The Best Is Yet To Come 26 December 2020 at 6:31PM edited 26 December 2020 at 6:56PM in Mortgage-free wannabe 1.1K replies 61.4K views

Eager_Elephant

Joining you over here, good luck for 2021.
I foresee exciting changes ahead.
Also love the fact you're telling everyone your husband cheated, too many are ashamed and keep it hidden and then they get to maintain their good guy image😠
And as for your in-laws just walking in, I'd be saying something and keeping the back door locked.

slm6002

Good evening Eager Elephant and thanks for the link on my old diary.  I never wanted the divorce or to break up our marriage/family.  By telling people they can then decide if he is a cheater and cant keep it in his pants or i am evil and caused him to feel suicidal.  Those that matter will come to the correct conclusion.  Those that don't (and there are some) I don't need to waste my time with.  I will not be blamed for this when it was all down to him.  I am obviously still very bitter and hope that the other woman realises her current husband is better for her and XH is left with nothing.  So far he doesn't have a home and has lost the trust of his children.  But back to positive feelings lol as it is my new start

joedenise

Hi @slm6002, have just followed you over from the DFW board.  Have been reading along.

Just like to wish you luck with getting your ex off the deeds asap so that you can move and get on with you life.  Good for you telling people what your ex was up to and as for your inlays, well I'm with @Eager_Elephant keep the doors locked so they can't just walk in!  That is just so rude.

I've bookmarked this thread so that I can continue to follow.

slm6002

Thank you joedenise for coming across and joining me.  The door is firmly locked.  I may even put a no entry sign on the door, or covid - stay away lol, maybe something similar to the plague lol.  I do not intend telling people where I live when I move unless I would like them to know

joedenise

I would be exactly the same!  No need for anyone to know where you've moved to unless you want them to know!

I notice that you enter competitions - I assume you use a separate e-mail address when you do?  Then you know where any of the spam has come from.

slm6002

Ah I hadn't thought of that to be honest.  Will go and set up a new account for the competitions

slm6002

Well the children have arrived home from a day with their dad.  First thing they say is they are going on holiday in march.  Am I being petty that i think XH should have spoken to me first as rather than having them for a few hours on a Sunday he will collect them on Friday and return Sunday.  I am not saying they cant go but perhaps a text saying 'i would like to take them away on fri to Sun to a caravan, is that ok with you?'  Apparently he has paid for it and got it all organised.  I haven't even asked if the new woman is going with them as that might just tip me over the edge.

Kitten868

They blow your mind, don't they. I don't think that'll be your biggest problem though. I don't think the kids will want to go. And he will be annoyed he wasted the money. They're away from him now and they'll start to think about it. Or they'll think about needing to ask you for supplies for it and realise it's a bad idea. So don't kick off. I could be wrong though xxx

slm6002

They are very keen at the moment.  Maybe after thinking about it things may change, plus who knows what covid will be doing in mid march.  May loose his money.  I have already asked that in the future please can he ask me if its ok before booking things.  All i then got was abuse. It's made me so angry i couldn't eat my dinner.  I hate every other sunday - either the kids come home with abusive things he has said about me, or i get abusive messages from him.  I have to hope and pray that either the kids get fed up or he does.  Today he didn't even deny seeing the other woman and basically implied have i told her husband yet as i have him on my FB page.  I haven't but am very tempted.  I have kept quiet over so much that he has done up until now just because i need the house signed over but my breaking point is coming.  I am guessing the engagement ring will be given very soon now he knows i know and is assuming i will say something to her husband.  I give it until valentines day if it hasn't already happened.

joedenise

I'd be very surprised if we're even allowed to go away in March!  The way things are going with Covid it seems extremely unlikely to me.

Have to say I agree that it was wrong and quite frankly inconsiderate to not at least tell you before he told the kids it was happening.  What happens if they can't go because of the Covid situation - you'll the one that has to deal with their upset!

I wouldn't do anything at least until the house is signed over to you.  I suspect it's very hard but I think you know that is the best thing to do.

Try not to get so upset about the things you have no control over especially if it's going to affect your health which it could well do if you're not eating properly.  Look after yourself.