will pay. I am terrible though for things like that! Although I can afford to pay I hate it when a man says he will pay and he then just does not remember to fulfil. So let’s wait and see if he will tick another box of remembering “small” details of life which matter and do the taxi refund?

    SG! Thanks for popping by ...
    You make a valid point on the 'does he remember the small things..'. I mentioned it by way of passing yesterday via text and he got a bit shirty 'I didnt ask you to ..' so we will see ....and he not got back since so .. I normally hear from him daily.  ..time will tell. No drama...

    I do have another  lunch date with someone else tomorrow - who I have not seen for a couple years though he kept in occasional  touch ... I have decided to start at least trying on the odd date...  
    Had 2 friends including a male one suggest I text £111 uber man  my bank details but I wont do that .. it may end up being a cheap-ish way of  not wasting  time  with him ..



     Getting serious after a long stretch of being single is tough. It can be scary I find to allow yourself to be in a vulnerable position of letting someone takeover or take care of certain aspects of your life. I understand though that without letting in relationships will not blossom. 
    Again very wise! Yes we have to risk being open..

    Voluntary spending this month so far £223.08 which includes the £111 uber bill - so nealy 50%!!

    Mortgage Broker - spoke to them today and they calling me tomorrow to get moving on this MIP so I can start looking. I have 2 lovely new neighbours - men - one does weldiing (I got v excited Sister Gold and  he said  he was happy to come round and do some DIY.. and the other a chef., It will be hard moving out of here but I always make friends with my neighbours 
    The flat I liked went for £405k apparently ... 
    I am thinking £400k for one bed with garden, or up to £450-£470k (ugh) for 2 bed with outdoor space is my parameters.. Need to go looking in some new areas.

    Weekend round up NSD Friday only so 2/13
    Saturday I bought some hair stuff, Sunday I bought a coffee out as I went to see some art for free and saw a friend. Today I bought more hair stuff (all YS) and 2 lots of bulbs to get two lamps working again, They look lovely now- havent been working for 6 months plus

    I am aiming to not buy any unnecessary toiletries but I have ran out  of all my expensive long lasting hair stuff - my leave in conditioner - bottle lasted 2yrs, my K18 which I use on occasion etc  and I wanted to try the Olaplex 3..  Olaplex 3 I have used once but didnt dry my hair properly so hard to tell. I do know the K18 stuff works brilliantly for my kind of hair.,..
    I will need some new mascara soon - I love my Mac stack  and again it lasts months - especially as I wfh so not needed daily .. but using all the dregs and had a free sample small one I will get through first..

    Alcohol seems to make me be lazy.. for a few days after -  review from tracking ..
    I went out on that date last week  and drank  - plus he was buying shots on top of the wine wine and  I was not useful Thursday  at college, and was v unproductive Fri and Sat - also stayed up late etc and read loads... which is fine  but I have a lot of fun things I could be doing instead inc house finding!
    As I am tracking things such as bedtime, MG, focus etc i can see this pattern... i also didnt go to the gym T/F/S  - sunday I walked..
    I normally only drink once a week and I am certainly a fun social drinker .. but if alcohol really is going to make me be lazy and unfocused for a few days ,..... I need to be wise as to when i do it .... So I saw a friend Sunday for a walk and some art - she then had wine and I had a coffee -..

    No phone in bedroom - left  it in kltchen  again last night (not  do this at weekend) and I slept so much better - definitely an important behaviour shift to me plus I cant start scrolling first thing...
     
    Starting 100 envelope challenge today - 50 week challenge   week 1 52 and 9 so £61 to find/make by selling this week
    I read this post on ynab about doing the tiktok challenge  virtually -  basically have 100 envelopes - with  amounts 1 to 100 on each one, so £1, £2, £3 etc  - and then each week you pick 2 envelopes and try to save that amount that week bu reducing planned spend  - or earn more  - in my case my YNAB budget is tight but I am doing this to get me to start selling some things or indeed winning some things to then sell. If you do this for 50 weeks you will save £5050...
    Article about it here  here  which has a spreadsheet if you dont want to do physical envelopes /cash..
    I am using a random online number generator to pick my numbers and I have added the 1-100 in a ynab category to track 
     
    This week £52 and £9 - this I will find by selling stuff - need to add things to ebay and vinted or winning stuff - my budget is tight so 

    Clothes making course - enrolled finally !
     I have been on the waiting list for this  for ages and missed out last term. I sewed a bit as a teenager and did a class later but tried to make a hard jacket..., and have sewed cushions etc  - but this course is about pattern cutting  and adjustments - I want to start making some fun easy long summer dresses... starts next week.  I love vintage but be nice to tailor them properly or know clearer  if things can be altered  to fit properly. or if would be  too much hard work. I do have a friend who mends things quickly who i use but I want to start dreaming myself in fun rich fabrics..
    I really want a Camilla kaftan for beach days but as they £400-£800 in the sale I figure I can buy some fabulous fabric and make my own ! 
    I am missing my DIY courses.. but college Tues eve and Thursday afternoon/eve is a good mix of breaking up the week and doing fun things - plus classes are all free up to a certain level..

    GYM - leg day /WALK today 
    I had to walk to the college to enrol - I could have bus-ed it but saved money and it was a gorgeous sunny day and I am trying to get more exercise.. so 60 min walk plus I deliberately wore my gym gear so I then went straight to my gym and did leg weights and abs.. I didnt take my swimming gear but had walked so enough cardio


    FOOD
    Food today was the last portion of this actually v tasty HF recipe   served with broccoli and organic spinach - I swapped the yogurt for DF - but the turmeric potatoes on top of the curry was a lovely change from rice.. I dont like to eat much lamb but my last box of 4 meals from HF i picked largely to try the recipes and this was a keeper - I will probably use beef instead..

    Golden Potato Topped Lamb Rogan Josh  with Lentils and Yoghurt


    I still have one HF meal from last week and the non perishable  ingredients for the very tasty lentil and mushroom pie from a couple weeks ago.. Recipe here 

    Beetroot soup
    I made a chicken stock from my lidl FR chicken Saturday and having used some in the curry I have just pressure cooked some beetroots so I will make a borsch this evening.

    DF GF banana raspberry protein pancake
      I also made my protein powder with GF oats cakey thing - I have loads of vegan choc  protein powder in as in 2 huge tubs from a subscribe and save gine wild   - I prefer the strawberry - so I want to start using the choc down before I buy more strawberry  ...  the cakey thing  v tasty and v nutritious - added flaxseed, seeds, chia, peanut butter - no added sugar etc as well. I cook this for travelling a lot but will start making it more for home as well.
     
    HM bread - my fruit (raisins/mixed peel) and mixed seed HM GF bread  (1/3 brown 2/23 white) I made last week - I froze most in slices  so that has been a lovely healthy treat  to get out ...- whether with scrambled eggs, a chicken and DF cheese sandwich with red onions and savoury cashew cream or with PB.

    So far my Grocery spend  £64.58 plus  £9.80 bulk in Feb has been good but I did have the 4 HF meals delivered Sun 3rd feb which were paid previously and as a credit so,, Freezer is full - though I am now out of kale ...argh  - I need to buy some and freeze it as running out of dark greens is often the reason for me to go shopping,


    Hope all are well  and enjoying the sunshine finally appearing

    DON'T BUY STUFF (from Frugalwoods)
    No seriously, just don’t buy things. 99% of our success with our savings rate is attributed to the fact that we don’t buy things... You can and should take advantage of discounts.... But at the end of the day, the only way to truly save money is to not buy stuff.    Money doesn’t walk out of your wallet on its own accord.
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  • savingholmes
    savingholmes Posts: 28,893 Forumite
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    The course sounds like it will give you a lot of pleasure. 

    Good luck with the flat hunt.
    Achieve FIRE/Mortgage Neutrality in 2030
    1) MFW Nov 21 £202K now £175.8K Equity 32.38%
    2) £4.3K Net savings after CCs 13/5/25
    3) Mortgage neutral by 06/30 (AVC £20.6K + Lump Sums DB £4.6K + (25% of SIPP 1.1K) = 26.3/£127.5K target 20.63% updated 16/5
    4) FI Age 60 income target £16.5/30K 55.1%
    5) SIPP £4.4K updated 16/5
  • I always say to DD that she needs a man who will add to her life, not take away from it - you have such a full and interesting life ladywithaplan - I'm sure you will meet the right one.

    I would love to do a clothes making course.  When I was a stone or so heavier I had a rule that I couldn't buy any brand new clothes until I'd lost weight.  So I used to spend a lot of time in charity shops and I altered clothes (as in shortened or took in by increasing the seams) regularly.  It worked, and I lost weight, but I would love to have the skills to make proper adjustments.  
    Mortgage 30 May'25. est. £209,870 £309,749, Ends Feb'36 Jun'39 (target Feb'31)
    Equity: over 40% (aiming for 40% LTV before remortgaging);
    Seven Goals; 12.5lbs lost in 4 months (5.5lbs to go); walk/run/exercising/weights/yoga 
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