Friend owes me thousands

Emmia

sim2335 said:

Yes but even worse then money was the harrsment he put me through and guilt trips, lies etc

And the false promises of money, and when I don’t send more everything dashed.

Doesn’t he get tired of texting and calling lots of times with no reply and comes back next day...even if I needed money I would get sick of that, and plus all he does is gambles it 

He harasses/guilt trips you for money, because he (likely) has a gambling problem - and he needs his fix.

When he doesn't have the cash, you enable him by providing him with the means of continuing / not addressing his addiction.  He doesn't get tired of calling /texting as he knows you'll give in and send him the cash so he can gamble - this is why you need to cut contact, and change your mobile number (don't block, as he can just get another number to harass you)

If he won big, I'd take punt that he'd probably spend the winnings on more gambling or a holiday etc., for himself, rather than repaying you.

sim2335

Last time I lent him money 03 feb 2021.

I Mean sick of it as I say no loads of times and he tries really hard to persuade me.

and when he knows I have no money he try’s to persuade me to take out a payday loan saying paid back etc money for me and him etc etc 

without him I would be 100% debt free and a very good credit rating 

sim2335

I don’t think he will bother me now, shall I still report his past harrsment to police?

and if he does bother through fake account or diffent number, I’m not even gona say not interested just ignore.

Emmia

sim2335 said:

I don’t think he will bother me now, shall I still report his past harrsment to police?

and if he does bother through fake account or diffent number, I’m not even gona say not interested just ignore.

Why won't he bother you now? You lent him money 4 days ago...

He probably thinks his account of free money at the bank of you is still open for business.

sim2335

Emmia said:

sim2335 said:

I don’t think he will bother me now, shall I still report his past harrsment to police?

and if he does bother through fake account or diffent number, I’m not even gona say not interested just ignore.

Why won't he bother you now? You lent him money 4 days ago...

Because I blocked him and was harsh in what I said

Sea_Shell

sim2335 said:

Emmia said:

sim2335 said:

I don’t think he will bother me now, shall I still report his past harrsment to police?

and if he does bother through fake account or diffent number, I’m not even gona say not interested just ignore.

Why won't he bother you now? You lent him money 4 days ago...

Because I blocked him and was harsh in what I said

Well let's see.

I'm assuming he knows where you live and work?   There's always the old school doorstepping technique.

sim2335

Sea_Shell said:

sim2335 said:

Emmia said:

sim2335 said:

I don’t think he will bother me now, shall I still report his past harrsment to police?

and if he does bother through fake account or diffent number, I’m not even gona say not interested just ignore.

Why won't he bother you now? You lent him money 4 days ago...

Because I blocked him and was harsh in what I said

Well let's see.

I'm assuming he knows where you live and work?   There's always the old school doorstepping technique.

Yes we work same place he’s redundent in march, back end of feb for one month

after he sees me block he knows I’m serioes so I don’t think he will want to deep down I assume he knows other things I can do police tell his wife etc 

Yes he knows where I live, if he comes, what shall I do?...I live with parents so they may open it...he’s never came inside but pick me up dropped me off 

Emmia

sim2335 said:

Sea_Shell said:

sim2335 said:

Emmia said:

sim2335 said:

I don’t think he will bother me now, shall I still report his past harrsment to police?

and if he does bother through fake account or diffent number, I’m not even gona say not interested just ignore.

Why won't he bother you now? You lent him money 4 days ago...

Because I blocked him and was harsh in what I said

Well let's see.

I'm assuming he knows where you live and work?   There's always the old school doorstepping technique.

after he sees me block he knows I’m serioes so I don’t think he will want to deep down I assume he knows other things I can do police tell his wife etc 

Yes he knows where I live, if he comes, what shall I do?...

1. I'm very sceptical that blocking him on your phone/social media will make him think you're serious about not lending him any more money.

2. Do your parents know? I'd consider telling them about this (although if they don't know, they'll probably be shocked / angry that you've basically lost £6k to this low life). If he turns up at your door, you're going to need to tell them why you don't want to see him.

sim2335

Mum does, dad I don’t talk to, if he comes at the door which I doubt. I will contact the police.

mum doesn’t know I blocked him and he’s still asking and he harres me 

why would you think he will still come back...I can still ignore him anyway 

sim2335

Tomorrow I’m gone report him to police, hoepfully that’s ill put him off contacting me