Family Woes!

jennystarpepper

Beans27 said:

thorsoak said:

Oh no, I wouldn't - I would be ensuring that s/he picked the poop up, either into a bag or (my preferred home tool - a snap click tool (bit like a litter picker but with scoops rather than just pincers) disposed off properly, the floor sprayed with anti-bac spray, everything disposed of into the proper bin - and then hands washed, washed, washed and then washed.   To be honest, its far quicker to do it myself - but it is important that children learn how to do it properly and hygenically.  By the time they are 10, they are really efficient at doing it - and we were able to trust the 10 & 12 year olds to keep the kennels (for 3 dogs) beautifully clean and sparkly hygenic.   In fact they asked to do it so that they could finish off with the power washer - but I wouldn't allow them to use the power washer in the house :-D .   I've always found that giving them responsibility is something that children appreciate.

Fair enough - I am probably coming at it from the point of view that my 4 year old's hands would be too small to pick up the giant Labrador poos that our dog does we had a dog as a child and one of our jobs was poo patrol, but that was at 11 onwards. 

This made me laugh and I agree, can depend on the dog.... and as an adult I have seen what 'Labs can do' and still don't think I could face cleaning it up, lol!!!

thorsoak

I have seen an absolutely tiny boy - aged just 7 - taking a Bernese Mountain dog into a dog show ring - the dog would have been twice the size of the child and both were immaculately groomed ....little boy in black trousers, white shirt, tan tie & black waistcoat (obviously reflecting the colours of the dog :-) ) when the dog stopped in the middle of  strutting his stuff in front of the judges - and did the biggest poo which we could smell from outside the ring.   Undaunted, the little handler told dog to stay, reached into his pocket, put on disposage gloves, got out a large plastic bag - and picked up the poo with the bag, peeled off the gloves, tied them into the bag, walked to the side of the ring & placed it in the bucket there for such emergencies, took out hand sanitiser & wiped his hands, went back his dog, said "sorry" to the judges - and continued to show his dog!   He got such a round of applause - even though his dog didn't win a rosette!    Later discovered that he had been showing dogs before he was out of nappies!  

sassyblue

I think your daughter should be supervised at least. My aunt lost an eye as a child due to not washing her hands thoroughly after falling in dog poo, it was the 1950’s but still, it only takes one little speck of germ to be left.

Spendless

OP-maybe re-look at the way you've worded your initial post, it might go someway towards understanding the responses you've received if you can look objectively.


You've said you don't find it acceptable that the puppy messes in the house. I'm afraid that is part of having a puppy until they're toilet trained.  How old is it? A pup has to be a min of 8 weeks before leaving the litter, so getting around Xmas time, you're maybe looking at a 14 week old .dog. Do you drop off your kids there (if so why?) because you've said the dog is snappy, so am wondering how you know?. There was a recent TV program  about puppies and in one home where there were several kids, when similar happened, and a dog behaviour worker was called in, she said it was down to the dog not being given enough time of its own without kids. Once they gave the dog some personal space/time it improved. Now, I understand you can't go telling your ex how to fetch up his dog, but if it's partly your kids dog too, maybe watching something like that will help them be around the pup. Should they clean up it's mess? it is part of dog ownership, so the older one, yes, the younger maybe, depends on where and what, I know you've said the little one is being left to it, do you mean in the house where you've said the dog is messing, if so where is everyone else? If it's in the garden then the pup must be on it's way to being toilet trained.


It's quite clear you dislike your ex's new partner. The kids will pick up on that, of course they will, they love you, you're their Mum. They won't what to tell you what a fab time they've had at their Dad's if they think that will hurt you and if you've got kids that are usually happy about chores, well done because mine still can whinge and they're a lot older! 

swingaloo2

Spendless said:

It's quite clear you dislike your ex's new partner. The kids will pick up on that, of course they will, they love you, you're their Mum. They won't what to tell you what a fab time they've had at their Dad's if they think that will hurt you and if you've got kids that are usually happy about chores, well done because mine still can whinge and they're a lot older! 

This, in spades. When my husbands daughter came to spend the weekend at ours the stories she took home to her mum were amazing. When she was about 4 we moved house and got a new jacuzzi bath which we couldnt get her out of, bubbles everywhere and she had so much fun.  Clearly she didnt want to tell mum about it because her dad got an irate call from mum the day after taking her back to mums asking why 'her' daughter had not had a bath all weekend.  She apparently told her mum that she couldnt 'because Daddy's new house doesnt have a bath'.  She later told us that she said it because mum only had a 'plain' bath and she didnt want her to be jealous. She is 23 now and we still rib her about it.

KxMx

My Mum very rarely spoke about my Dad but boy did I know exactly how she felt about him, her behaviour made it clear and no words were needed.

To the point I felt obliged as a child to open her Christmas presents first and Dad's last. 

burlingtonfl6

Spendless said:

OP-maybe re-look at the way you've worded your initial post, it might go someway towards understanding the responses you've received if you can look objectively.


You've said you don't find it acceptable that the puppy messes in the house. I'm afraid that is part of having a puppy until they're toilet trained.  How old is it? A pup has to be a min of 8 weeks before leaving the litter, so getting around Xmas time, you're maybe looking at a 14 week old .dog. Do you drop off your kids there (if so why?) because you've said the dog is snappy, so am wondering how you know?. There was a recent TV program  about puppies and in one home where there were several kids, when similar happened, and a dog behaviour worker was called in, she said it was down to the dog not being given enough time of its own without kids. Once they gave the dog some personal space/time it improved. Now, I understand you can't go telling your ex how to fetch up his dog, but if it's partly your kids dog too, maybe watching something like that will help them be around the pup. Should they clean up it's mess? it is part of dog ownership, so the older one, yes, the younger maybe, depends on where and what, I know you've said the little one is being left to it, do you mean in the house where you've said the dog is messing, if so where is everyone else? If it's in the garden then the pup must be on it's way to being toilet trained.


It's quite clear you dislike your ex's new partner. The kids will pick up on that, of course they will, they love you, you're their Mum. They won't what to tell you what a fab time they've had at their Dad's if they think that will hurt you and if you've got kids that are usually happy about chores, well done because mine still can whinge and they're a lot older! 

be careful, you'll get your post removed and a warning for stating things like this

Spendless

burlingtonfl6 said:

Spendless said:

OP-maybe re-look at the way you've worded your initial post, it might go someway towards understanding the responses you've received if you can look objectively.


You've said you don't find it acceptable that the puppy messes in the house. I'm afraid that is part of having a puppy until they're toilet trained.  How old is it? A pup has to be a min of 8 weeks before leaving the litter, so getting around Xmas time, you're maybe looking at a 14 week old .dog. Do you drop off your kids there (if so why?) because you've said the dog is snappy, so am wondering how you know?. There was a recent TV program  about puppies and in one home where there were several kids, when similar happened, and a dog behaviour worker was called in, she said it was down to the dog not being given enough time of its own without kids. Once they gave the dog some personal space/time it improved. Now, I understand you can't go telling your ex how to fetch up his dog, but if it's partly your kids dog too, maybe watching something like that will help them be around the pup. Should they clean up it's mess? it is part of dog ownership, so the older one, yes, the younger maybe, depends on where and what, I know you've said the little one is being left to it, do you mean in the house where you've said the dog is messing, if so where is everyone else? If it's in the garden then the pup must be on it's way to being toilet trained.


It's quite clear you dislike your ex's new partner. The kids will pick up on that, of course they will, they love you, you're their Mum. They won't what to tell you what a fab time they've had at their Dad's if they think that will hurt you and if you've got kids that are usually happy about chores, well done because mine still can whinge and they're a lot older! 

be careful, you'll get your post removed and a warning for stating things like this

and yet I'm not the first to comment about this (post #7). Ex's new partner might be an evil witch for all I know  , but if I can pick up on dislike from emotive written words, then the kids will certainly be able to.

elsien

Charlies_Aunt said:

Absolutely not!

Why not? Many kids play one parent off against another if they can get away with it. More so if the two parents live apart, aren't on good terms and are less likely to check what is really happening. 

Silvertabby

sassyblue said:

I think your daughter should be supervised at least. My aunt lost an eye as a child due to not washing her hands thoroughly after falling in dog poo, it was the 1950’s but still, it only takes one little speck of germ to be left.

Ocular toxocariasis, from roundworm eggs in dog (and other animal) poo.  Thankfully less common now, as most responsible pet owners worm their animals - but can still be a very real threat.