Would you feel offended by this?

swingaloo2

At the end of 2019 I bought some tickets for a concert to be held in summer of 2020. We have a couple of friends and as the male one of the couple had done us a favour and we wanted to show our thanks, knowing that they both liked the artist, we decided to get them a pair of tickets to go with us and gave them as a Christmas present. 
The tickets were quite expensive at £120  per person but we were happy to give them and were all looking forward to the concert. 
Then of course it got postponed to summer 2021. Now we have had an email to say its postponed again to summer 2022 which we fully understand.
Today I spoke to the female of the couple and mentioned that the concert was rescheduled again and got this - 'Oh well, just get your money back, they are probably not worth it anyway'.  I feel really slighted, I felt like saying 'Well if you dont want to go we can find someone else' but I bit my tongue.
Would you be irritated by that comment or is it just me?

JamoLew

I would get a refund on hers and let him go on his own - or you go with him instead of her ?

deedee71

Perhaps even though they like the artist they think the price of the tickets is a lot.  I wouldn't spend that much seeing anyone.  Or they feel a £240 gift for doing a favour is disproportionate and are embarrassed by it.

Whatever the reason, they've said get your money back so I would just do it and move on.

74jax

swingaloo2 said:

At the end of 2019 I bought some tickets for a concert to be held in summer of 2020. We have a couple of friends and as the male one of the couple had done us a favour and we wanted to show our thanks, knowing that they both liked the artist, we decided to get them a pair of tickets to go with us and gave them as a Christmas present. 
The tickets were quite expensive at £120  per person but we were happy to give them and were all looking forward to the concert. 
Then of course it got postponed to summer 2021. Now we have had an email to say its postponed again to summer 2022 which we fully understand.
Today I spoke to the female of the couple and mentioned that the concert was rescheduled again and got this - 'Oh well, just get your money back, they are probably not worth it anyway'.  I feel really slighted, I felt like saying 'Well if you dont want to go we can find someone else' but I bit my tongue.
Would you be irritated by that comment or is it just me?

Yes I would feel offended and yes I'd be irritated by it too.  
I would have done exactly the same as you, and wanted to say something, but wouldn't have either as they are a friend.
If I still wanted to see them, I would keep my tickets and get a refund on theirs, I'd probably buy a bottle of wine, say this is for the thank you as I refunded your ticket etc.  
The gift was a thank you AND a Christmas present and as they are friends, I'm not sure £120 is THAT way out that friends would be embarrassed by it, after all you know them well and thought they'd enjoy it.  
Get a refund, give a bottle of wine and blow the rest on a takeaway (I was going to say dinner out.......... but........).

swingaloo2

We had previously seen the same artist whilst in Las Vegas and had been raving about them and he had said that he would love to see them and at the time of giving they both seemd to be over the moon. We didnt feel it was disproportionate as the favour involved quite a lot of work which would have cost us more. 
I know he is massively looking forward to it but she is a bit of a strange one so I suppose I should let it go over my head.  It did happen once before when she had one of the 'Big' birthdays and we bought her a bouquet of fowers.  We took them to her and she already had a bunch given to her from a lady she worked with and also a bouquet from her son. As we were leaving the house she  said 'I hope nobody else turns up with bloody flowers, I dont even like them that much, I prefer plants' so  I dont suppose I should be surprised.

Mojisola

swingaloo2 said:

We had previously seen the same artist whilst in Las Vegas and had been raving about them and he had said that he would love to see them
I know he is massively looking forward to it

It sounds as if you should have talked to him about the concert and not her!

AskAsk

i think she is quite rude to say this as it is like spitting in your face when it was given to her as a gift.  she may think the ticket are over priced but that is not the point here, the point is that it was given as a gift.  however, to be fair to her, she may have said that to alleviate your disappointment in getting the refund.

swingaloo2

To be fair the 'gift' was intended as a thank you to him and as she is his partner we thought it right to take them both, we would never have just bought for him. We have since spoken to him and told him the concert is postponed and he just said 'Oh well, we still have it to look forward to, we will get there eventually'.  

wannabe_a_saver

Is there any chance she is trying to let you know that its ok to get a refund in case your financial cirumstances have changed due to the pandemic?

swingaloo2

wannabe_a_saver said:

Is there any chance she is trying to let you know that its ok to get a refund in case your financial cirumstances have changed due to the pandemic?

Its funny you should say that but not really likely as the reason she rang me in the first place today is because it is his birthday in 3 weeks time and she wondered if we 'Would like to go halves with her on a jacket he wants'.  That would be a cool £60 then!  
We would only usually spend about a tenner so I politely declined and said we had already bought something for him.

HampshireH

swingaloo2 said:

wannabe_a_saver said:

Is there any chance she is trying to let you know that its ok to get a refund in case your financial cirumstances have changed due to the pandemic?

Its funny you should say that but not really likely as the reason she rang me in the first place today is because it is his birthday in 3 weeks time and she wondered if we 'Would like to go halves with her on a jacket he wants'.  That would be a cool £60 then!  
We would only usually spend about a tenner so I politely declined and said we had already bought something for him.

See I find that odd.

I also find her comment rude. Perhaps she lacks awareness