had a guts full

siamesecats

long story sorry. i have 5 kids ageed 14 13 10 9 2 . im married we both work hard. we are not loaded far from it
the problem is the eldest shes 15 at xmas. she continues blantley to take the pi** we bought her a new pc for xmas. the past few months she has been staying out late / lying stealing things off her siblings eg mobile phones uses up their credit etc. the latest eposode lying wanting to stay at her friends who lives nearby then another friend runs up to me in tesco 10 miles away claiming shes staying with her along with 10 other girls ( mums very slack ).she phones that after noon with her lies claiming can she stay with her nearby friend i say no your lying.ive had a guts full of her lies all the time.
anyway when she rolled in this morning at 12.40am like it was normal
very strick time to be in is 10pm. i had enough. jumped in the car this morning and took her xmas prezzie back for a refund .im not working my !!! off all year for my own child to take the !!!!.
come on guys whats you thoughts
siam xxx

southernscouser

Good on you I say! :T

dmg24

Yep agree with ss, sounds like you are having a nightmare.

I've just got in from babysitting, three lovely kids (16, 9 and 7) and a 14 year old nightmare. Even with me she was pushing it, so I hate to think what her parents have to put up with.

I'm all for teenagers making their own mistakes, but there is testing the boundaries and blatantly taking the p***.

Hopefully this will be the kick (not literally!) she needs to make her see what she is turning into? x

SmileBeHappy

I wudn't be suprised if she ran away for such a thing... If my parents did that at that age... i wud probably never speak to them again...

sarah1975uk

i know exactly how you feel siamesecats, and i really do feel for you i.

I have 3 kids (twins boy and girl aged 9 1/2 and son aged 7) My twins have their moments but generally are good kids listen to what i say etc etc, however my 7 year old son is 7 going on 17, hes a living nightmare at the moment, doesnt seem to give a !!!! about anything i say to him, doesnt listen to me, steals money off me, and basically also at my whits end with him. Makes me want to cry daily and feel at the moment like i picked up the wrong baby when i gave birth. Terrible to say but things really are that bad for me at the moment, feel like i live in a constant battle ground with arguments and shouting, ive tried all the usual things like no rewards, rewarding only good behaviour, taking stuff he likes away from him, grounding him (he just sneaks out). omg feel like a terrible mother! Good day is when hes calm and loving bad day i have the crap i have detailed as above, and he shouts and swears he hates me. As shock tatic ive even taken him to police station to speak to the local police man to shock him into that if he carries on this way he will end up in big trouble, he acts like a good boy for a short while then goes back into his naughty ways...i cant win!

Ive always brought my kids up well, i dont spoil them and ive always taught them right from wrong, give them all loads of love and affection, buy what i can afford but not spoil them. Treat them all the same way and hes the living nightmare.

iwanttosave_2

I agree with SS, well done!!! :T:T:T:T

siamesecats

SmileBeHappy wrote: »

I wudn't be suprised if she ran away for such a thing... If my parents did that at that age... i wud probably never speak to them again...

thanks for your happy post :j like i havent got enough to worry about.the way she has made me feel and the rest of my family for the last year if she carries on she wont have to feel like running away cos i will beat her to it :mad:

sarah1975uk

siamesecats wrote: »

thanks for your happy post :j like i havent got enough to worry about.the way she has made me feel and the rest of my family for the last year if she carries on she wont have to feel like running away cos i will beat her to it :mad:

Aww sweetheart i totally understand how you feel, its never easy being a mum and even harder when our kids show us no respect and treat us the way they do sometimes :A

sarah1975uk

I really think there should be a scheme for us to be able to use shock tactics like spending a day in a prison or something harsh to show our kids how lucky and well off they really are compared to others and somewhere for them to actually learn some sort of respect and see very serious consequences of what happends when they are not listening to us...sadly it wont be until they are older and have their own kids that they truly realise what we are currently going through, as they dont seem to have the maturity to totally understand our frustrations and upset.

iwanttosave_2

siamesecats wrote: »

thanks for your happy post :j like i havent got enough to worry about.the way she has made me feel and the rest of my family for the last year if she carries on she wont have to feel like running away cos i will beat her to it :mad:

Hopefully your daughter is a bit more grown up than that.

Does she know you have taken it back?

siamesecats

iwanttosave wrote: »

Hopefully your daughter is a bit more grown up than that.

Does she know you have taken it back?

yes she knows i have taken it back spent all day in her room. while we were out asked her sister if we went to tesco. seemed upset but still had huge attitude with us all.
tough love i hope.im not looking forward to this xmas i hope im doing the right thing.:o