Future Proofing my life: Deposit saving then MFW journey in under 13 years

savingholmes

Hope date went well.

Congratulations on having the difficult conversations. Great that you are starting habits too

Suffolk_lass

Sainsbugs and Asbo are the cheapest for 1kg of Dri-pak soda crystals at the moment. Waitflower don't list it online any more (they used to be the cheapest. Rober diet are the most expensive and Morries &B& queue are in the middle

Watty1

Loved the washing chat.  (I'm sure the date news will follow)

I live a rural and grubby life and the VNM works on plant machinery so his work uniform often reeks of hydraulic oil or similar.   Has anyone tried this options under such circumstances?

Suffolk_lass

Watty1 said:

Loved the washing chat.  (I'm sure the date news will follow)

I live a rural and grubby life and the VNM works on plant machinery so his work uniform often reeks of hydraulic oil or similar.   Has anyone tried this options under such circumstances?

Yes. Spot treat any stains with washing up liquid but soak in a solution of cold water, twice as much vinegar as baking soda (not washing) and a couple of tablespoons of salt - soak for a minimum of two hours and don't wash them hot or it sets the stains and smells. You can also rub specific areas with a mild household solid bar vegetable soap (like the Green Fairy stuff they stopped making) before washing in the machine - marseilles soap is one option.

Of course I still have some Fairy soap because I was stocked up for my lifetime!

debtfreewannabe321

Watty1 said:

Loved the washing chat.  (I'm sure the date news will follow)

I live a rural and grubby life and the VNM works on plant machinery so his work uniform often reeks of hydraulic oil or similar.   Has anyone tried this options under such circumstances?

EX H was in the paras always coming home with filthy uniforms and it worked well after spot cleaning as S_L says.

Looking forward to hearing about this date too....

LadyWithAPlan

Loving the laundry chat ! Learning loads .. 

I feel given the level of interest you all want details .. 

The date - err on one hand is was great, on the other possibly the worse date ever …we had a couple of heated debates - I never argue generally 
Then he lost his phone in the club we ended up in .. and he normally  gets a Uber home as lives miles outside London 

When we first met we ended up going out in a group dancing and  he dropped me home first and then carried on home despite it not being in the same direction
As black cabs are hard to find in Soho late at night and v expensive so you need an Uber (using a smart phone really ) I  then felt obligated  for me  to get an Uber for us both -  to drop myself home then him at his - as he insisted he would not let me drop him off via Uber whilst I waited on the street alone to get a black cab (if I had mentioned a bus he would have had a stroke )  .. 

cost for me via Uber would have been £20 
cost for him £69
actual paid cost for me to drop myself home and  then Uber carries on to take him home £111!! 

Ouch 
he did say last night  he’d pay me back .. but I will see if he offers again - he did insist on buying all the drinks last night - one bar tab  I saw was £177 alone .. so i don’t feel I can ask .. 
I did do a casino offer when I got home and won more than that so  worse case scenario.. I can afford 

 I have heard from him this morning saying how much he likes me etc and wants to see me again  to get to know me and see if we can make this work as a relationship - his will power though - when he wants something he is quite intransigent.. he was happy for me to go home via Uber and sort  himself out somehow .. except I wouldn’t leave someone in that situation .. so having a row at the end of the evening on a Soho street was a bit ridiculous 
I laughed when I got home  
I can see he really likes me and thus I have knocked him off his centre a bit . 

 He is an amazing human - crazy life story of literally coming from nothing and making a great and successful life against the odds - all from this will power of his but it might be difficult for me who is always  chilled and does what she wants when she wants …
I am also so used to looking after myself - I travel around the world on my own and have done for decades so this I am a strong man (he is very ) and  I want to help look after you, I will protect you is lovely but not something I am used to. It is good to see this in myself .. I have chosen to be single, I am very clear on this. I like being able to rely on myself 

I can see we are already driving each other a bit nuts both in a good and bad way .. so watch this space -

i  will be chanting for us both to be happy no matter what. 

2024 is my year to tackle long held habits and beliefs that are holding me back from what I want and see where I need to change (eg the very successful leave my phone out the bedroom etc) 

I say I am ready to think about and want a relationship but I am not quite ready to dive into a full on commitment as he seems to want so I have told him to (politely) slow his roll and let this thing unfold - he is from a very different culture from me though 


so college this afternoon but I am still on a go slow from the drinking last night … only exercise yesterday was dancing … 👍 as no time to go to gym after full day work and then seeing him early 

redofromstart

Mr Redo and I had completely different expectations and backgrounds, and a 10 year age gap, yet here we are 23 or so years on with two adult sons, no mortgage and a major walking plan for 24!

paying that much for his taxi would kill it dead for me though, but I'm a miser.

skint_spice

Sounds like there are possibilities there dating wise - no rush though💗

LadyWithAPlan

redofromstart said:

Mr Redo and I had completely different expectations and backgrounds, and a 10 year age gap, yet here we are 23 or so years on with two adult sons, no mortgage and a major walking plan for 24!

paying that much for his taxi would kill it dead for me though, but I'm a miser.

That’s why I thought it ended so badly .. never had to pay for a dates cab home before ! 

I guess I could have left him in soho to find a black cab but that felt wrong .. 

skint_spice said:

Sounds like there are possibilities there dating wise - no rush though💗

exactly no rush .. though I find often men often do .. rush .. then get scared and rush in the opposite direction 

pebbles01

My eyes watered at a £177 bar tab!