Weekly Flylady Thread 26 October 2020

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Morning all,

Determined that today will be good. We've had a short dog walk, and I've made breakfast and tidied the kitchen. Hoping to get the washing in the line at least for a short while to air it off. Heavy rain due soon though! Have lovely days all, happy Halloween xx

Fayolle

Morning all,
Still raining here. And blowing a gale for good measure.
DH has left to visit an aged relative, thinking it might be the last time that he gets to go for a while. He is also dropping in to see his cousin, complete with a bag of toddler toys for cousin’s DGD. And so another bag leaves the house...
I need to get DD to work very soon, then I am home alone for the rest of the day. I need to get something done, as this melancholy and frustration at the rain is getting me nowhere fast.
Glad to hear that you are ok, Badcat x
Hugs, ASB x
Round - are you ok too, my lovely? x

Goodintentions

Good morning!
Last day of isolation today! 😁 It's weird how the first week lasted forever, but the second week has just disappeared! I had hoped to check in on the allotment tomorrow, but the weather isn't on my side. Fingers crossed I can get there Monday! We have plot inspections soon and I want to tidy up a bit! 
I am going to start an online shop, to make sure we have the essentials in case of another lockdown. Then I may potter - I need to clear some clutter, do some admin & finish my painting. I may try to fit some crochet and/or tapestry in later too 😊
Hugs to you ASB.
Round I hope you are okay
Have a good day everyone! 

roundtuit

Morning xx

Aww Fayolle and Goodi      thank you for caring - it means a lot to me. 

I've only read this page - I'll take time out to read through the thread and catch up with all your news later.

It took a lot of energy just to get out of bed this morning - I managed it at 9am - which I am now attributing to flylady vibes sending me the strength having looked at the time of your messages xx 

So I am up, my bed is made and I've drunk my first brew. Today I am in 'recovery' mode. Yesterday was the second anniversary of Mum's death and I had the !!!!!!!est day at work (probably not ever but up there in the Top 5). Turns out when you bully me I cower, when you bully someone else in front of me erm....I snap. I'm not in trouble (I don't think) but I don't think anything will be done to the bully either as I'm told that when she was called into the manager's office she kicked off effing and jeffing at them. Reliable source in the office next door could hear every word through the wall. And still she returned to the office and sat making snide remarks - I really really wanted to wring her scrawny little neck, but then I would have been in trouble. The victim?  - she went home in tears, wouldn't even come into the office to collect her stuff. Me? I sat at my desk and gave my patients the best possible service that I could for the rest of the day. But I didn't eat my lunch until I got home. Can't eat when I'm fuming lol. 

So, today is another day. It's nearly 11am and I'm not dressed and the house looks like it hasn't been touched for 4 days (that's the bits that usually get touched iyswim). because they haven't. 

Round 1 =
get dressed (I ought to have a shower really but....)

Oh - and to top it all off I put my big toe through my favourite socks! Not happy.

Normal service will be resumed asap - WW is hiding lol.

Rxx

kazwookie

Rounds, can you raise a grievance or what ever with those above you or above them about this person?

Bird table mended, put it back outside, one high gust of wind 5 mins later and it is back over and the top broken off again! so it will be mended again tomorrow, currently in the shed.

Kitchen is cleaned

Sponge cake is cooking

Fayolle

kazwookie said:

Rounds, can you raise a grievance or what ever with those above you or above them about this person?

Round, for what it’s worth, I’m with Kaz. It sounds a stressful enough job without prima donnas and the like.

I have kicked myself into gear. DD drove to work and I have brought her car back. Walked to the village shop for a few bits and a mooch whilst someone else was being served. Parcels dropped off at the PO. HHI done, although the jeans from yesterday still aren’t dry. Oh for a tumble drier at times. WULTD so that the dw could run a clean with vinegar in it. Microwave and kitchen bin also cleaned. Sourdough starter refreshed - go me.
I am now going to mess around with some masks for DH, as he keeps complaining that they are too tight. Spectacularly I have managed to resist pointing out that a little weight loss might help. So far that is.
GI - good luck with the plot inspection! Thankfully we don’t have such a thing on our small village plots, or I would be kicked off by now. I am currently blaming the weather for however my plot looks. I am hoping that it might let up tomorrow so that we can actually get there and pull some leeks without drowning in mud.

pigpen

Round.. I bet it was reassuring to the victim to know you are least are on her side. I hate bullying of any sort and I am now impossible to bully, I lose my s*** totally. Being neglected however apparently I tolerate that, until I do not!

OH has had himself a firm talking at.. I withdrew the offer of conversation and shut my eyes so I couldn't see him and talked.. If I could see him I would have lost focus and stopped. The trigger was when I asked about new ipads to replace the 2 which will no longer update or run most of the girls programmes he was all animated and interested and chatty.. when I asked about house repairs, Dots assessments, christmas presents or money he totally blanks me.. I am not unreasonable for wanting a bit of adult input into our household and our children. With CF I knew I was doing everything alone so I just did it.. the OH wanted to be involved and I tried really hard to loosen up a bit and let him be involved and now he has done a full about face and not wanting to be involved and I gave up a lot of myself to share stuff. He aplogised and I threw it back.. I don't want a lame apology I want a partner to discuss and share and help with stuff.. a limp apology is meaningless and I don't want it.. so there was that!

DW been on
2x WM
DS2 sent to shop for pizza and halloween junk food for this evening.
Boog bossed to clear the bathroom and poop trays.

I have 3 ebeasty items to package up and 1000 to list but catching up here with a cuppa first.

Love and hugs to all.

YORKSHIRELASS

Pigpen hope OH sees how you feel and makes more effort.  My DH is a bit prone to sticking his fingers in his ears and ignoring things he doesnt want to deal with in the hope that I sort it, but you have more than enough to cope with.

Round, agree with everyone else, I once put up with a bully because I didnt think anyone would listen to me and just sort of got used to them.  It was only when they left that I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders and I realised how bad it had got, must be an awful environment for you to be in.  Hugs x

Well my day started early, I heard DS go off to work at 6.30 am, then 15 minutes later my mobile rang.  Heart in mouth thinking he had crashed the car but no, he had forgotten his coffee, came back to get it but had locked himself out.  No bad thing in the end because it got me out of bed.

DW emptied, exercise class done, 2 hours paid stuff done to get that report finished, a very tired DS fed (he worked 17 hours yesterday daft lad), upstairs food stocks checked, going to look at my November budget next with a brew and a chocolate digestive.

roundtuit

Thank you all xx 
I'm going to keep a diary and then, if necessary, escalate it as our manager and our manager's manager let the culprit shout and swear at them and nothing changes. Well, they put me back in the firing line (after making me stronger with all the moves I've made since March) so they can either move me, move her, or sort it. Get me being bolshy! 

I am dressed and I have had a mini tidy up in the kitchen - put a few bits of recycling out, filled the bowl with pots and cutlery and gathered up the rest of the dirty pots and piled them on the cooker top. For brunch I ordered from a cafe in town and DS collected it _ so I've had a Veggie breakfast followed by treacle sponge and custard - my eyes were bigger than my belly (as we say in these parts) but I managed to squeeze it all down.

What else have I done? Spoken to S on the phone. Spoken to my Dad on the phone. Brought in a parcel. Brought down the laundry hamper - not done anything with it like, just brought it down. I can't believe that it's after 3 pm - too late to start anything now....yawn. All that adrenaline washing about yesterday has left me washed out today. 

I know - I'll grab a drink and read the thread - good idea.

Rxx

pigpen

looks like we have a major issue with the newest ipad.. I don't want to replace 3.. it is bad enough looking at having to replace the 2 which aren't running at all. I've spent 2 hours trying to get it fixed and it is not working.